Love my student but cannot tell her - what to do?

Question

Hi all,

I am 26 years old male and I love someone but I cannot tell her beacuase she is my student.

What can I do? plz help me

Answer 1

Are you a teacher in school or a private tutor? Is she adult?

If you are a teacher in school, please dont break the rule. Keep your liking with yourself. Students have a tremendous respect for teachers, doing spoil that trust.

If she is underaged, dont think anything anymore, dont post a question even, I am sure you wont like to be handcuffed by police for harrassing a minor.

If she is adult and you are a private tutor, try your  luck, gain some courage and tell what you have in mind, else later you will repent for your cowardness.

Answer 2

You are aged 26 , its time for you to find a girlfriend and settle in life , but you didnot mention what is the age of your student, if she is minor or  major even though I would suggest you seek another girl, why are you spoiling the teacher / student relationship.

The duty of a teacher is to preach and has to lead by example and not to seek sexual gratification from his student.

Now it can also be your true love then are you willing to wait for her, help her complete her studies and let her built a career ,are you ready  , then in that case go and ask her hand from her parents and do get engaged, but if are not ready for that the look for a proper age group girlfriend.

Answer 3

She is your is not a matter. Matter is her age, her response. If she is underage then don't do this otherwise you can't take our advice in jail. If she is 18+ then at least you have to notice what she want, is she likes you or something else. You are a teacher & making love to your student will also destroy your noble profession. So my advice is first find out what she want & then go ahead if you don't care about your profession.

Answer 4

Dear jimmy10,

I hope your question on difficulty in passing urine, asked 2 days ago and this your love for your student are not connected.

There are some relationships that are sacroscant. A teacher and a student, a doctor and his nurse, a boss and his employee.  You are definitely asking for trouble if she is a student in a class of pupils. Many students have a crush on their teachers, but the teacher who is the mature of the two needs to be more level headed.

If she is underage, and a complaint is lodged by the school or by her parents, not only you will be dismissed, stigmatised but will also end up behind bars.

How are you sure that if you profess your love for her and it is one-sided, you will not end up becoming the laughing stock of the school.

Answer 5

Have u ever heard of the famous indian saying which goes- matha, pitha, GURU and bhagavan..
Teacher is a person who comes next to our parents and is treated as someone above god.. Thats y its third in the order..
A teacher imparts knowledge to his/her fellow students.. Whatever the situation may be, he/she must control all the feelings(love, like, lust, hatered etc etc) and be impartial to the students..
There are cases in foreign countries where the teacher marries or even hooks up with a student.. But in india, we have a culture.. I am not telling what the foreigners do are wrong.. But we must maintain our culture and follow all the indian ethics..
I personally tell u to stop loving ur student.. I kno its hard.. But please do it.. Coz i dont want all the teachers getting a bad name just coz of one teacher loving his student.. I respect teachers.. And i do teach part time(not academics though).. So please consider my suggestion..
But if u wanna continue, very well u can go ahead.. We cant stop u..

Answer 6

...it would have been good if you had mentioned her age,wheter you are a private tutor or a teacher in a high-school,or a college or since when and how long more will she be your student...we would then have analysed bit by bit and would have given you point to point suggestions....!!!

As of now,a single line suggestion from my side..." LISTEN TO YOUR HEAD(conscience) MORE THAN TO YOUR HEART "..

Good luck.

Answer 7

Few months before i was working in my office and i was little busy at my work suddenly my teacher who taught me at college came yelling my name and caught my hand, i saw her nearly after 15 yrs after my college, do you know what i felt, not only happiness but my heart was filled with respect and love for her, you should also need to know that  she was beautiful and i was crazy for her with a lot weird fantasies. If she caught  my hand during that time i may have been happy but not the happiness i felt now. I was not that good in studying (how can one study anything when we are concentrating on her curves), when she saw me in a good job she said to me that she was very proud of herself that she taught me.

Now you are in my place, having some fantasy to a student. leave it man the relationship between teacher and student is sacred, don't spoil that by your one way love.

I have one benefit in my side, I was immature at that time, but you are mature enough to understand everything.

Comments

So nice of you pussycat for sharing your life experience, i guess there could be no better example, thanks my friend.

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Thank you dan.........

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very nice Pussy

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raj009 there is one cat is also there not only a pussy.

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Well said bro

Answer 8

hai friend good problem u have. But u dont need 2 see the relation in love. It was not a problem man. First u can chek ur self , it was love or sexual atraction , and next u find she also same intrest on u , and she is adult , u can slowly move ur felings by observing her , and teasing her littly , do like this 4 few days . If she can change 4 u may be , on that time prapose her. First u say friends  ? after undrstanding both u can prapose her. Be confident, hae life is very short man. Never miss a any moment in life , go and rock the world. Life is ours , dnt wory about worris , be a confient and rock. All the best.

 Note ; girls are like flowers , handle carefully

Answer 9

Usually in software companies people working in the same team love each other and they get married. In our company  we do have policies such as both husband and wife shouldnot work in the same project and in the same team as well.

But in case of college this is entirely different.
If possible try to make it 'arranged marriage'. Ask your parents to check with that girl's parents. If it goes fine, it will be very sweet.

If that girl accept your love some serious consequences will happen if you continue working in the same college. Then In the college the students will start loving their teachers and this is not for what the parents are sending their children to study. College is the holy place. Have some respect to it.

If that girl accept your love, resign your job and join in some other college so that none will be affected.

Answer 10

Pls don't.. because when as a teacher u only made mistake then there is no value for guru at all..

Answer 11

No pblm dear if u really love her then y u r afraid go and tell the truth.

Comments

Bad suggestion. What if she is an underaged teen and you are the father. Would you love to see her teacher approaching her?

Give a reply for betterment, not help  people to ignite evil intention.