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My mom is having sex with her devar, should I talk to her? [closed]

asked Jul 11, 2013 in Questions by obedientboy (120 points)
closed Jul 25, 2013 by Invincible
Hello Anjali aunty,

My mother is having sex with my father's younger brother regularly since 4 years. I came to know about this a few months back, when I saw one of her prescriptions, which prescribed contraception.

Whenever her devar is due to come, she goes and buys those contraceptives and starts having them. Many times they have sex when I take bath, and she sends me out to the market so that they can have sex. I have heard them few time having phone sex also.

But I feel that he is just using my mother for sex and those contraceptive pills are harming her body. She has hyperacidity, migraine and excessive hair fall.

What should i do now? Should I advise her?
closed with the note: Old enough to close, doesn't need new answers.
commented Jul 11, 2013 by chandra1980 (125 points)
moved Jul 11, 2013 by Invincible
Obedientboy ...u have not mentioned whether u r father is live r answer u r question deeply..

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Obedientboy,As the name you have opted to choose 'try to remain an obedient BOY 'and do not interfear in the activities of your mom ! If both being adults and having sex upon mutual agreement/ concent then let them enjoy their lives and you enjoy yours! We know how painful it could be for one to see his/her mom fucking around but neverthless respect their privecy and limited right to choose to quinch their carnel desires! It might have happened due to ignorace shown towards her from your father both emotional as well as physical! As for any married woman to indulge physically with any male in close relation could prove disasterous! 

                        Though if you want them to stop try to do it softly by making her aware that you know of their activities and your dislike of it ! But be subtle do not be aggressive ! Also do not threaten them ! Having sexual relation within family both have its benefits as well as shortcomings too! First benefit being they do not have to go outside to have sex and could remain in closed home without giving doubt to anyone ! But this in turn could leave her/his legel partner in the state of devastation if it comes to her/his knowlage about what has been happenning behind his/her back and if it turns into the psychological attachment it could trully ruin many lives! But in my opinion it is none of your business as concenting adults they are doing it ! If it ever becomes forceful after your try of enlightnmenting your mom then you could step in and tell that UNCLE of yours to remain away from your mom.Until then do not interfear and do give her a chance to come out of this mess Ask her what would be the condition of your father if he ever comes to know what a **** he have as a wife! If she have at least some love left for your dad certainly she will keep away from that guy in future! 

answered Jul 11, 2013 by prashant69 (7,010 points)
edited Jul 11, 2013 by prashant69
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Obedient boy, it feels bad when you came to know that your mum is having sexual affair, but i think you should keep it secret because it affect's your mom dad's relation, sex is just for body pleasure mostly and i think your mom also Love's your Dad, don't get panicked, act wisely and calmly, Hoping there will Everything right Tomorrow.
answered Jul 11, 2013 by Manoj4u (6,180 points)
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This is a very delicate situation and must be handled with care.
answered Jul 12, 2013 by Humhainna21 (105 points)
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You are on a very sticky turf & need to paddle very carefully else you might just end up destroying your whole family. The best way is for you to drop a hint to your mom & uncle that you are smelling a rat, it should solve the problem if they are not too serious, irrespective of this if they continue then its better to leave them alone since being adults who are aware of all the consequences of such a relationship they have every right to live their life in their own way. The other option after giving a hint is to talk directly to your uncle & tell him you don't like him screwing around with your mom, else you'll expose them before the family. This should ideally solve your problem but i still think its better to leave them alone since being adults who are aware of all the consequences of such a relationship they have every right to live their life in their own way!!!!!!!
answered Jul 13, 2013 by Sudeep Mohan (3,125 points)
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Dear, my suggestion is once you caught them when they are doing sex. them you livable and notice their reaction and you need not to tell a single word, they will automatically tell you .. then you take your decision after knowing the whole circumstance.
answered Jul 13, 2013 by Rajeev kumar sharma (360 points)
reshown Jul 18, 2013 by longhands1
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There is not much you can do, other than bringing stress and unhappiness in the family. What would be your father's re-action if you told him, about your mother' s dalliance? Would he be willing to listen to you or will he take sides? You are also complaining about his brother.

Your speaking to your mother is not going to help. She will not pay nay attention to you and on the contrary you will distance yourself from her by your action. She will rightfully say that you have been snooping on her and impiging on her privacy.

You have your mother's welfare at heart, but remember that this affair is going on with her consent. She knows what she wants and while you may think it is not good for her health and heart (love), she may not agree. Since the affair is going on for such a long time, the possibility of it ending on your intervention seems remote. 

Get some elder who your father respects to have a word with him, if you are so stressed. My advice though is to turn a blind eye as long as you are not directly affected.

answered Jul 14, 2013 by longhands1 (78,360 points)
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Dear Obedient Boy,
According to your situation 3 possibilities are there:-
1. Let the things happens the way they are.
2.Tell your father and destroy all relations.
3. Live with the guilt that your mother is cheating on your father.

I see only one good solution which wont involve you to see your mother with other man in bed, to hurt your father and no relation destroyed except yours and mother.
leave her a letter mentioning all the things you know about this relationship, moments you heard them, you seen her prescriptions, moments she made you walk out so that they could be undisturbed and ask her to stop all this as you cant see your father be cheated....

Hope this should work!
All the best!!!
answered Jul 18, 2013 by foryourhelp (120 points)
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Hi i am also in same position . If your dad is alive  shift your home to unknow place . If he is not there . Be friendly with your mother some times lonelyness also make women to do such a things .
answered Jul 25, 2013 by Kalyani (165 points)

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