How do i get my Girlfriend to cuck and dominate me now and after marriage?

Question

I am an Indian in relationship with my girlfriend for last 6 years. i need her to cuck and dominate me. i will give a detailed account of 6 years to explain m scenario-

Year 1 - We meet and became friends.
Year 2 - Still friends.
Year 3 - We had casual kissing, she use to come to my place. we use to kiss and have some fun.
Year 4 - I insisted her on have a more bold wardrobe which she slowly but steadily started having. i didn't hurry. Initially she started with sleeveless, then knee-length skirts, tube tops, halter tops.
Year 5 - She started working and now earns more then me. she got more confident about her dressing and started with one piece minis and small shorts. her saree style to changed a lot.
Year 6 - I took more charge, started flaunting cleavage. I always carry the bags in mall and things.

since last year i have started giving her foot massage quiet regularly and she enjoys. She enjoys more when i sit down. Off late sometimes she comes at my place after office, relax in the sofa, asks me for some juice and demands a foot massage directly. i love giving it. More often she rather then looking at me, reclines back in chair closing her eyes, or enjoys the drink or watches tv or reads some magazine.
Once i was out of the town she went out with one of her male friends and they kissed. She confessed to me that she kissed once but later i read one of their chats and i understood that they kissed many times on beach and cab. the guy was prasing her designer bra which meant they had some boob pressing which she never allowed me in public place. i was initially happy but when i encountered her i got angry coz she didnt tell me the entire details. now she went in a shell out of guilt.


I need to know how can i encourage her to be more hotter, dominating and cuckold me completely as time comes. we are going get married next year.

Answer 1

I allowed this question because you wrote twice. Moreover you are new member, I always encourage new members with their new thoughts.

Now what you are talking about and asking about, I simply could not relate them. You spoke about the relationship levels, and your asking is how you can be a cuckold. If you were planning to be, then you should have not scolded earlier. If you want to be dominated, that foot massage is nothing, you have to go through lot of additional pain to be real dominated. And she has to have that knack too. Are you ready for some hardcore beating, gagged and even fucked with rubber dick? If not, that its not your game.

Being cuckold means you have to be ready for watching her getting fucked in front of you and you cant do anything, ready for that?

Before you make a wish, know about these. But be sure, this is not a easy path, its like a gate of flood water, once you open, you cant close, you have to accept that.  Things wont be on your wish, it will be on her.

Think again then decide.

Comments

Dear Oye
Thanks for the reply. I need to say that my choice is not for extreme BDSM and also coz i know that my girlfriend will not enjoy it the way i know her for last six years. I am looking towards that she controls me in all aspects, decision making at home, serving her, as well as a head of family. I would like her to have sex with fitter and hotter men as well.

Answer 2

arun,

Seems you have got your facts about cuckolding a bit mixed up. Let me first explain what cuckolding is.

A cuckolding couple consists of the cuckold husband who is referred to as the cuckold, or the beta male. He may have a tiny dick and almost never is able to sexually satisfy his wife. The wife in a cuckolding relationship is often referred to as a hotwife and gets to pick and choose who she has sex with. The person that she picks to have sex with is often much more well hung than her cuckold husband and is able to satisfy her sexually, unlike her husband. This person is referred to as the bull, stud or the alpha male.

He is almost always extremely well hung and knows how to satisfy the hotwife so that she can have endless orgasms. He is usually much better looking that the cuckold husband and in very good shape. He may come around the have sex with the wife quite often, even daily, or he may only have sex with the hotwife once at a party.

Many cuckold husbands really enjoy watching their hotwife's enjoy previous husbands or lovers who can satisfy the hotwife's needs adequately. It may turn him on to see that his wife is enjoying a man who had her before the cuckold did, and who still has her even though the cuckold is married to her. The cuckold husband is only being used to pay her bills and take care of her financially, while the ex-husband is the one that gets to have sex with her all he wants.

Whether or not the cuckolded husband is involved depends on the individuals in the cuckold relationship. Sometimes the husband must suck on the bulls dick in order to get it ready to have sex with the hotwife. This is referred to as "fluffing". It does not necessarily mean either of the parties is gay or bi-sexual, but may be something that is necessary in the dynamics of the relationship. By coercing the cuckold husband to do this, the alpha male is establishing complete dominance over the beta male. After the bull is done having sex with the wife, the cuckold may also have to "clean up" both the wife's pussy and the studs cock as a sign of respect.

As a cuckolding husband, you cannot question any of her affairs, till she tells you about them. She will decide if you should watch or join to lick off the mess!!

Answer 3

From your story, I can infer that you are not into S&M or maybe you have not found out about bdsm yet. Foot fetish is quite normal. You want to be cuckolded but will you be able to stand it? Your first reaction was anger. You should have shown comfort saying that it is normal for you and you are quite ok with it. Then you should have pleaded very politely that she should tell her. She would only tell her when you show inquisitiveness, excitement and comforting. She would be initially shy. You must be patient and encouraging. If you lose your temper at any point, you can forget it.
Also, there is always a risk of her leaving you settling with that other guy, will you take that risk? I believe you should get married first and show her that you desperately need her. Show her that she can have fun if she gets bored but she should never leave you.
Last but not least, you should monitor her friends with benefits. Try to get her close to the playboy types who would love a no-strings attached sex affair. Keep her away from the lover types who may want to spend their whole lives with her. Just do it very carefully and cleverly so that she never gets the hint that you are trying to control her relationships.

Answer 4

Phew.. I am not a male chavonist.. But if u let the woman take charge in a relationship, it ll end up failing.. Coz in case of emergencies, they start thinking emotionally where we men think logically.. Its nature and we cant help it..
And dude! After six years of relationship, she would have bored probably.. So she would have gone out with some other guy.. And i feel if she has done it once, why won't she think of doing it again??
Dude! Once the trust is broken means it cant be fixed ever again.. She broke ur trust and u r still sitting and asking us.. Dont submit yourself to her.. Take charge atleast now.. U r not a slave to her.. U can practise BDSM sex in bed where u can be submissive and she ll be dominating.. But in whole life if she is like that, ull end up in problems.. Coz at first she was shy n all i.e inferior to u and now she has superiority complex.. And u r inferior to her now i.e u have inferiority complex from the starting.. And ultimately this would end up no where.. And think twice before marrying her.. So better do something about it to have a good life..
All the best..

Answer 5

Hi Arun0031 !

Dude you are NOT in BDSM.. You are just a plain undiagnosed variety of the "Submissive Male"...

Hades above has provided some real nice info.
I appreciate your coming out in open to share your problem on this forum...

Here's what I think-

1. You are not a cuckold so stop using that term

2. You need to explore your feminine side a bit more; doing things like cooking for your gf... Cook her a good meal, clean up the plates, do the general housekeeping n stuff that most women do..

3. I strongly recommend that you try "Crossdressing"... Just give it a try at least once... and while you do it, do a good job at it... Simple things  like shaven skin, using mild facelifts, putting on your girlfriend's underwear, and clothes too...... and then probably look at yourself in the mirror while you wait for her to get back home from office...

4. I am NOT saying that you have "TransSex" problem, as that relates to, among other thing, involvement of physical organs.

5. Possibly, you could in fact be a "Bi-gender"; Bigenders sort of keep switching roles from masculine extremity towards feminine..

6. To know if you are a Bigender you would first need to try out being a transvestite or a crossdresser to start with...

To conclude... I believe in finding exact solutions to problems, and for that we need the problems to be exact... How you should cuckold your gf is by no means the real problem so stop chasing shadows coming out asking solutions on how to's... Kindly educate yourself on the true carnacity of your sexuality, and the rest should be easy.

Regards

Answer 6

Both of you are in a relationship for 6 years and you go out of town for a  few  days and you find a guy praising her designer bra and you still wanna marry her.Bro,are you out of your mind.she goin out with another guy clearly indicates that she is bored with you.You said initially you were happy,happy for what?just coz another guy played with your gf's breasts.To my knowledge no boyfriend can stand that.And you said you want your girlfriend to be more hot and dominating.looks like you are marrying only to fuck her.Nothing else.And looking at the definition  longhands has given, i think you mistook bdsm for cuckold.It isnt bad,but marry a woman who is happy to satisfy you.Not the one who goes around lookin for dicks when you are away.

Answer 7

From the problem it seems that your gf is taking you as a granted because she thinks you cant give her what she desires.Only a foot massage cant satisfy her.She needs more than that.She is working lady and earns more than you.her dressing has changed indicates she is inviting a person who can play with her body.you should think deeply before marrying her.

Answer 8

You want to make her hot for whom first u tell that she is involved with her friend now you want to marry with her just ask her to rigidlly what she want now a day she earning more than to you may be her married life desire will be diffrent to present life just chill in your relation and take a good step toward your future.

Answer 9

He is already a cuckold and doormat so she is fucking someone on his back and she is not even ready to tell the complete truth.
she will make him to do the rest once they get married. She may be afraid of loosing him, because she knows that cuckolds are a rare species and difficult to find one. Once she is married she will make him to suck and clean the bulls dick.

I think this guy lack one gene.

Comments

If she is doing it and she is going to do this after marriage I can't ask for me coz I want the same. but that's not the case.