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How to convince my girlfriend for sex or should I wait?

asked May 4, 2012 in Questions by Nemo66 (145 points)
edited May 4, 2012 by longhands1
Hi AA members,
                   I'm 22 years old and my girlfriend is 18 years old. We are in a relationship since the last 4 months. She's a nice gal, whom I respect and love. We kiss and hug etc but nothing sexual.
I wanted to take our relationship to the next level i.e. Sex. So, I asked her for sex, weeks ago. At first, she had negative thoughts about it and  later after I convinced her, she said that she needs 2 weeks to think about it.
       I think that she still feels negatively about it and might say she's not ready. She'll give me her decision in a week. If she says no, then how can I convince her properly? Or should I wait for some more months?
commented May 7, 2012 by Nemo66 (145 points)
She said no this time. She says we'l do it  but its not possible so soon.

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next level of love is responsible committment, not sex. You love and respect her then think about how do you want to respect her.

Four month of period is too short to know each other, to trust each other. Give her some time that she demanded. Thats two weeks you say.

Two weeks of suspense, if she says yes, no problem. If she says no, give her another 2weeks/2 months/2 years, whatever time she demand. And in this waiting period, dont you let lose your respect for her. That will make your relation most trustworthy. And if she begins to trust you, sex is nothing then.

And if you believe sex above relation, trust then on her negative answer you can leave her and can search for a better option.
answered May 4, 2012 by akk0907 (2,855 points)
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If she is not giving her consent don't go for it. If some how you convince her for sex, she would not enjoy it. Your session will end up in a mess.
Sex is much more mental than physical. It is very necessary for a girl to be mentally ready for sex.
Don't try to convince frenquently, she would think you are a sex starving man.
Girls have different thought on sex. Some waits and judge their partner's that they are not one of those who just use and throw and some wants to preserve virginity till their marrage. Wait and give her time to relay and trust on you.
If still her answer is NO  then just forget it and respect her decison no force no pressure.
answered May 4, 2012 by land crusier (3,145 points)
commented May 4, 2012 by yntr (1,800 points)
moved May 4, 2012 by land crusier
If she wish you can do other wise both of you wait till marraige.
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At your age, your hormones are roaring to go, but think of your girlfriend. She is only 18. A tender and innocent age. Sex is a powerful instrument for intimacy, but can either of you, promise that you both will remain true to each other ever after?

Sex outside of marriage damages the relationship between the persons involved. Trust is the main issue here. If two people do not cherish sex enough to wait for a marriage commitment, how can they trust one another for fidelity? Conversely, a man and woman build trust and respect for one another when they both survive the struggles of self-control — each will have the confidence that the other respects them, and cherishes their intimacy.

"But we're in love!" you might say. or "We're going to be married anyway". Either way, your girl needs to decide what she wants.
answered May 4, 2012 by longhands1 (78,150 points)
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"I wanted to take our relationship to the next level i.e. sex", dude get a move.

The essence of a relationship is commitment and concern but not sex.Sex is a thing which actually completes the full term of a relationship meaning that both the partners have nothing to hide.

So tell me if your motive is to bed the girl go find an escort but please don't take the name of love merely to quench the thirst of your  body.Intimacy is something which should be given but not taken, you persuading your girl merely presents your physical condition as to how desperate you are for sex.

So work on yourself and make your self more presentable to your girl friend not just on the sexual grounds but on the human grounds.
answered May 5, 2012 by Invincible (12,550 points)
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Hi nemo,
what i see is a 22 year old desperate to fuck his 18 year old girlfriend .I don't understand why  you want to take it to next level why r u so eager to have sex with her.why every boy wants to sleep with her girl right from his first date. You said you respect her,if you really do, then respect her decissions,love her care for her,win her trust first,give her enough time have patience and wait for the day when she asks you to make love to her. And if you serious about having sex then why to waste time find a new girlfriend.
take care
answered May 5, 2012 by cry (1,255 points)
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Both of you are too young to finalize that you would have a future together.  If you were 2/3 more years older, you could have think of all the next steps.

If she is taking time, thats a clear sign that she wants to be sure if there is a future together. Not seeing one, she is still confused.

You are n love, thats good. The next step is not sex. The next step is feel comfortable to one another, having a dream to be together, get the feeling that there is a future together.  If she is convinced, she will spread her legs.  Else if she spread on her own at this age of 18, you as a guy will have all the doubt if she was doing that before with others or will do the same later to others. She is playing safe, let her play in that way.  You should not force anything. Sex should be between two consenting adults, the consent should not be imposed.
answered May 5, 2012 by oye (25,670 points)
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man it's not love. what u r talking is called as LUST.
4 months n hungry for sex! I m sure u'll ditch her once u had sex with her.And if she says yes, then don't leave the chance as she is ready for sex and Asking u for it. if she says no then better u ditch her now, bcos there seems lesser probability that ur efforts will produce positive results soon.
answered May 7, 2012 by mahee (2,755 points)
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yes you have to wait for the moment..
becz she is not wann to do sex she is feel uncomfertable n unsafe to..
she is you gf you cant force her to do so..
answered May 9, 2012 by palak7879 (360 points)

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