I am man of 38 years and I have been married for more than 11 years. We have an excellent sex in all these years. My issue is, my wife is coming too fast. I want her to enjoy bit more and me too. Can you guide me?

Thanks a lot.

I am a 26 year old guy. I had sex with a girl 2 months before and that is the first time in my life. I did foreplay for more than an hour and after that I had sex with her. I took nearly 30 minutes to come out. Is it normal? Before this incident, I used to masturbate regularly 3 or 4 times in a week and my semen will come out in 5 or 10 minutes but it did not happen when I was having sex with her. My rod was hard for 30 minutes.

I would like to do like again but I am confused that because of my masturbation habit, I take such a long time. Some of my friends tell me that they come out in 5 or 10 minutes.

Please suggest me the truth.

I am masturbating daily since the last 6 years. I had sexual contact 4 or 5 times with my girlfriend but after my breakup I didn't have sex for 1 and a half years. After that I had a chance to have sex with another girl but at that time I felt that my libido has decreased and the erection is very weak as well.

I thought that it might have happened because of the long time interval but its happening again and again. I am not married yet but that could be a problem in my future married life. Is it because I am masturbating everyday? Tell me how do I gain my power again?

I am a 25 year old guy. I have a question regarding something unusual which happened for 2 times. When I was trying to have intercourse with my girlfriend the last time, I started fucking her in quick session. I got discharged within 2 minutes. After sometime, when I tried to do it again, my penis did not get erect properly. There were weaker orgasms. This has happened 2 or 3 times. I had sex just 2 time before all this happened.

The second thing is that, I have a bad habit of masturbation. Do you think that it might be the reasons behind my weaker erections? Please guide me on what I should do? Give me a suitable suggestion for my problem. I am most tensed.

I am Soumen. I am 27 years old. I am 5' 5'' tall and weigh 46kg. I am in a big problem. My parents forcing me to marry. But I know I have problem with my penis. When it eject, it never get hard and I ejaculate within 30 to 40 seconds.

Please aunty help me. What can I do? If the problem is not solved, the only way for me is suicide because my parents are forcing me. Please aunty you are my only hope because I am too shy a person. Please help me.

I am a 25 year old virgin guy and I am unmarried. I got in the act of masturbation since age 15 and now I am going through erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation. I wanted to know if excess loss of sperms can affect one's stamina and cause body aches. These days I get tired soon and I don't feel like doing any work.

Please help me out on how to regain my stamina. Thank you.

This is Ravi here. I was just inquisitive with regard to a question that I am supposed to ask. I do watch a lot of porn movies. I have read somewhere that male porn stars use creams and sprays so that they can perform for a long period of time without ejaculating. So considering it as their normal day's work (i.e. acting in porn movies) do you feel that it will stress them out even though mostly people get excited about sex?

Secondly do you feel that male porn stars would be able to enjoy sex just like a normal man would? Considering that they would be using sprays or creams to perform longer.

Thirdly whenever a person knows he is going to have sex with a women he has never had sex with or for that matter have never seen her before in his life, and considering she looks very beautiful, do you feel the person will be able to control his ejaculation even though he may have used creams or sprays to control ejaculation.

I hope you would personally answer to my question. I also hope to hear the views of all the members especially the ones with most AskAnjali Dollars. I hope that my question would be posted on the site.

Thanks

I am a guy due to be married in 3 weeks. Everything was ok with me till 1 week ago. I had a problem in my stomach and since then I am having premature ejaculations whenever I try to masturbate. My penis doesn't raise fully but on other hand while I don't masturbate, my penis raises full up (while sleeping or whenever I think some of sex).

I am unable to understand why I am having premature ejaculations. As I was ok before, is it because of the stomach problem? Please help me as I have to be fit before my wedding.

I am 40 years old and nowadays my erection is very little. I feel my penis is not becoming as stiff as it used to be. What do I do? Is there any medicine for this without side effects. Also I am having pre mature ejaculation.

Please advice.

I quite often watch your site and got knowledge from it. I think it is very useful for me. My question is related to early discharge. I am 27 years old and married for a year now. I have a very nice and co-operative wife who helps me a lot while sex not like other shy girls but my problem is after penetration – just after 5 or 8 strokes, I discharge and I feel very guilty by that. Though my wife have never complained for that, I am quite worried for this problem as I also want to satisfy her.

To avoid this to some extent, a few days before I have tried to masturbate before having sex though it didn't work up to my expectation but it did increase my timing up to 10 to 13 stroke.

Madam is there any way I can increase my timing for discharging? Or is there any pills available in the market which are safe (side effect wise) and effective at the same time? Please give me some solution. I will be thankful to you for lifetime.

Regards.

I am Santosh Agarwal, age 24. Whenever I masturbate, I release within a minute, but most of my friends tell me they release after 2 minutes. It seems there is a problem?

Can you suggest me some tips for holding at least for 2 minutes. I am waiting for your reply! Regards Santosh.

I am a 29 year old un-married man. And have been continuously masturbating since I started a decade ago. For the last couple of years, erection has been low and going lower day by day. I have started taking a pill called "Vigrx plus" after being recommended by a close friend. The medicine does work a bit, but I am not fully satisfied with it.

My first question is whether it is safe to consume this medicine. I have tried it for 2 weeks. It improved erection slightly but makes me feel dizzy and also I have little strange feeling in my ear. On the other hand, I have a strange white sort of rash-like-thing at the circumference of the top part of my penile area. These are group of small and whitish in colour. It does not hurt nor itch. But I feel it made the area little bit more sensitive than usual which it causes me to come quicker.

Please suggest what to do. I am anxiously waiting for your reply. I shall always remain thankful for you help.

Thanking you.

Yours Sincerely.

W. Ali

I am a great fan of yours. My age is 22. I am single. My marriage is being fixed shortly. I have a big problem.

1) I joined ZYM Gym at the age of 17. My gym instructor, my friends keep telling me if I would not wear a supporter, then water will be filled in my testicles and they will be in hanging position soon and believe me the same just happened to me. I think due to this (my testicals are hanging), I am not being able to hold my ejaculation for even 2 minutes.

Please give an answer to me and clear my doubt. Its very urgent maam. I hope you will understand my feelings.

2) I started masturbating at the age of 12. Now I have a very small 4.5 inch penis with 1 minute ejaculation time.

Please help me to improve this thing as my marriage is soon.

How are you? Hope you are fine. I am a regular visitor of your site and I would like to take the oppurtunity to thank you for your wonderful deeds.

Anjali Aunty, My name is Nayan Bora. I am from Assam. My age is 27 years. Recently I got married with just an 18 year old girl. During several attempts of intercourse with her, I am unable to penetrate her. I come as soon as I put my penis into her pussy. I don't know what to do. She is not happy with me at all. Even I feel embarrassed. It has been three months of our marriage.

So please Anjali Aunty, guide on me how to penetrate my wife.

I am 24 year old male from TamilNadu. I married recently and I have a problem of comming too soon while I have sex with my wife. Please let me know how I could avoid this. I do satisfy my wife by having some foreplay and licking her vagina. Is oral sex injurious to health. Please help

I must say you are doing great job by resolving sexual queries of this world. As in India, its really hard to seriously discuss anything related to sex even with one's best buddy.

I am a 24 year old guy and have a girlfriend of age 22. We both are enjoying our sex lives since the last 1 year. We used to get chance once in a month or two to enjoy it. I have a question regarding something unusual that happened last week. Me & my girlfriend started fucking within 10 minutes after meeting with each other. This quick session is new to us as we always enjoyed at least 3 or 4 hours love making before fucking.

I want to understand one thing out here that this time when I first started fucking, I got discharged in usual 2 or 3 minutes but this time my penis doesn't loosen up as usual. So I cleaned it up and had sex with my girlfriend again. In the next 3 or 4 minutes, I got discharged again but still to my surprise my penis was not ready to get loosen up. So again I cleaned it up & started having sex with my girlfriend  . This time, I fucked her for around 15 to 20 minutes without discharge, so finally we decided to stop it.

I am always amazed on how someone can fuck for a longer duration as I was not able to achieve it in the last one year but this time, this is something unique that has happened with us.

What do you think may be the reason behind it & how can I achieve this again?

This is Kumar 22 from Chennai. I’m going to get married with my girlfriend within three years from now. Last month we had sex. At that time I got ejaculated before entering into the vagina. I use to have habit of masturbation which I stopped a year back. I am very much worried about what happened and I am afraid whether this problem will affect my sex life in future. I don’t know what’s the problem I am suffering with. Please help me to overcome this problem.

Please Reply.

I am 44 years old and a diabetic since the last 10 years. I am on insulin with no control on sugar. My wife is only 35 years old. Although I have a strong urge for sex but every time I want to have sex, I do not get any erection. If I want to masturbate then I have a bit of erection. If I ask my wife to stimulate me by masturbation before sex then I do not last even half a minute in her.

I have tried the doctor's suggested sex medicines also but they are not of much use. Please suggest the way out.

I am 26 year old single male. The problem with me is that I ejaculate in just 2 or 3 strokes. I concentrate on foreplays before having sex but still when I have physical intimacy, I just can't last long. Sometimes, I ejaculate immediately when I hug my girlfriend.

Could you please suggest me a remedy because my girlfriend has to adjust a lot. I want to satisfy her and I don't want to hurt her feelings.

Regards.

I am a 28 year old male and married. I come faster when I wear a condom. If I don't use a condom, I stay longer. The condom fits tightly onto my penis and the ring sits tightly just an inch before the base of the penis.

Should I use a larger condom? Please advise.

I am a 29 year old man. I am a first timer here.

Well I have some confusion regarding doing sex. I still don't have much experience in sex. Well I want to know how I can increase the time while doing sex. How can I stretch it for long hours? I have one problem – though I am not involved in sex much, but I still feel I very ejaculate very soon. So how do I stop this thing?

Please help me aunty.

I am a 25 year old married man. I have been enjoying a good sex life till now. I have been researching about different delay sprays and "Long Last Condoms" I have learnt that these condoms contain a chemical called "Benzocaine" which is a local anesthetic. I wanted to ask you how safe is it to use these condoms on regular basis? I have premature ejaculation problem, as many have and I am practicing the Kegel Exercises etc.

But I wanted to try out these type of condoms too, and see if it works. Is it safe to use such condoms? Does it have any problem in the long run? Please suggest.

Thanks, Rajnikanth

It will be my pleasure if you could help me in my problem of quick fall. I am married since the last 2 years but I feel that I am being unable to satisfy my wife’s sex need because of my quick fall. It hardly works for about 2 minutes. Secondly tell me if there is some exercise to increase my time of fall as well as the leangth of my cock.

I will be pleased & thankful to you aunty.

I am a 23 year old guy with a pleasant nature and a good amount of social life. I have a problem or I think its a prob. My penis length when flaccid is around 3.5 inches and 2 inches thick and when erect its around 5.8 inches and 4 inches thick.

The problem is when I masturbate I can go on for a long time; half an hour or more is a common thing but when it comes to a girl or lady with real sex, I tend to ejaculate within 5 to 7 minutes. I am not so happy with it. To me a good 20 or so minutes changing positions to enjoy more is the acceptable time but then I don’t know if i am misinformed. But if I am wrong, can I be advised properly and if I can resolve my problem.

I am not putting any stories here. If anyone has got genuine replies, please do respond!

I am 28 years old and have been doing sex for more than 10 years. Whenever I have sex and fuck someone, I can’t fuck like more than 20 seconds. I come out. I want to fuck for a longer time of at least 2 minutes duration.

What should I do? Please advice?

I am a male of 23 years. I masturbate 4 to 6 times per month. My problem is, after my cock is being erect, I partially ejaculate 5 minutes later but my complete ejaculation comes after 3 minutes afterwards. From what I mentioned before, is this a problem to my health? I ejaculate quickly by watching hardcore movies, that is in just in 5 minutes.

Do I need to take any medical treatment or exercise for making my body fit?

I am from Mumbai. I am a 21 year old male. I have a girlfriend and we love each other truly. We have sex sometimes. At first we used to use condoms but later I stopped using it and I have been seeing that I don’t last longer when I am not using condoms. When I had been using condom, I could do it till somewhere around 45 minutes but without condoms, I last only till 10 minutes. I get frustrated and my girlfriend tells me that I am losing stamina because I masturbate daily.

Please help me. Thanks in advance.

I am a 26 year old male & I have been masturbate for a long time. I also have sex with my girlfriends but for the last few months, I am facing a problem. When I try to insert my penis inside the pussy, after only 10 or 15 strokes or I can say after 30 seconds, I feel like I am about to come.

I cannot have intercourse for more time. Please do advice me how to get ride of coming so soon?

Thanks.
Vikvic

My elder sister got married 8 months ago. I am like the best friend to my Didi. She is not happy in her marriage.

Yesterday she told me that her sex life with my jiju is not good. He ejaculates very soon before didi gets orgasm. Also she said that her sexual desires are more and jiju does not give them importance.

What should I suggest her and how do I handle this delicate situation?

Hi Anjali Aunty,

I am married for 1 month and I have been masturbating since childhood. I never had sex with a girl or boy. It was the first time I did it with my wife.

My problem is early ejaculation. On the second time, my penis was not so hard and thats why I am not enjoying sex.

Please advise me.

I am seriously looking for an answer. I am now 37. Though I am handsome, for some reason I could not get a life partner yet (I am unmarried). I have habit of masturbation since from my age of 18. I used to enjoy a lot that time.

Now I do it twice a week. But over a period, my penis size has come down when I am excited and also I ejaculate very fast. After ejaculation, now a days I feel very low and tired the whole day. I am very much worried that once I marry, I won’t be able to satisfy my partner?.

Please suggest honestly.

Thanks a lot

I am wondering about one issue.  There are so many questions and answers I have seen asking about pre-mature ejaculation and how to increase the duration, but still I couldn’t get the actual “reason” for pre-mature ejaculation and the “remedy” for pre-mature ejaculation.

Can you please provide both the reason and remedy of pr-mature ejaculation, so that many readers of your blog around the world would be benefited?  As this is the most FAQ, requesting your reply in person, please.  Being a new reader of your blog, I have a bit extra expectation from you.

Please reply for all.

While having sex with my wife, I am coming out very fast. I feel very guilty that I am deceiving my wife.

Kindly advice me whether there are any medicine to overcome this problem and it should not affect my body?

I am Ssreeman and I am of 21 years.

I have a great doubt. I am having two girlfriends and I am having sex with both of them. The problem is that I am not coming while I am doing sex with one girl usually and while with the other girl I am coming much faster.

Whats is the reason behind this? I want to satisfy both the girls. So please help me by giving reply to this?
Thanks.

As we are (at least I’m) not porn stars, can anyone tell me any good and desi idea on how to control your orgasm? I mean taking multiple orgasms is just like a fantasy but you’ve to do a lot of practice for that to take full effect. My problem is that after I get discharge during intercourse, I don’t even like to see the face of the girl for atleast 8 to 10 hours. But I’ve seen my friends doing intercourse for 3 to 4 times at one sex period.

Let me tell you that I masturbates once a week, is this the problem with me?

Please reply.

Previously I was able to have sex with my girlfriend 3-4 times a day after regular intervals but nowI have become weak and I ejaculate within 2 to 4 hits… and cannot seem to have sex more than once in 2 days… this is resulting in  unsatisfied girlfriend.

Please help me.

Snehasis Sarkar

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I am a 36 years old man and very much interested in sex with lot of sexual desires.  I want to have more sex with my partner but I have a problem of ejaculating soon in just 1min.  My penis size is 6.5 inches.  Due to this problem my partner is now attracted to other person for her sexual desires and satisfaction.  Please help me to increase my ejaculation time and do sex for long time and restore my sexual relationship with my partner.

I have a problem.

I am 22 years old. For the last 2 years I am masturbating. When I masturbate, I want to come very fast because I masturbate in my house hiding from everybody. But now I have started my sex life & I can stay on her for hardly 1 or 2 minute.
I think this is a great problem for me. Please help me.

What can I do now?

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I am a 22 year old boy. I used “Time Delay Spray” the first time with my girlfriend but after spraying I inserted my dick in her and ejaculate within 2 minutes.
Should I wait after spraying?

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