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Help Me- Unable to Penetrate after Marriage.

asked May 28, 2013 in Questions by Rogerthat (120 points)
edited May 28, 2013 by Invincible

I am a 29 year old male; I got married around 5 months back.

My problem is, I am unable to penetrate and have intercourse with my wife. Initially after our marriage we didn't have much physical intimacy for the first month or so. Later we both moved to a different country and so lost a couple more months without involving physically as we were busy setting up.

Now when I try to insert my penis into her Vagina, it just doesn't go in as her vagina is too small (less than my little finger); I just can't seem to penetrate. I tried involving in foreplay inserting my fingers but she feels pain (as it's somewhat dry even after foreplay) and so can't proceed. She is virgin, if that matters and never involved in masturbation.

Also I don't seem to get an erection immediately, I get it sometimes but not daily, however I am able to masturbate as such so don't think it's a big problem.

It's been 5 months since my marriage and I am under tremendous pressure both mentally and physically from my wife regarding this ( we just started trying a couple of months back).

Please suggest any options as I am really stuck here!! Also which position is better for first timers!

Please help me!

Thanks in advance

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For a 1st timer (both genders), mere foreplay doesn’t suffice, so you need to use an artificial lubricant to make the vaginal passage wet. When it comes to 1st times, there would be pain, blood, fear and what not; so you need to act sensibly and take the lead. You need not feel the pressure that you’re facing now, because pressure or tension kills erection. There can never be sexual gratification when you’re under pressure.

The term used to explain the same is performance anxiety, so have a cool mind. You enjoy a good erection and its just a matter of time for you to pop your wife’s cherry and devour her, so take a chill pill. For male or female the biggest and most important sex organ is the mind and not your genitals. Once you tune your respective minds this way, you would be able to enjoy sex with no hassles.

For any woman, her 1st time would send shivers down the spine imagining the pain, blood rather than wanting to get over sex; try to make love to your wife. A woman would not care for the size of your penis, your time or anything when you cuddle up with her and lay beside her. For starters, be passionate with her, exchange kisses, slowly undress each other and take time exploring each other’s bodies and if both of you are okay with oral sex, you may go for it as well.

Coming on, you need to assure her that you wouldn’t hurt her at any point and promise her that you would stop penetrating when she asks you to and ask her to relax herself completely. The vaginal muscles contract and expand so when she is tensed up the muscles would be contracted making it impossible for penetration. Use a lube; besides having gone down on her and make gentle pushes inside her, you would surely succeed.

As I said earlier, don’t just think about sex; make love to her. You can start this by merely initiating a romantic talk with her, turn her on, talk sex, no point in staying mum, communicate about your respective desires, you would have an understanding and it would make things easier for you.

As for the positions, the classic missionary is best, it gives you access to hug, look and kiss each other while making love. Besides there is spoon, woman-on-top (probably good for her) and ask her what she is comfortable with.

answered May 28, 2013 by Invincible (12,550 points)
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Don't worry! Have some prolonged foreplay including cunnilingus ( licking vagina) and try, exert some force. Sure, there will be pain. Don't measure pussyhole with finger thickness now. It will be tight, use ku cream to get rid of dryness. Some times hymen will be harder. Dont worry. Be patient, try and enjoy! Watch some porn movies to get excited!
answered May 28, 2013 by sharpcurve (815 points)
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Dear roger,

This is a very common problem with person doing sex for the first time and both are virgin and inexperienced.
As her vagina is tight you should use some lubricant and involve in lots of foreplay and after she become wet try to insert finger and after that if she is comfortable with your fingers you can insert penis.

Dont take any kind of tension about your sexual performance and also don't think how can you satisfy her just love her and slowly start sex you will perform very good.
answered May 30, 2013 by neeraj123 (1,560 points)
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True ,a girl's vagina will b too tight till such time the hymen is torn by piercing with ur hard cock.Looks as though u r not rock hard enough to tear the hymen ,which is just a thin membrane at the entrance.If necessary try to take some supplements in order to maintain rock hardness,lick the pussy ,kiss all the sensitive parts including the armpits to make her absolutely wet underneath.She ,initially needs a good arousal,so that she opens her legs to invite u inside.Insert in a slow manner inch by inch,start to n fro motion slowly,till she becomes comfortable n start pumping.A tight pussy makes a man mad as his cock is fully stuck between the pussy walls which give a good grip n makes the man harder n harder as he starts pumping.The first few fucks n the first 6 months in any one's sex life shud b awesome to b remembered for ever !
answered May 31, 2013 by Kamalkannan (1,280 points)

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