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Doubts regarding first night sex.

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asked Sep 30, 2012 in Questions by hepsirose (160 points)
edited Sep 30, 2012 by Invincible
I am a male, 28 years old unmarried. I wish to have sex on my first night. But I fear if my wife will become pregnant by first night sex. I don't wish to wear any condoms . What precautions I and my future wife should take to make sure she doesn't get pregnant with first night sex. Please suggest . Thank you.

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hepsirose, i appriciate your decision to have sex only after marriage.
To avoid pregnancy your wife can take i-pill, or else you have to pull back your penis when you are about to cum, and ejaculate outside.
answered Sep 30, 2012 by RaJu_RKD (292 points)
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Dear friend,
                    it is very easy to avoid pregnancy, if your wife is in safe period that starts from the day after her periods to seventh day, and next safe period will be those seven days before her periods. Apart from this she can use contraceptive pills like i pill, 72 hours protection pills etc. the third option is u can ejaculate outside her vagina.
answered Sep 30, 2012 by arsh (186 points)
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You will have to worry when your first night falls on the day when she is fertile. Unprotected sex during fertile days, will result in pregnancy. But since you are hell bent on using condoms, go for an emergency contraceptive. But don't over use emergency pills. They cause severe hormonal imbalances in woman, which migth affect their periods, pregnancy and some other issues.

For proceeding futher, ask your future wife to tell you her period days. 5days before and after the periods including the perios days are infertile days and unprotected sex doesn't cause pregnancy. Rest days, they are fertile. Do the math and proceed.

On a different note, do you think having sex the very first night is gonna be possible. With the fatigue after the marriage catching up and the initial shyness, if yours is an arranged one, having sex on the very first night might be a bit hard. If its a love marriage where in you guys  have had sex in the past, the feeling of 'newness'  doesn't easily get dissolved. So try to keep these in your mind when taking a step forward.

Pull-out methods aren't 100% safe. This very forum has been flooded with numerous questions on pregnancies by adopting the pull-out method. The problem is that even a single drop of semen is sufficient to impregnate a woman, so its not safe to go for those methods. So using emergency pills every time puts the woman's health at ris as said earlier. So act accordingly.

answered Sep 30, 2012 by Invincible (13,480 points)
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Hi,

I respect your choice of having sex after marriage because I have also decided the same. But I can say we are "fools".

Anyway come to your questions, I personally think the same way not to use condoms with my wife. But the problem is you do not know about your wife before marriage. She might has lots of boyfriends before marriage and also indulging herself in sex many times (As in my personal point of view and my personal experience in life 99% girls has 2 or more boyfriends before marriage and we are not that lucky to get a virgin girl from that 1% ). in that case, if you do not use a condom you may get STD or AIDS infected. Even god does not know the nature of a woman.

So it is always advisable to use condom with your wife for first few days may  be for first one month. When you two get intimate, take her to a clinic to have a STD test and consult with the doctor about a permanent birth control (Copper T, daily contraceptive pills). If everything okay from the doctor then go for the sex without condom.

I would say first know your wife/partner then go for sex. You have life time to have sex with her so better to spend first few days of your life to know each other and create a love then go for sex. :)

Best of luck!
answered Oct 1, 2012 by loveispain (535 points)
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