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Unusual request of my devar(brother-in-law). [closed]

asked Oct 13, 2012 in Questions by priyanka shri (165 points)
closed Feb 6, 2014 by Invincible
My devar (24) and me (32) are good friends. My hubby loves me a lot and me too. My devar always makes me happy by complimenting on my beauty. Since last 1 year he was continuously requesting me to see my breasts, so  one day I felt serious and discussed with my bhabhi as to my future step and she replied its normal if you remains in the limitation to show only, and if he wants let him see and enjoy the moment.  Finally I have decide to do that and before doing so I have strictly told my devar to sit in front of me and don't try to touch my breasts and I made 2 cups coffee and have seated in front of each other and I removed my blouse then my bra, and showed him.  I was felling comfortable and we sat that way for around 1/2 hrs and he had not tried to touch me as promised. This proves his decency, it was a great moment for me, but then someone told me its wrong. Please let me know is it normal or not because one told me its normal and the other told not. I want answers from women who have devar(s) in specific.
closed with the note: Old enough to close, doesn't need new answers.
commented Oct 14, 2012 by Invincible (12,550 points)

Editor’s note:

People, I have accepted this post after having considered the situation since there was no element of sex involved and the lady is intending to know her actions correct or not.

My fellow editors, moderators, admin, you may take down this question if you feel otherwise and you need not intimate me of the aforesaid.


commented Oct 14, 2012 by Samhunter (110 points)
moved Oct 14, 2012 by Invincible
I don't thing what u did is right. But I can say that was your past and make sure you are not doing any thing like this in the future
commented Oct 14, 2012 by jagancool1890 (100 points)
moved Oct 14, 2012 by Invincible
Its Correct...!! Within Limit na....
commented Oct 17, 2012 by mushi.142 (100 points)
Hi Priyanka,
   Its very wrong as you are his bhabhi who is considered to be next to mother and he is like your son. Suppose tomorrow your son wants to see your private parts then what will you do?
commented Oct 22, 2012 by false (220 points)
Gives you wetpants, eh, thinking about it and asking it in a blog forum? Thats all about this question and I think its a fake fantasy tale.
commented Nov 26, 2012 by srimant (225 points)
hi Priyanka...
I feel great to read About ur boldness... U tell that u sat topless before ur dever... I just want to know how u felt when he saw you in that state... Was there any special feeling in you at that instant... How eagerly was ur dever looking at your bosoms... Please reply...

9 Answers

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how can it be normal in a Indian Society.Toady he & you have taken the first step by showing your body, tomorrow both of you would take the next step 100%.Do you think after seeing your breast he would be at peace???no he would be restless & planning to take the next bold step.So decided for yourself.
answered Oct 14, 2012 by manmumbai41 (450 points)
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hats off to the lady who advised you to do so. Hats off to your devar(BIL) who have such daring. And hats off to you who have no shame at all.

In any way, its not right. Do not try to justify that it happened under the effect of some circumstances.

In my life, till now, i have heard many types of bhabhi. Some are like good friend to whom her devar shares his love affairs and they make fun of it. Some are helping bhabhi who hepl their devar to get a girl. And the new class of bhabhi is you who herself take the responsibility to fill his devar's lust.

If you think your deed was right, you should tell your husband. He will definately tell you whats right and whats wrong in a great specific way.

Devar-bhabhi relation is different kind of relation with liberty. But its pure like crystal. If that liberty means showing breast, you have spoiled the purity of that relation. You should regret on your deed.
answered Oct 14, 2012 by akk0907 (2,855 points)
commented Jul 28, 2016 by rambo rajkumar (135 points)
hahaha good explanation bro
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One of your bhabi said its Ok another said its wrong but what did your brain told you? I know it too said its Ok, else you may not have  done this.

Next time when he wish to see your pussy are you  going to make  2 cup of coffe and make him sit opposit to you and spread your legs as far as possible so that he get a better view?

Thinking and taking decisions is the job of brain not pussy so next time dont allow your pussy to take decision.
answered Oct 14, 2012 by pussycat (3,855 points)
commented Oct 14, 2012 by priyanka shri (165 points)
edited Oct 14, 2012 by Invincible
i m observing in all answers that i have done a wrong thing, but can any one told me in HOLI festival what actually the devar do with their bhabhi is not shameless, they try to put color on stomach, neck, breasts and hips, they try to insert their hands in bhabhi's dresses, some times i hv seen they play in a group with a single bhabhi and do whatever  they want, insert their hands in blowse, etc etc  and bhabhis enjoy in front of many members, and say they do forcefully, and it is tredition , is it right???, is it not cheap???
while i hv showed my brests in a decent way, on my devar;s request is much much better than things what actually bhabhis and devers do.


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commented Oct 14, 2012 by stud69 (100 points)
still yo trying to justify than regret very soon yo gonna ask us if it was right of you showing yo pussy in a so called DECENT way
commented Oct 14, 2012 by Rushabhforever (105 points)
edited Oct 14, 2012 by longhands1
You r going all the way wrong my dear. Your devar making his move very gently. Start to keep distance from him.
Dont spoil your married life.
commented Oct 14, 2012 by manan (1,670 points)
edited Oct 14, 2012 by longhands1
that was decent, but that may also increase the expectations of your devar in future dear, which may not be socially accepted.
So please resist doing such in future.

- Answered as a devar of a bhabhi-
I by mistake saw my bhabhi in inner garments, that increased ny desires and ultimately it was a big problem for me, coming from a good family!


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commented Oct 14, 2012 by priyanka shri (165 points)
i agree, perhaps i was wrong, but me and my devar are too good friend, and it was very difficult to refuse him directly, and as i know if i restrict him to request me for such thing, he will not argue,
and  i hv done this thing because his request is limited to my breasts only and as i said above  in HOLI like festival 90% devars try to put colours on brests ,neck , hips  many times they insert their hands deep. and then no body has objection, infect bhabhis also like that and when the some what similar thing is done by request, every body has objection, this seems as dominating behavior of males,
commented Oct 14, 2012 by pussycat (3,855 points)
Dont mind what other males says about what you did but I think your husband have the right to know about this. Why didnt you get some advice from your husband, when your devar requested to show your breast?
commented Oct 20, 2012 by xpktv2000 (3,295 points)
never absolutely not..... no such incidents never happen. In holi they only colour face and nevet exceed their limits. Oh hello bhabhi equivalent to sister. Only cheap rascals do such hinderious act.  As far as touching breast and putting hands inside are done with third party aunties, teachers and more common with maids but never with family persons.
commented Oct 25, 2012 by manan (1,670 points)
Its not like that Priyankaji,
because i never saw in my culture that any devar putting hands deep, however many would surely fantasize about that.
Please for your family and your own married life, take care in future and enjoy with your husband only.
It will save many problems in future
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well Priyanka,
if you quote the indian culture , then Bhabhi's are considered as second to mom and are also termed as "Bhabhi Ma" for the motherly affection they've towards whole of family, so that should solve your problem with the ethical part.
as far as you're quoting the "Holi" bullshit , its nowhere an indian culture to do that...and its nowhere an indian tradition...its all a result of modern indian thoughts and western influence to take the advantage when you're vulnerable the most..considering the body over relation. its like if 100 percent persons start smoking at the age of 10 and get cancer around 25, then will the cancer be normal and not treated as disease...? i hope you do see the point. some vague percentage of people doing it don't define a thing to be right or not...
you're just trying to justify that you did right, but actually your heart has told you what is right and what is not...
if you leave anything that is ethical , you can go around with much more and come up with the emotional problems and expectation of attachments from him....due regards and best of luck...
answered Oct 15, 2012 by S1986 (635 points)
commented Oct 15, 2012 by priyanka shri (165 points)
thanks a lot , you have cleared my doubts, it was wrong, i m not blaming my brother in law only actually me too responsible equally...
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if he a despo -ask him to go to a sex worker and she will show not only her boobs but all -and he can touch ,feel and see -
why to spoil the good envoirment at home with this kind of behaviour ,better for him to go out.
ask him if he will allow his wife to do the same with some other guy
answered Oct 19, 2012 by rahulhot (110 points)
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Dont ever do such a thing again. Avoid him or tell ur husband u dont want any trouble in future.
answered Oct 19, 2012 by zerok (110 points)
commented Oct 19, 2012 by Invincible (12,550 points)

Don't post one-line answers. Elaborate your answers.

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Why are you cheating your hubby? Instead of slapping your dever how could you agree to his wishes. Well you are like his sister and he is your brother right. Instead of protecting you he shouldn't have had pleasure with you. For you its a decency and then again you conscious awakens when some other person tells s you that the act is wrong. Where the hell is your common sense, your morality,honesty? Today you had showed him your boobs tomorrow he will have sex with you. This is so wrong. You shouldn't have done this. This shows you are having fault. You should immediately check your distracted steps to avoid future inconveniences.
answered Oct 19, 2012 by xpktv2000 (3,295 points)
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You committed incest which is considered as taboo in our society. What if in the future the situation happens between you and your son ? Ofcourse "nothing is illegal until we get caught".
answered Oct 19, 2012 by Bubba (215 points)
commented Oct 19, 2012 by Invincible (12,550 points)

Don't post one-line answers. Elaborate your answer next time.


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I think u did not do any sin showing... But how would u feel if ur sister demands hubby to show is penis and he does the same ..

How would u feel... Anyways since both have not gone physical it's not that wrong but not right either.

Just forget and love ur husband and care for ur devar as a friend or may be as ur unmatured younger brother..

Sorry if I am harsh
answered Jan 1, 2014 by Vinerath (140 points)

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