I can write an essey on this, in a nutshell, communication is the key.
Sex with wife has both mental and physical aspect. If you ask me, I would say 90% is mental presence, rest 10% is the physical bond. Marriage is a hoy bond, commit to walk together. To keep that bond, mental attachment is needed and communication is the key.
You must have seen young guys talks hours in park or phone, ever tried to listen what they say? Nothing important, just being close and together is the fundamental. Same goes with old couple, they talk. I have seen some couple having great sex life, but ended in divorce because they thought having a kid will solve the problem or sex can take care of all differences. It doesnot.
What you should do, you can decide, what I do is my way. I keep some time everyday for my family, share few jokes, small talks, help my wife on chores, ask her help, sit together with our angel, there are so many ways to be together. I am following that, and even I dont mind sacrifice watching TV, if my wife has something to say, important or not.
But the best way of communication I found is during after play, once having sex, cuddling and talking on anything and everything, I feel great pleasure, she also talks about all gossips she heard. And ofcourse bed time dirty jokes are always there.
Akk0907, I recall you said before that you got some help from this site. Take this advice, there need not be any topic, any formality, no report on whole day activities. You can stay with her in kitchen and help her, ask her the ingredients, what she knows best, let her talk on that, and talk on what you know best. Hope you can get some help following this.