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I m 21 years old and still a virgin?

asked Mar 30, 2012 in Questions by jhony.bravo (205 points)
edited Mar 30, 2012 by longhands1
I am a little bit shy about girls. I heard a lot about sex that it gives lots of pleasure but I had never had sex in my entire life. Is it going to be a  problem in my coming sex life?

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Girls are not toy dolls that give you a lot of pleasure if you wind the key. They are human as you are. At 21 its ok to be shy, but increase your interaction with friends, girls included. It is ok to be curious about sex and sex is a lot of fun, provided you treat a girl with respect and not as a sex object.

Remember sex also makes babies. So always have safe sex. Use a condom. Or you may end up "with a problem in your coming sex life" !!

answered Mar 30, 2012 by longhands1 (78,290 points)
edited Jan 13, 2015 by longhands1
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before entering into the world of sex.try to have the full knowledge of sex.if it can give you pleasure it can also ruin your life.
answered Mar 30, 2012 by Khurram kamal (610 points)
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Dude! Do u see this as a problem?? Post a valid question.. If u have ur sexual urge, why do u think god gave u hands??
It will not affect ur sex life at all.. Coz ive seen questions here saying they are 26 and r a virgin.. Compared to them u r better..
Guess u r doing ur graduation or just finished.. So get a job and get married.. Ur so called problem will be solved by a girl.. Ur hands will be free atleast from then..
answered Mar 30, 2012 by hades (2,670 points)
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You are 21 and stil a virgin, is it a problem? I don't think so,  many are virgins till they get married and its not a  problem its only a good thing at least you can start your married life without the fear of HIV or STDs, if your partner also is virgin. Even now as per our cultural restrictions most of the males don't get  a chance for sex before marriage even if they have a GF as many girls are afraid of loosing their virginity.

Your shy nature can only be changed by you for that you need a strong decision and get some courage to interact with girls. slowly your shyness and fear will go away.

Your shyness may be due to some inferiority complex,  you should understand one thing everyone is unique and creation of god. God never make people with only defects every human being is filled with gods grace and many good qualities. you are not less to any one of your so called friends who interact with girls and scores.

Still if you feel too shy and feel difficult to interact with girls or friends get some professional counseling they can help you to overcome this shyness.

 one more thing this is the best period of your life to make a good future and a better job, if you have a better job and future, girls will come to you. so your priority now should be your studies, persuade your dream/aim not the girls. good luck.
answered Mar 30, 2012 by pussycat (3,855 points)
commented Jun 25, 2012 by jhony.bravo (205 points)
wow great lecture but its nice compliment..
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Mr. Bravo, I dont tell the same for others, but for you I have to say, you have a big trouble time ahead.

Your profile shows you asked three question, one is on your dicksize or 3 inch and curve, one on 3 times masturbation and this one you are virgin and concerned. Adding up all together, I am almost certain, you are going to fall in big disappointment on sex department. Its good to see you chose a name and picture of J. Bravo, he is all muscle upwrads, on downward, Bravo looks a joke.  May be it was unintentional, still applicable for you.

Second reason is, ask three question, no reply and two comments, it shows how poor you are on communication. You love to ask and thats all. If you are poor on communication, with most male here, how you are going to be a disappointment with a 3 inch curve one, I can visualize that.

I suggest you consult a psychiatrist, you need some confidence building therapy. My reply seems rude, but tell me is there any better solution? You lack in self confidence, and afraid to communicate, you need to change that.
answered Mar 30, 2012 by oye (25,670 points)
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You probably have lots of things to worry about in your life dude....think your friends who've had previous experience of sex are mocking you for being a virgin.being a virgin isnt a sin dude....jus concentrate on your studies and let life take its course.Your eagerness to have sex will only land you in trouble.
answered Mar 30, 2012 by mahe69 (505 points)
commented Jun 25, 2012 by jhony.bravo (205 points)
thanks for your compliment..
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you should either go to a prostitute or wait till your marriage to enjoy that pleasure with your wife....have fun....don't be shy with girls...just have casual talks with'll rock for sure...
answered Mar 31, 2012 by abhimanyu1609 (210 points)

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