I'm confused with my wife's behavior!!

Question

Hi Anjali mam and AA members,

well we are married for almost 1 year, everything was fine in the start but suddenly after few weeks of marriage my wife started to have bad mood and she even started fighting on small issues. Neither she has much interest in sex as she never approaches me for it and its always me who initiates and all.
But the problem is that i got a hint a few weeks back that she might be talking to somebody else, but when i asked her, it was again a huge fight at the end. and today i almost got a proof that she sure does.. n yet again just had a huge fight..

i'm getting annoyed now.. what should i do about it?

Comments

Dear Mikezrhme, please let us have your age and that of your wife

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Can add up two more info, was an arranged marriage? Is she a working woman and financially secured?

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i'm 26 n she's 27

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it was more over a love marriage, n she used to work bfr marriage but now a house wife only n yes we are quite good financially

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Yeah, I am sure you were busy on your own way, because add comment to each reply, that shows you were tied up before.  Now free to address.

Still its a bit late, becuase we cant keep waiting for someone to complete a question or reply to some small query we were looking for. People here are also busy on their own way too.

You ca come back with a frsh question someother time with required info, lets see if people can make time to reply.

Answer 1

So Mike, you are so confused that dont have time to reply the additional questions we asked? On these type of case, we get into a stalemate, nothing concrete to say other than adding up our assumption.

As far as my assumption goes, your wife was having a serious relationship, you have entered as an intruder to her love life. She accepted you, but again you failed to prove yourself as a man, not close to her boyfriend how can really make her happy. So she has no other choice except get back to her earlier boyfriend. Whether you love her or not doesnot matter, she is still mentally and physically much happier with her boyfriend, you are like a pain in her life, a pest who keeps bugging for lousy sex, when she is having good sex outside.

You can still remain confused and curse your luck. Before marriage try check out the bride and her association, after marriage they simply dont change unless you are better than her earlier fuck-buddy.  Wish them good luck, dont burge into their love nest without knocking the door.  

And next time when we ask some additional question, do reply.  We dont need juicy detail, just the fact.

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i apologize for not replyin the same day as i busy in various things, n sure ask me out what u wanna know..

Answer 2

try to convince her. if she is talking to any other guy then first find out the reason behind it. she may not be satisfied by you. the best way is solve the problem by discussion not by fight. its natural fighting between husband and wife. console with a psychologist so that  you both can solve the problem in a piece full way. good lock.

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sure i'll try .. thanks bobby

Answer 3

Did she have affair with someone else before marriage? May be,she is communicating with her past lover!! It looks like,she is disturbed due to the communication over phone. Talk to her. Discuss with an open mind. Make her feel that she can be safe while talking about anything before you. Ask her if she is in some kind of affair,or that if she wants to leave or get separated!!

Now,again,on the other hand,you yourself may be the problem!! She might be having problem with you(mentally or physically),which she can't express openly!!!! In such case,too,you need to talk with her openly!!! Have patience!!! If nothing works,keep distance with her to see how she reacts. If she doesn't care about your keeping distance with her,then well,you need to take her problem seriously.

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she probably had one but it over long bfr ours started, n i really dont think if shes talkin to him anymore as she kinda annoyed by him. I've asked her servaral times abt if she's havin somethin with anyone else.. but she always denies it.

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on the other hand i've also asked her quite a few times but she doesnt have any problem with me

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there might be one condition though.. actually its more like she likes to show off herself by wearin exposin clothes but being in a south asian culture, its not appriciated nor in my family

Answer 4

dear do not break your head on such issue if you yourself is not pretty sure whether she is engaged with somebody else or not otherwise you yourself will ruin your and her life as far as sex is concerned talk to her about it and try finding a solution to it

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thats what i m lookin for dude

Answer 5

first you know she is talking with whom and why sudden change her behavior what is the specific reason behind then u think about perfect solution if possible to give some loving surprise like gift, marketing or some tour plan and spend some happy time with her definitely your problem will solve give her your best slowly she will realised the mistake and u will got ur love.

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well i often give her surprize gifts already...