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I am a male and a virgin. Is there any problem with that? [closed]

asked Nov 22, 2013 in Questions by yash delhi (140 points)
closed Nov 27, 2013 by longhands1
I am 21 years, male from Delhi. I wanted to know if there is any problem in being a virgin for that age . These days I lose my temper quickly. Is this the reason that I am getting angry soon?
closed with the note: Closed as no comments received from Yash.
commented Nov 22, 2013 by Maverick107 (130 points)
I don't think that there is any problem... I am a 23 year old virgin and not at all short tempered...
commented Nov 25, 2013 by longhands1 (83,805 points)


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You have to do lot of introspection to find out reasons behind your anger. Heredity, feelings of frustration, current life situation, stress etc are some of them. If you find any reason then try to correct it. There is a condition called impulse control disorder in which you get aggressive outbursts without reasons. Which can be treats with medicines?

There is no define age to lose the virginity and there is no connection between your virginity and your losing temper or being a short temper. Short temper is sign of weakness, there must be some underlying issues with you, which is resulted in your short temper.

We need more details about you like, what are your doing. What is your expectation from the life? Where do you live? Your professions backgrounds as well your family background. Mostly some emotional reason behind your lose temper and we need to identify the that reason before jump to any conclusion.
answered Nov 22, 2013 by alpesh kapdi (26,030 points)
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There are many reasons for become angry quickly. As far as sex is concerned if you masturbate and the ejaculation is not complete or don't get proper satisfaction in masturbation then also you become short tempered. You dream of getting girls, love etc and you don't get then also you can become angry. You can remain virgin as long as you do not marry. There is no problem. Short temper is also related to lack of rest or relaxation, lack of love in life, blood deficiency etc.
answered Nov 22, 2013 by shanti200462 (2,060 points)
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There definitely is no connection between being a virgin and your temper tantrums. Does your being a virgin mean that you do not have any female friends. I understand how you feel. Are you upset when your male friends boast about the number of women they have taken to bed? Do you get upset, when they tell you that your girlfriend is your hand?

There is no shame in being a virgin. But let it not affect your confidence. Confidence comes with experience and experience brings confidence. But you can still be confident without the experience. Remember marriage and sex has its own charm and having sex after marriage does not make you a lesser person.

I agree Society is judgemental about sexuality and a man who has not experienced sex or a woman who has experienced a lot of sex, are sometimes made fun of. Your anger could be due to many reasons. Are you frustrated about relationships? about your career? about your health?

Do not let others dictate how you should lead your life.

answered Nov 22, 2013 by longhands1 (83,805 points)
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In what way would you define ‘problem’ because I have seen men aged 30, 40 who are still virgins, so I’m little lost as to what you meant by mentioning problem.

We cannot ascertain if the reason for your anger is your virginity but often one becomes angry when he/she is too desperate for something and that thing eludes him/her. So if you are thinking about sex 24/7, I guess this is the reason for your short temper, but I guess you need some self-control because you cannot keep letting your mind control your feelings.

At 21, you ought to think and decide about your career rather than thinking about sex, so try to concentrate on your career rather than fucking a girl. I’m 22 and virgin, and sometimes I lose my temper, but that is when certain things don’t go well in my career. So try to give weightage to things that matter the most in life.

answered Nov 22, 2013 by Invincible (12,550 points)
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You are 21 years and a virgin, why do you think its a problem, what is wrong with that? Thats perfectly okay. If you have a concern that some of your friends are getting laid but you are missing the train, you are not. You are honest with your body, mind, soul and you chose the way others should follow you. Keep yourself safe as long as you can, that is only good for you.

Losing temper is not related to not having sex, its more of a brain work along with your traits and stress. If you think its for not getting laid, then next time you feel that way, go and have a handjob. Only one of my friend was successful on this, everytime he would lose teper, would have a handjob. Be it in home or office or restaurant, he will go to the rest room and relieve himself.

Physically and psychologically speaking, there is no corelation, except if your friends are getting laid and taunts you for being a virgin, that may affect you indirectly as a loser. Trust me you are no loser, you are an honest person with body and heart. 

answered Nov 23, 2013 by oye (25,670 points)

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