I saw condom in my wife's handbag - what should I do now?

Question

Hello Anjali mam,

I am 30 years old male my wife is 28 years old. We have  2 kids and my wife is working in a small IT company (just 12  are working there) . Last week they went  to a 3 days forest fun trip and my wife too went to trip.  Only 3 girls working there including my wife.

The problem is after the trip I saw two condom packets in her hand bag. I didn't ask anything yet, what should I do?

Answer 1

Dear ajai,

I dont understand what are you waiting for? She is your wife dude, you have the right to question her when she does mistake. 

Ask her straight away about how the condom came in her bag, I am pretty sure your wife's tongue slips while answering your question.

But unless she agrees anything, its quite difficult to know what happened in the forest.

Answer 2

Just ask her about it. Instead of doubting and getting confused,simply ask her about that condom in her bag!!!!

Answer 3

Dude! Just think.. If u r doubtful and dont know about ur wife's activities, how do u expect us to know??
Anyways just ask her how she had condom packets in the bag.. If u r talented enough, she ll slip things outta her mouth..

Answer 4

You ask her about it directly,dude!

Answer 5

dear ajai,
As anjali said don't waste time and ask ur wife abt the condom. The way she replies will give u an hint whether she is telling truth or not.
Incase she is betraying u, then its up to u how u react.

Bin

Answer 6

Nothing can be done, you know your wife better than us , so directly why don't you ask her?

Asking us what to do won't solve the problem unless she answers why the condom packs where there?

But be prepared for an answer such as its not hers some of her colleagues drop it in her bag or also  she must have bought for home use with you.

Now why were you looking in her bag, do you doubt her ? what were you looking for?


You know suspicion is not good between a couple so better ask her and clear your doubts before it kills you and your relationship.

Answer 7

Better ask her straightly and get over the confusion.

Answer 8

If you don't want to ask anything from her directly then do one thing .......take one of the condom from that packet & use it with her.She will automatically tell you that what is the reason behind this to she have to keep the 2 packs in her hand bag.May be the other 2 girls demand her to keep in her bag as she is a married & senior one.

Answer 9

Don't have second thought in your mind ask directly n get your confusion cleared otherwise it'll keep you suspecting your wife on her every moves and u'll find mistakes in her every moves.

Answer 10

dear ajai clearly ask your wife why she kept condom in her bag.....i think she tell u about her activity..this is ur serious problem don't take it lightly.

Answer 11

You saw two condoms and rather than asking her you are asking us?

I can ensure the reply you will get, some one played prank or she has no idea. But with your courage, I dont think you can ask her on this. And if she says she has no idea, you will believe that.

Even if she is fucking, at least you should be happy she is using protection. There always is a standard term called revenge sex, if you think she is having sultiple sex partner, do the same yourself too. But if you have minimum dignity and if you are really one person who can satisfy his wife, be sure she wouldnot have any extramarital affair. Before confronting her check your own track whether you are one of those lousy fucker or you really can fulfill her sexual need. If you are unable and expect she will not fuck around, thats not a fair treat.

Best of luck, have some balls and ask her. If you dont have balls or if you are not man enough, let it go. let her enjoy her time.

Answer 12

confront her now but you should keep it in your mind that no cheater will acept that they are cheating. so dont expect a confession, most probably she will deny it first, then she may say it was for friend, then may say it was for you.

If you want the truth snoop into her mobile, make sure she is not calling/texting some BFs out of hours. if she have a laptop install a key logger.

Answer 13

trust your wife dear,
may be her female colleagues have kept it in her bag :)
be optimistic :)

Answer 14

As husband you may ask her about the condoms. But she might accuse you of sneaking into her hand bag (that is too bad!!).

Comments

wtf.... sorry but how the hell someone can raise such question when there is bigger issue/moral is at stake..

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Protecting one's privacy is also a moral question. However, please note my comment - I suggested that he should first ask his wife  before resorting to any bigger action.

Answer 15

the trip seems like was more of a gang bang party...

Answer 16

man just go straight to her and ask her wts happening and why is she having condoms in her bag...
Man do it quickly or u'll have to face dead end...

Answer 17

Just ask her politely and ask her as a friend about what has happened.

Answer 18

My suggestion would be, if you think your wife is cheating on, and if you came to know she is doing, then what would be your next step ? divorce ?

Dont approach her and ask direct question, if she is really cheating you, then she would be catious from then and would be alert. She wont give up cheating if she is doing already.

Keep secret watch on her or hire a spy. If she is cheating, spy will collect proofs that will be valid in court for divorce. Other way round, if you still love her and want her to come back, then also these proof will bring her back to you, also, you can send her lover to 2 years jail for adultery.

If she is not cheating, you will always have mental peace.

Comments

i dont know what to suggest, bt may b its good say nothing.

Answer 19

Hi Ajaaja
Yes I think you should talk to your wife about it. However make sure you don't get carried away or be violent. Inquire it in a constructive manner that will not cause any negative or bad reactions. Whatever it is everything could be triodes through dialogue. So best thing is talk to her. Good luck

Answer 20

if its for first time ,u seen condoms in her bag.ask her gently but u never be succeded.....handle it wid utmost care as she might be not guilty.