Why am I feeling very guilty? please help me

Question

Hi Anjali mam and AA members,

I am 23 year old guy and i doubt, if i can ask this here.... am sorry, if asking something wrong.. but i need help on this.

I have a elder sister aged 26 years and never had bad intentions on her, but recently i kept my laptop in my house with all porn as hidden, thinking none in my house knows to operate laptop but later found through VLC history that all the porn videos have been watched by my sister.

My mom and dad have no idea abt computer so its surely my sister, I am not able to face her from that day and she doesn't show, as she has watched them. But i felt very guilty and deleted all porn but very recently i had a dream in which my sister was was sexually harassed by a group of people and i was trying to protect her from them.

But in that process i touched her body and also got a glimpse of her breast(all these in dream)... now am feeling very very guilty and not able to forget that dream.... help me out with this.... am the reason to get such a dream? or is it beyond me? and how can I completely forget about this dream?

Answer 1

Dear Selvakumar,

You have not mentioned your age. You are human though and we all make mistakes. How do you know it is your sister? Is she the only one who has access to your computer? It could be some of your friends, who may have come in your absence. Did you give your laptop to a friend? Did you give it for repairs? Does your sister have a boy-friend? OK, Ok, I know you are convinced that at the time the clips were accessed, only your sister was in the house. What you can immediately do is to password protect your PC.

It is human to have fantasies, but it is not right to have incestual dreams. Your dreams reveal that you are protective of your sister, which is a noble thought. But dont spoil the dream by masturbating to this dream. Make an effort to divert your mind. And dont embarrass your sister by asking her about  about your laptop. She will have got the hint when she cannot sign-in.

Comments

am very sorry i didn't mention my age..... i forgot abt it... am 23 and my sister is 26... and my friends don't visit my home during my absence... and even if they come, my parents won't engage them...  i didn't give my laptop for service as well... my sister doesn't have BF... my family is very strict.. i have now enabled password... i wanted to know, if dreams r in our control or is dreams beyond us?

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Dreams are beyond our control. But they are a manifestation of your sub-conscious mind. Since this is an incident (alleged viewing of porn by your sister) that happened when you were conscious and your first reaction was guilt on your part (what will my sister think - me watching porn) you then gave this a sexual connotation. Naturally your sub-conscious mind soaked in all this information, resulting in your dreams.

Just relax. As long as you do not masturbate thinking of this dream, you will be ok.

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thanks dude..... :)

Answer 2

This is our request to all questionnaires, please mention your age first.
 Coming to the question hmm what you think your elder sister did a crime if she watched porn? If you have a problem with this then protect your Laptop with password. Even by doing this you can't stop her from watching porn.
If you have problem with dream, here again you can't do anything. Just forget it. Don't take it seriously. Listen according to me if you want nothing in this matter you will not discuss this again but if there is a little lusty feeling definitely it will came in your mind again.

Comments

am very sorry i didn't mention my age..... i forgot abt it... am 23

Answer 3

forget the dream and respect your sister. .and dont worry about her. .she is also a human so if she watched porn. .is not to be taken that much seriously. .and for your side always keep your porn data in pendrive. .so she also cant find it. .

Answer 4

You are 23 years old guy! It is so very normal that you will watch porn stuffs! There is nothing wrong in it(unless you are getting addicted to it). You don't have to feel guilty for watching porns!! Neither you should feel odd to face your sister!

Now,your sister is 26 years. Firstly,she should have respected your privacy and not watched your stuffs in the PC!! Secondly,if she really watched all porn movies,then I wonder what was in her mind!! After she saw the first one,normally she shouldn't have gone further after the first or second one!! But she did...............

I'm also curious,if you have any incestuous fantasy regarding her!! Did you keep the PC open intentionally for her to see those!! Your dream reflects your sexual fantasy about her! According to your dream,you want to protect her sex from the invasion of other male,and then want to have sexual contact with her!!!

All these are just the work of your mind. Just change the way you think,your mind will change. BTW,it looks like,you don't have a girl friend. If you don't have one,then get a girlfriend. Your fantasy will be diverted that way...........

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i don't have any incestuous fantasy regarding her..... am very conscious that not even my finger touches her....  i didn't keep it open intentionally... i thought my sister doesn't know to view hidden files, since i never thought her... but she had found it and seen the videos... and when i saw.. it was hidden again... but found thru VLC history... after that sexual invasion... i woke up.... i was shocked to see her naked.... so woke up... and was feeling guilty and i didn't sleep after that..

Answer 5

Your sister is 26 years old, if she watches porn, what makes you feel so shoked? Do you think she has no idea on sex and you spoiled her life? Your deleting was unnecessary. It will make her feel uncomfortable that you know she watched your stock.

Your dream is your dream. Generally people dream on somthing they are too much obsessed with or occupied with. A guy having no job, will dream about attending an interview, not having sex with Britney Spears. What we think on subconscious mind that comes in dream.

I read before, a man can dream about 4 seconds, the restis his subconscious mind keeps adding his wishes. If you are on that mode, rather than worrying on your sister, you better guard your dirty thought.

You got a glimpse, dont tell me she flashed, Dont have dirty thought on conscious or subconscious mind. At least its good that you are feeling guilty. You should feel guilty.

Answer 6

Your sis watched that porn is not of much concerned, don't panic about that because she is a mature girl. Now you are inclined towards her sexually is not good. Why you are developing lust towards her just find a G.F or wife and fuck her. This will give you satisfaction and distraction from your sister.

Answer 7

just either talk to her or better stay away from her after all its her life let her do what she feel is best for her do not interfere or try to stop her. but even if you have decided to stop her then first make your porn habit clean then take such step...

Answer 8

hey dude its her right she can watch porn . Just leave the thought and move on. You cannot restrict het from watching porn. You dont want to feel guilty as it was jus a dream . Keep yourself busy man ,these thoughts will be faded as time moves on