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How can I satisfy my wife who has very loose vagina?

asked Feb 7, 2014 in Questions by Sbasu (140 points)
edited Feb 7, 2014 by longhands1

How can I satisfy my wife who has very lose pussy? She is very chubby and big. Her figure is 40-34-42 and I am very slim with 3 inchi dick. She wants more but I cant help her.

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Dear Sbasu,
In your question, it is very doubtful that what is the basic problem between you both and satisfaction as chubby figure of woman and short dick of man or slimness of man, is not such of problem which can come in the way. Even than, I advise you to increase the time of foreplay. Make undressing delayed and play with her body with the clothes as long as possible. It will not only give pleasure, but also give her more satisfaction. Make penetration delayed so that so called loose pussy and small dick shall not become problem. Believe me there are many ways of sex which also give pleasure like basic penetration, only thing you need is will power and enjoyment of healthy sex.
answered Feb 7, 2014 by ricks25 (430 points)
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Dear Sbasu,
I understand your problem. Make more love for your wife to satisfy her. You can finger her pussy befor sex. You can use dildos ore vegitables. Lick her pussy first then insert dildos after that insert your dick anb be so wild. I think your wife loves wildness, ask her first and then do these I said. And for your satisfaction you can fuck her ass with her permission.
answered Feb 7, 2014 by Soumikdas319 (110 points)
commented Feb 7, 2014 by Sbasu (140 points)
Yess, there are good ideas, yess my wife will give me permission for these. Thank you Soumik for you advices. I am satisfied with your answer. I'll try all these.
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Lose pussy can be due to extra lubrication. Wipe the extra lubrication. Use honey to reduce lubrication. If pussy is too lose then you can contact a good surgeon who can stitch and make it smaller.
answered Feb 7, 2014 by shanti200462 (2,060 points)
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You had asked in your previous question, whether it would be right for you to get a man to satisfy your wife (at least once) as you feel you are not able to satisfy her.

We are glad to note that you now want to satisfy your wife yourself. Good idea. Has your wife recently given birth to a baby? That is one reason why the vagina can get loose. Other than this it is just myth that the vagina gets loose by inserting objects, having too much sex, masturbation etc.

How do you know that the vagina is loose? Just because your penis is small in girth does not mean that her vagin is loose. It is also possible that your wife gets extra lubricated during sex and this causes less friction, making you feel that her vagina is loose.

You can ask your wife to do the Kegel exercises. (Check for this on our Site). Try to find a sex position that will give her a better grip on your penis. Surgery is available to tighten the vagina, if it is such a big issue with you.

answered Feb 7, 2014 by longhands1 (84,355 points)
commented Feb 7, 2014 by Sbasu (140 points)
Actually I had 2/3 affairs before marriege, so I've seen normal and tight pussy. So I understand that my wife's pussy is so loose. No we have no child.
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Please concentrate more on non-penetrative sex so she is adequately aroused, before humping her. You could stimulate her g spot. You could even insert a dildo, or anything that resembles one. If you have read kamasutra, you will understand she is elephant woman. Fuck her very hard because that is what they like.
If it is about your own satisfaction, either indulge in bj, or anal sex.
answered Feb 7, 2014 by gigs4r (1,435 points)
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One could infer from what ever little info you have provided,that you are unable to satisfy her appetite for a hard fuck with longer duration. Think ,she needs more of fucking,apart from foreplay.
By virtue of experience,a man should be able to judge the time taken by his mate for achieving an orgasm.
Indulge in foreplay, finger fuck for a while, lick the pussy well and when she is fully aroused ask her to ram you from top. By means of this woman on top position, you will not be exerting and she can also control the rhythm ,speed and get the penetration required. Your ejaculation can be prolonged.
A 3" erect cock is all the more sufficient for a reasonable penetration as long as it maintains it's hardness and withstands a penetrating time of about 10 mins.
answered Feb 7, 2014 by Kamalkannan (1,280 points)
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It is great that you are seeking advice. If she is chubby or has a bit over weight than your penis would not able to give her satisfaction so you need to do something more to her like use sex toys or dildo as at this age sex toys add spice in your sex life. You may bring her to orgasm by fingering and oral sex but sex toys are advisable. If your wife has given to birth recently than her vagina might be loose but that is temporary and it would gain its tightness again after sometime.

Small penis is men's obsession so it is your perception that she has a loose vagina actually she does not have. Did she tell you that she is not get satisfy with your small penis? Woman satisfaction does not depend on size of penis it would depends on your affection for her and your love. You may ask her to do kegel exercise as that would make her muscles tighten but would only shows its result if done regularly. For detail, you may type kegel in search box of this site.

You are not alone in this type of situation so many guys are going through this situation but do not admit. You need to do communication with her regarding your worry. If you both want to resolve your problem than you may do it, as that is not impossible, joints effort will help you.

Tell her firmly that her vagina is too loose and you are not get satisfied with her or neither able to give satisfaction to her but in healthy mood not in blaming way.

You have two options go to either for Kegel exercise or operation, for operation, you may consult urologist.
answered Feb 7, 2014 by alpesh kapdi (27,390 points)
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How does you  know that your wife vagina is  loose? It is well possible that your penis is smaller in girth and so you are not able to feel. No women wants to hear that her vagina is really loose. It would be the same thing as telling a guy his penis is really small. You are thinking regarding size of your wife is fat or big, no matter. Vagina size is not depend her body fat or thin. Even loose of vagina is very common in women, and there can be many different reasons for this. Loose of vagina  can be very easily affected by stress and anxiety, as well as general illnesses and hormonally related issues and not accuse you of using sex toys or having an affair.  The weakening of the muscles that the vagina uses to form around what is inside of it, and through the stretching of the tissue of the vagina itself, a woman can become "too loose".

    As when women become sexually aroused, vaginal muscle tissue relaxes somewhat. Biologically, this makes perfect sense. A tight vagina would impede intercourse and reproduction, so women evolved to have sexual arousal relax the vaginal muscles, allowing easier insertion of erections. Vaginal interior changes from resembling a tight fist to a fist loose enough to insert a finger or two. If the vagina feels "too tight" during lovemaking, the woman is either (a) not interested in sex, or (b) she has not had enough warm-up time to allow her vaginal musculature to relax enough for comfortable insertion.
When you attempt intercourse before your wife  is fully aroused–before her vagina has relaxed and become well lubricated–is either sexually unsophisticated or a boor. Most women require at least 30 minutes of sensuality—kissing, hugging, and mutual massage for their vaginas to relax enough to allow the penis to slide in comfortably. That's why leisurely, playful, whole-body lovemaking is so important.
answered Feb 7, 2014 by Neha2 (675 points)
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You cannot satisfy...Physical problem can be solved but not mental problem...You have set your mind and our answers cannot change!!!!
answered Feb 8, 2014 by unusualchat (290 points)
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I read your earlier question on you want to make her happy with some other guy. The vital statistics you have given, you need to hire a guy, there wont be a guy going for a free one. 

You said she is chubby and you are thin. Thats not too unusual. After certan age a lot of wives gain weight when the man is still fit. That doesnot make them frustrated with the wife, because love comes from two persons heart, not the figure size. I know a couple who were school friends and later got married, havign a great family life. They look like a Laurel and Hardy. Its not the body or the sex that matters, its the comfortness one gets in other's presence that makes a great marriage work.

Your 3 inch, there is not much to do, you cant increase that. But if you think of tighten her vagina, there is a procedure, called vaginoplasty. If you consider sex is that important, can go for that. Again, she wants you to have sex more, this s a clear indication that you are not doing the right thing, nor doing the things right.  She has a requirement or getting an orgasm, if you cant meet that with penetrative sex, go for oral sex and make sure she reasch there.

What my feeling is, you should take a look at Kamasutra, it has goven some idea on the issue. You are having a "hare" dick and she is having an "elephant" vagina. This always constitute an unequal union.  For that you should go for some option which works okay. My suggestion will be change the position, follow the one which are okay for both as well as you get some snugness. A common one will be, go for missionary position, once you are in, get her legs inside and cross them, let your legs on outer sides. You will get a better grip.

Like someone suggested, I dont think analsex is the solution, that will be a short term issue. You should go for a longterm solution with comfortable positions.  Anyway, if love falls short, a good dick with a tight vagina cannot give pleasure, if the love between two are there, size of dick and loose vagina doesnot matter. You need to work on the emotional bonding part more.

answered Feb 8, 2014 by oye (25,670 points)
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Dear Sbasu,

 Your wife's vagina might be loose dur to extra lubrication. When you spend quality time with her having foreplay then you should wipe her vagina to reduce lubrication somewhat just before the penetration. Yiu can go fir Anal sex, dildos or something else which she can takr inside her, after that insert you tool inside her and enjoy the game. If you thinks she is having bit loose vagina then ask her to go for Kegal exercise.
answered Feb 8, 2014 by Manoj4u (6,185 points)
commented Sep 4, 2014 by Alex1978 (100 points)
Hi Sbasu
Maybe have a different perspective on this issue. Like your wife I have a very loose vagina but my husband and I have never seen this as a negative.The best thing to do is be open and talk. I now have a selection of large toys that I use when I need something more and sometimes my husband uses a dildo and his penis at the same time. There ae lots of ways to satisfy her!
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myotaut serum is amazing. This worked for my wife in first time. and It just works better as time goes on. My wife uses it about once a day and every time we have sex now its incredible. So tight and so much more sensual than it was before. she loves it and, of course, so do i!
answered Aug 27, 2015 by DianneRentz (105 points)

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