How do i get my wife interested in sex ?

Question

hi anjali aunty,

iam 43 years old from mumbai, and my wife is 41 years we have two kids have been married since last 17 years but since our marriage she never offered herself to me for sex all the time i have to force her into it and that too she sleeps under me like she is not interested so please tell me wht should i do to get her start/ offer herself to me for sex.

Comments

dear m37forf,

You will find a similar post as per link hereunder and some useful answers , check the same

www.askanjali.com/52989/my-wife-dont-have-interest-in-sex-why

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go for weekend with ur wife

Answer 1

hi

first u talk to ur wife, then make r happy then u can have sex with u r wife

Answer 2

Dear,
         there can be many reasons for your wife disinterest in sex.at the age of 41 she is gonna reach her stage of meanopause.females generally tend to lose there interest in sexual activities at this stage.
as u mentioned that she is mother of 2 kids.because of kids females tend to divert there whole attention towards them.this feeling is called motherhood.they tend to lose interest in sex at same stage.
indian females are too much burdened with household work.they get so tierd that they just wann doze off in nite.
jus try to talk to her and try to find out the real cause behind this behaviour.try to explain to her about your needs and desires.and at the same time do try to understand her needs also.
have fun
god bless

Answer 3

hi,
You are happily married from last 17 yrs which is a long time. So no need to worry. may be ur wife is a kind of person who wants u to start sexual art first and later she would join u.
Talk to her and tell ur concern. After 17 yrs together she should understand u.
Bin

Answer 4

This is a normal behaviour for a female in her 40s.. She will get her menopause soon.. So during the pre and post menopausal stage, females tend to act cranky.. They will be annoying, irritant, fighting etc etc.. Their behaviour changes completely.. This is due to the harmonal imbalance.. They will not show so much interest in sex too.. U need to b with her and go through it together.. Be understanding at this stage.. Not "under" standing..:P
Better dont compel her for sex.. Let her be as she is..
Another reason may be she is going through a lot of stress of tensions.. So she gets physically and mentally tired that she does not have time for sex.. At the 40s age, women have a lot of responsibilities esp their children.. So just chill with her.. Take her out for movies and dates.. Surprise her.. She ll b urs..;)
And if this has been the problem as in no interest in sex from ur marriage, then i guess u cum off way too sooner than ur wife.. So instead of having an incomplete sex, she prefers to avoid it.. Try lasting long enough to give ur wife 2 or 3 orgasms.. Go like this- foreplay, fingering, oral, intercourse, afterplay and then u may hug her n sleep..
And if any of our answers were useful, please tell us.. We expect ur feedback..:)

Answer 5

hi Anjali Aunty,

I have tried all the ways u told but since marriage not even once has she offered herself for sex to me. I have even tried nad i always do the foreplay, fingering etc. but even then she is noe getting ready for sex.

Answer 6

As you know that women are envious in nature so I am giving you the last tip which may be work-

You just start watching the fashion shows on T.V or the porn movies on internet in front of HER.But don't ask her to come & cooperate with you.She will definitely get annoyed with your behaviour.You can also make a telephonic conversation about any lady or a girl with your friend fakely to pretend in front of your wife & observe her reaction after that.She will definitely turn towards you.

Answer 7

Similar questions were replied before.

Man you crossed 17 years of having forced sex, why bother now? Are you expecting any pink pill which will change her mind?

There are nine reasons I am listing why a wife remains a dead log in bed.

1. Her actual sexual orientation is Asexual, she doesnot have any sex feeling towards male or female.

2. She was a lesbian, doesnot feel a male touch arousing.

3. She has a nitter childhood memory, to her sex is a dirty act

4. She was having an affair before marriage, she is never out or that mental and physical love from her old love.

5. You force and have se, she doesnot like force to be applied.

6. Its intentional, she love to be forced

7. She is having an affair now. Your sex is physical but she is mentally attracted to him.

8. She belongs to you, but never accepted you as her man from begining.

9. You are lousy in sex department, she gets to high and you have failed to ever bring orgasm to her,

Which is the real reason, I suggest to go for a couple counselling to a professional.

Comments

Good one bro................
Let him find out which is the actual reason.
I think he should speak to her about this with an open mind.

Answer 8

concentrate more more more on fore play. u have to do some exercise to get her into sex by smooch her, touch her, kiss her and fingering. try it