Your wife of 10yrs, whom you love and the mother of your child is in love with her friends husband and wants to have sex with him ‘at least once for him to know how much she loves him’ and you’re completely okay with this? Is she your wife or your friend or close associate or your sister? No matter how broad minded a guy is I can never in my wildest dreams come to terms with accepting a guy accepting his wife’s love for some other guy.
If your wife wished to have sex with him, it would be understandable owing to your constant absence and his manly presence around her and the attraction etcetera, but I seriously am confused as to your reaction and your acceptance of her love towards another guy. Women who engage in EMA’s/EMS come back to their husbands at the end of the day owing to some reason, say affection, care, or other reasons, but a woman expressing her love for another guy in front of her husband and the husband completely okay with it is disgusting.
A love less marriage is worse than a marriage with either partners cheating behind the spouses back. I suggest you talk to your wife about divorcing her, because you’ve failed in providing her what she yearns for, and loves. If at all you’re willing to change yourself, show her you can love her the way she wants you, remind her how awesome you can be if you really want to save your marriage. Earning money and looking to your family’s every demand might make you an ideal husband and father but for your marriage it is a constant struggle.
Since you said she loves you, talk to her as to what you’re willing to do for her to save your marriage. Tell her that she cannot stay content with you by having love for that guy. Let her know you’re ready to change for good and provide her the confidence that you can love her the way she deserves to be loved. Involving that poor guy will not just spoil your married life but also his happy married life with his perfect family. Let your wife know what she is doing with her eyes closed in love. Communicate with her as much as you can and don’t leave her alone. What good does money do to you with your family not getting the love they need from you?
Revive your marriage, remind her all the memories you’ve cherished with her all these years, tell her you’re ready to do it all over again. Get close to each other, have sex with intimacy, make love and for some time, get out of your hectic lives to rediscover your lost love.