My Wife don't have interest in Sex - why?

Question

Dear Anjali,

My Wife don't have interest in sex, always I have to do sex with her by force and I feel ashamed. Please tell me any tablet or pill.

Please reply me.

Anjali's Message : Dear user please post your age, your wife's age and how long you been married? And other details related to you and your wife life to get a better answer

Answer 1

Truely speaking, any medicine or pill will not help you to make your wife sexually active rather than causing some extra problem due to side effects..
You are her husband so try to read her mind..like what does she like,what makes her curious about sex, what is the reason behind her inactive sex life etc. etc..
Do something special so that she will think that you are very caring..
Take her to picture,park etc. etc..
If possible take her to a long holiday vacation where you can remind your honeymoon again..
And one last thing,
before doing anything first ensure that she does not have any medical problem otherwise better to consult a gynecologist first..

Answer 2

first of all even a husband cant force her wife to have sex. So please dont force her. Its unfair in our law.

Second you have only four line question. Picture is not clear that what exactly your problem is.

Not having interest in sex may contain several reasons. Mentally, physically or medically.

how old your marriage is?? please ask a question with complete details.

Answer 3

Krish's reply is in a different perspective.. If u see from a sexual point of view, i feel u may  cum off very soon compared to your wife.. It may be a possibility.. So ur wife says no to sex completely instead of doing it and leaving it in half the session for her.. So talk it out to her..
And when u start the session, make it more sensual.. Spend more time in foreplay.. Make her completely wet.. Then finger her.. If u hav enough tolerance then do a tongue tornado(i guess its called cunniling).. Then go for the session.. Make sure she cums atleast once before u ejaculate..
If this is not the reason, consult a gynac asap like krish said..
All the best brother..:)

Answer 4

Boss, complete the question first, how long you are married, how long she is not interested on sex, whether it was good at the begining.

Other than that, the question goes into different directions. From physical point, she can be asexual. From not interested for sometime, she might be having affair, for not  interested on sex may mean you are not capable to satisfy, she doesnot want to get high than fall flat. The time is important as well as your early sex history with her or anyone before.

You can guess without knowing complete info, its tends to impossible to reply. But let me touch the second point, your forcing her. Back in 1979 a husband was charged for raping wife in UK. She didnot give consent, his sex was treated as rape and 10 years behind bar. Being a husband doesnot automatically gives a license to fuck.  Try close that gap so that you dont have to force. Next example you may know of Lorenna Bobbit who cut of his husbands dick which was successfully operated and rejoined again. She was not charged with any crime, because John was forcing her everynight after getting drunk. Less: dont force. Try to understand two things, one is if she is asexual, by nature doesnot have any physical attraction on sex. And second maybe you are not fulfilling her need that she either fulfill by someone else or something else.

Re write the question, lets see which way the answer goes.

Answer 5

wife willnot take interest at all in sex its a natural phinomena but u can change her mindset by proving that ur life s so romantic wid her.never force ur wife for sex,just ask her politely about d reasons.if knowingly she s doing such then try 2 improve ur sex techniques .surely she will take interest.come again wid d outcome.

Answer 6

How old are you guys, how many years of marriage? we need  this for answering the question.
In general there are many reasons for lack of interest in sex for a lady.
1.Husbands inability to give her an orgasm, If husbands cum before giving her an orgasm, she can be frustrated and feel as used.
2.Tiredness due to household works and office works.
3.hormonal imbalance, associated with menopause.
4. Lack of lubrication and pain during intercourse.
5. Monotonous sex without any romance in it.
6.Living in a loveless marriage where husband is only  interested in sex,      without some happy hours together.
There are many like this one more may not be applicable in your marriage.
7. Having an affair (EA/PA) outside and guilt feeling associated with the affair. during an affair women are reluctant to perform sex with husband, It is due to  various reasons like Guilty feeling, to show faithfulness to lover and may be due to sufficient sex with lover.
So you can find out  now why your wife lack interest in sex? Best way is to talk her directly no one can give a better answer than herself. If its your mistake try to rectify them, if you cant do that alone come here we will help you, if its your wife's physical or emotional reasons then be with her, talk to her help her to come out of it, Never ever blame her for this, prove to her that you truly love her and its not related to sex.

Its said that actual sex start from kitchen, help her in household works, be with her as her lover who appreciate her, love her madly in a romantic way. Bring back the lost romance into your relationship

Never do sex forcefully with your wife, it will only take her away from you. It will only help to loose her respect and love for you.

Answer 7

Her problem could be psychological in nature. Due to her childhood learning,she could have developed fear,detest towards sex. She might have come from a conservative family. Or,she might even have bad sex experience,or child molestation kind of thing,which has caused her lack of interest in sex!!!

Also,if this problem of her has been a recent issue then,it could be biological,too,in nature. Is she taking some kind of Antidepressants pills? Antidepressants pills could decrease one's sexual interest! Some could have low libido due to age. Or,it could be due to boredom,as some have pointed out above.

There could be so many reasons for your problem. And you should immediately consult a doctor for this.

It is seriously frustrating to see that the wife(or husband) is not interested in sex!!!! You need to talk to her regarding the problem. If she is willing to overcome this problem,go ahead and try to solve it together. If she is not,well,then look for another means to have sex!!!

Answer 8

dear frnd it is in ur hand.. try these things..
1. be naughty and poli.. do mischief things with her like kissing to cheeks unexpectedly ..
2. never force wife to have sex. wait wait till she get horny
3. complement her and don't scold her in front of others.
4. get her to tours
5. be romantic
6. tell naughty jokes and keep her to smile
7. bring her a strong feeling that will feel her like u love her not the body..
8. give a tight hug and romantic kiss..

Answer 9

Thanks a lot for all answers. We have been married life for last 15 years. Since the 1st day she dont take much interest in sex. Although we have 4 kids but she never ask or enjoy our sex life. I am 41 and she is 38 yrs old. In the start i had premature ejaculation but with passage of time i recovered by different exercises.
I made little research about her unmarried life and i had come to know that she has some boyfriends and active sex life. But she don't have love affairs and i am 100% sure about this.
She has caring behaviour and she always give me honour.
please reply

Answer 10

its really hard to answer to u, when u have posted an incomplete question. Pls complete the quest first with details such as ur age, wifes age, is it arranged or love marriage?

Bin

Answer 11

depending on the details u provide , the answer can be given which can go in many ways.

Answer 12

sir for last 15 years u r doing sex by force wid ur wife .y u wann change ur wife's behaviour now......write clearly

Comments

ya i wanna change her behaviour

Answer 13

@bhabhi_xxx,

I don't know how you came to know about her past sexual activities. I guess,you came to such conclusion yourself. If she had sex before marriage with her boyfriend,then it doesn't mean she enjoyed her sexual encounters with her boyfriends!! May be,she did that for the sake of relation with them.

It looks like,she is somewhat frigid for some reasons. It could be that she has a very bad theory regarding males in general. She could detest males thinking that all that males want is only sex!!! It is highly likely that she is closed about sex in general. And her libido level could have gone very low due to age or circumstances!!!!!

If you want to discover what actually has happened with her,you should really start from "talking with her about herself". Yes,communicate with her. Open her up. There is no other way you can solve this problem except communicating with her. As she is the problem,you should really start to deal with herself about this problem. Communicate,talk,ask,send signals to her. See what she has to say in return!!

Answer 14

Thanks for all answers.
I am agreed with @elitely on this>> It could be that she has a very bad theory regarding males in general. She could detest males thinking that all that males want is only sex>>
I sometime heard her to talk with her female friends that all the males are same.
What you suggest me?