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I am on a wheelchair and want to massage a girl.

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asked Jan 18, 2014 in Questions by samsmth57 (120 points)
edited Jan 20, 2014 by longhands1
I am on wheelchair and cant have sex but still want to massage the intimate areas of a busty shaved girl (pussy, breasts and hips). The problem is that I dont know whom to approach and how. I would have loved to marry a girl and then massage her daily but the issue is with my current situation. I cant offer a normal girl sexual pleasure and give her kids nor much support as I myself need support sometimes even though I am quite independent and earning on my own. I have even gone abroad and have fulfilled my fantasy by massaging a prostitute there but it was too costly (4 lacs for 1 massage during UK visit). I want to ask if you can guide me if I can get my fantasy fulfilled in India without spending so much on a UK visit and on a consistent basis?

Sometimes I fantasise of marrying a girl who is imperfect in someway ( like a prostitute, a poor girl without any support or any other imperfection) so I can get to massage her and she can be a support (like a friend) in need as well but again as I am on wheelchair I dont see a healthy girl marrying me.

Other times I fantasise of becoming a massage expert offering intimate massages to girls as I can offer them sex free massage which is quite rare as in India college girls, models, business women have needs to get intimate massage but dont trust any guy as they might do more than massage but dont know how to fulfill that fantasy as well even though I can be a perfect gentleman in just limiting myself to massaging as I cant do anything more due to my lack of sexual powers.

I have seen many advertisements for escorts in india and have mailed them my fantasy of massaging them without sex but none have replied back even though I offered to meet their charges as well so if an escort who normally agrees to do anything for money is not willing to get massaged by me then how can I get anyone else to be massaged by me is someting beyond my thinking and I would appreciate any solution from you.



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The best solution is marriage but you cannot give sexual pleasure so you have to choose your wife who does not need sexual pleasure. You can select a widow or divorce of age 45 and above. Such woman's may not need sex but may give you company and you can satisfy your massage fantasy. You need to talk with the woman everything before marriage. If you have good income and property, marriage is not a problem. If you use matrimonial sites on the internet you will be able to find a life partner.
answered Jan 21, 2014 by shanti200462 (2,060 points)
commented Jan 22, 2014 by samsmth57 (120 points)
The problem with marrying are the 2 doubts I have
 1)Since I am on wheelchair and right now live with my family but if after marriage I moved to another house(due to space constraints) and what if the girl just ran after robbing/killing me for my money or even if still married refused to provide me massaging and start having an affair saying I cant satsfy her, asked for divorce on grounds of no sex and end up with half of my money. I know that all these are risks which are too far fetched but since I cant defend myself/assert myself because of my shortcomings so I have these doubts at back of my mind. I dont want to imply this would happen but just have this doubt as someone might marry me for the money and then ran away and I would be worse off.
 2) the second doubt is my own high expectations. when I say, I want to massage someone, it doesnt mean any woman/girl. I am too particular like big natural breasts, shaved vagina, very fair girl, preferabley young. you might consider me vain and think that in my present situation I should be happy with whatever I can get( like 45 year old divorsee) but I dont want emotional support, company or care as much as I am happy alone with my games, tv etc and I am also quite independent though living with my family. On the contrary, after marriage I would have to compromise also as I have to live with a stranger in a new home away from my family as I dont see me living with my family after marriage considering the logistics. I cant expect my family to support 2 people instead of 1 now. so considering the risks, changes associated with marriage and uncertainty of whether I could get my dream girl I am in quandary.
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You made a complicated question. You cant have sex in any from from your end, but you want to massage only. No finger fuck or no oral sex, just massage? 

When you send these type of request to an escort, I would say its too good to believe, and thats why none will fall for this. They will assume some sick pervert has some other plan in mind. Not getting respponse, I am not surprised. 

You went to UK to get the service, as far as I know, people from UK dont get this service in UK, they go to Netherlands to get this service and there are plenty of specialized center for men in wheel chair or with some other bigger problems too. Anyway, I dont see why you should spend so much to get some pleasure, rather you have few other options to try out. 

First would be find some Asexual who really dont like sex. Easy target would be if you see some young girls got divorced at early age, they are either suffering from asexual state or having a vaginismus. They would love you rmassage. 

Second option remains as young widows who couldnot get remarried. 

Third would be marry some needy girl who is from a poor family. They would bear your state as well as take care of you well. 

I have no other option in mind, as you like girls parts, that why not including a dourth option of getting a male friend who would love some sucking. 

I will tell a story which I mentioned before. In my neighborhood there was aman with a Govt job, he was going to marry a college teacher. 7 days before marriage when he was on shopping, he had an accident and lost both his legs. Once back from hospital, and everyone thought the marriage is off, the girl said she wants to marry him  Against all odds and objection she married him, because he needs someone to take care of him more that anytime. Its 30+ years running, they are having a perfect marriage till now. He is still in wheel chair, but we love to see the couple and envy the love they have.  

Its upto the girl how much she is going to go to make a marriage work, marriage is not about a dick and pussy with plenty of orgasm, its about two people care for each other and wants to spend the old age together. 

Hope you will find someone like that, some day.

answered Jan 22, 2014 by oye (25,670 points)
commented Jan 22, 2014 by samsmth57 (120 points)
The problem with marrying are the 2 doubts I have
 1)Since I am on wheelchair and right now live with my family but if after marriage I moved to another house(due to space constraints) and what if the girl just ran after robbing/killing me for my money or even if still married refused to provide me massaging and start having an affair saying I cant satsfy her, asked for divorce on grounds of no sex and end up with half of my money. I know that all these are risks which are too far fetched but since I cant defend myself/assert myself because of my shortcomings so I have these doubts at back of my mind. I dont want to imply this would happen but just have this doubt as someone might marry me for the money and then ran away and I would be worse off.
 2) the second doubt is my own high expectations. when I say, I want to massage someone, it doesnt mean any woman/girl. I am too particular like big natural breasts, shaved vagina, very fair girl, preferabley young. you might consider me vain and think that in my present situation I should be happy with whatever I can get( like 45 year old divorsee) but I dont want emotional support, company or care as much as I am happy alone with my games, tv etc and I am also quite independent though living with my family. On the contrary, after marriage I would have to compromise also as I have to live with a stranger in a new home away from my family as I dont see me living with my family after marriage considering the logistics. I cant expect my family to support 2 people instead of 1 now. so considering the risks, changes associated with marriage and uncertainty of whether I could get my dream girl I am in quandary.
commented Jan 23, 2014 by oye (25,670 points)

There are lots of contradictory facts you have mentioned on your comments. I would refrain from replying those.

Stick to your earlier story, you have money and intention to spend, keep spending. No point getting into a relation where you have so many insecurities. 

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First of all let me tell you that what you desire is perfectly normal and natural. Every person disabled or able bodied has a right to fulfill his/her sexual fantasies with another consenting person. In western countries there are sex workers who specialize in offering services to disabled people. Even disabled women avail these services.

Do some research on internet about red light areas in city in which you live. Then visit the area yourself if you are confident enough to do all this on your own. You can also explain your needs to a close friend or even your parents or a family member. Ask them to arrange a sex worker at home or take you to a red light area. Come on there nothing to be shy about this. In western countries parents of disabled people arrange sex workers for them.

Many people think that the only aim of visiting a sex worker is to have sex with him /her. In fact there are n number of pleasurable activities which you both can do. Your desire to massage her is certainly one of them. 99% of the time she would agree to this. If not you can offer her more money to persuade her. But never force her. Also the activity which you described is very safe in terms of not getting STD. If you can mention the name of your city, I may be able to help you further.
answered May 4, 2014 by magfrt (410 points)

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