Dear Anjali Aunty
When I was dating my wife (before marriage), she cheated on me once. I suspected and eventually she confessed. I accepted her apology.
On another occasion, when I was out of town for 3 months, she had an affair with another guy. I had no clue about it then. When she got pregnant, we decided that we are not ready for the kid and got an abortion. The doctor who performed MTP casually informed me the duration of pregnancy from the size of the fetus. I back calculated the dates and knew that it was not my baby. I confronted her again and she confessed. I was devastated and seriously thought of dumping her then. But my love for her was so deep that I eventually married her.
After two years of marriage, I asked her tell me all the details of her earlier affairs. She told me all about how all those started, how many times she made love with her lovers, how did they perform etc. etc.
Now my problem is, every time I recall her affairs, I get sexually aroused. When I am making love to her, I sometimes recall her stories and imagine I am one of her lovers making love to her.
My question, is this normal to be aroused and think myself as someone else when making love to my wife? Should I do anything to change myself if this is not normal?
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