Is it wrong to think about my wife in this way?

Question

Dear Anjali and all,

Whenever I do sex with wife I have the fantassy that she is being fucked by someone else or gangraped.

It stimulates me, is it wrong?

Answer 1

Few men's think about their wife in such a manner to get themself aroused, however I personally feel it is wrong but not harmful unless and untill they allow their wife to perform in real.

Hope you understand it!

Answer 2

Wow! Nice to hear that.. I guess u r one of the few who are completely spoilt by watchin pornos.. Get this straight- pornstars are all paid for the gang bang scenes and rape scenes.. Ur wife is not a pornstar.. So dont look at her as an object of sex..
If u have a fantasy, then let it be just a fantasy where u just imagine.. Do not try to implement it n especially on ur wife.. Respect ur wife bro..
As long as u jus think of it while sex, no prob.. U can do that all life long..:)

Answer 3

dear rah,
               having fantasies is not wrong untill u try to fulfill them especially if they involve ur partner nd otr ppl.
get aroused nd keep it upto urself.
hav fun
cheers

Answer 4

The definition of "right" or "wrong" is pretty interesting!!!!

Polygamy and polyandry were practiced in India in ancient time. But now it is not legal and moral here. However, Polygamy is still considered acceptable in some other cultures/countries at present times!! Beheading of criminals is still practiced in some countries(ex,arab),but it is considered repulsive and not practiced in many other countries. These examples show what is wrong for one society could be acceptable for another!! The definition of right and wrong varies from culture to culture,society to society,country to country!!!

Thousands years ago,our ancestors didn't have the norms of marriage and bonding with one single partner!! They used to share sex partners frequently!!! They were right in their ways,even though such sharing is not practiced openly anymore at present!! But our gene seems to have inherited that sharing program of our ancestors. That is why,we still feel attracted to such ideas and fantasies of sharing our sex partners and/or having multiple sex partners. And we human beings are not monogamous creatures by nature. We are mostly monogamous by nurture!!

There is nothing wrong in your fantasy. Don't feel ashamed or awkward for having such fantasy. It is just that from society's point of view,sharing spouses is wrong.

But if you and your spouse are consenting adults and want to share each other in personal levels,that is just your own choice!!!! Each adult should be let do what he/she wants to do as long as he/she is keeping that in private,and not harming other directly in the society!! Right and wrong have nothing to do with what you are doing in private,without harming others!!!

Answer 5

Bro, there is no harm at all on thinking what you have in mind. If you have sane sex and assume someone else in mind, who cares. Keep fantasy on if that triggers your sex life. Just dont be obsessed with the thought, people makes mistake there. I agree with Anjali ji on wrong if the thought is about some one that your should even think of, like mother, sister, daughter etc. Else in your mind think and keep with yourself. You can even share if thats an agreed roleplaying. And be very cautious not to get obsessed with that, else you will make a mess up. Watch your language too so that some other name doesnot come out.

Answer 6

thanks for suggesting me all...but I ask her to narrate the similar stories in which she gets fucked or gangraped during sex...initially she denied but now she naraates it and i get satisfied ..so just wonder whther she enjoy it or what is there in her mind...

Answer 7

@rah,if you have your fantasies,a female can have her own fantasies,too.............So,she could have fantasies of being fucked by other males! But she might be keeping it hidden due to her childhood learning to keep sexual fantasies of females secret!!!

The best thing would be to ask her about her own sexual fantasies,make her open up to you. Tell her that there is nothing wrong to have sexual fantasies of her own. Some women hesitate to open up to their husbands thinking that the husband would consider her lusty or slutty!!!

Interestingly,when you both have your own fantasies,describe them to each other during sex,you both would have heightened sexual experience.......... ;-)

Answer 8

No it just adds spice in ur sexlife, involve her in ur fantasies