please help me...i am in a very grave situation

Question

dear experts and friends..i need ur advice and suggestions..pls help..
I had sexual intercouse with d girl whom i love very much..m 24 and she is 23..she took unwanted 72 30mins before the act..we did it many times...and after 24 hours she took another unwanted 72 pill...her periods hv not occurd till now (10 days overdue)..she did the home pregnancy test...and to our utter surprise came out to be positive..how could it happen..?we are totally scared and dont know what to do...we are stil students..and we dont want our parents to know..we r totally scared now..

How could it happen..?shal i beleive the test result ? What should we do now...her parents would kil her if they come to know..and i love her very much..she has been crying since...what should i do..? I am scared too...please give me a way out..please advise and help me..

Answer 1

Pretty bad... life is giving you shit now, the whole world is going through conspiracy against you. The unwanted betrayed you, preg test betrayed, her parents would kill her, they are betraying.
I am never against premarital sex, its always good to understand one another's urge. But what the hell is wrong with you, couldnot you afford condom? Few hours of pleasure of sleek pussy, now turned all agony.  
Being student doesnot mean you cant get married, age 24 and 23 is pretty good. Go for marriage, not abortion.
I may sound funny, when I always like premarital or extra marital sex, I am always against abortion. I feel people dont have a right to kill God's gift. You have the chance to be cautious, if you didnot follow that, that's your problem.
Next time check the expiry date on any medicine you take.

Comments

thnx for d suggestion...but marriage as an option is practically imposible now...from all quarters...!!! That leaves me with only abortion...my girl too wants for it...now the question is,what are the options available..only the drugs(over the counter abortifacients) method? Shall i try it ?..or doctors advice is must? We are scared  to consult doctors too... is it legal..i mean wil my and my consent enough for this...wil the doctors perform it..and moreover confidiantiality..it is utmost important...otherwise she wil break down...please do suggest more...thanks.

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If you can get the dates correctly, maybe can count and say where are you. When was her last period ended, when did you fuck, when was the next due and how many days lapsed.
On abortion, donot dare going through any friendly suggestion or experiment. It has to be completely under docs supervision. Go there as her hubby and close this. Tell them you are going abroad for 2 years and dont want her to raise a kid alone right now.
Dont worry on confidentiality, money talks.

Answer 2

cn u tell me xactly hw much time is passed frm d tym of ejaculation till d tym u r answering my question.??

Comments

28 days exactly...

Answer 3

huff..!!really a grave situation ...u should have used a condom....!!!never believe medicines,some work and some wont,...!!!pregnancy..!!!!will you surely marry her,atleast in future...!???if yes,boldly talk to her parents,that you both love each other,and convince them....!!!bro,abortion is murder....!!!just think...!!!marry her,keep her in her parents home,when you get settled take her with you...!!!just think boldly and take wise step....!!!if u want to go for abortion ,...,,then....!!!definitely visit a gynic...!!!..take her to some other place away from ur place,and go for abortion ...!!!her close ones wont know...!!!but bhayya ek bhar socho...!!!maarna jaruri hein kya...!!!

Comments

No point analysing the situation, its a murder and the guy is determined to kill the baby. This type of determination comes when the lady is someone with sensitive relationship exists that is not sharable. It can be awkward to give birth, like sister, maid. Aunt or sis in law when the hubby is away. It can't be girlfriend. Anyway a murder is murder, I just can't take this as right to suggest. Feeling bad for a unborn.

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yah...!!!but for sure mr.oye,the girl will,at sometime or other feel sorry for what she have done,and even,this guy too will feel,i am no way related to this,still,its hurting,the boy has to directly talk to the girl's parents ,and convince them,it may take tym but vl work...!!if they wont agree,they themselves will do this,...!!see...just one small careless mistake,its costing a life...to take!!!!

Answer 4

givin advice is vry easy bt followin it is vry tough.jst think wat wud u hav dne if it hppnd 2 u.m sure nbdy of u wud lyk 2 approach his/hr parents.as both f u r at a vry tender age,btter 2 avoid d baby.1st b sure of d pregnancy by cnsulting a doc.if its +ve,tak help frm a vry reliable friend ,family member(whom u cn count on n b sure he wont disclose anything)n do d abortion.mistakes happen,bt sud nt b repeated.tak care.

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mr.ravi,first of all,if it was me i would nt have done the mistake,if at all i have done,i would have tried to face it,rather than running away from it,this is an answer from the core of my heart,i know answering is easy,but dude,when you have the guts to make a mistake ,you should have the guts to face the result,.at least i would have given a try.wont have looked for abortion .unless and untill,the girl forces for.first of all i would nt do that mistake.before answering a question ,i myself will place in the shoes of that person and then answer ,unless and untill its a silly question .k......cool...!!!

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Mr. Ravi, a MAN who loves a girl stands by his dignity, pride and morality. He would take pain but wouldn't let his girl get hurt. I don't know what type of man he is or you think we are, if the age is true, relationship is true, I am one of those men who would rather face the parents, not let the loved one go through irresponsible abortion. On the first place sure I would use condom.
Either this guy is less of a man or you have seen too many losers in life, hardly any man with dignity and self respect.

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dear Mr.Oye..i know u always give an expert advice..and i respect u..thats why i postd my personal private matter in this social site..maybe i was stupid...

i also admit that i'v made a vry great mistake..i regret 4 that and i'v to bear its fruits...i very wel undrstand my responsibilities..i love her vry much and i respect her dignity,her sentiments..i'v no problem in marrying her right now and havin d child...m already establishd and doing a job now...but she is in a residential profsional course(engnering colege)..2 yrs left to pas out..it is her decision that she wants to complete her course first..she is too much scared of her parents too..moreover her parents would nvr digest the news ..!! Thats why i am in dillema and wantd ur expert advices..!!anyway thnk u al for ur suggestions..!!

Answer 5

You are no stupid to post the question, you should have given the reason before. That doesnot change the fact I will change my view about kids. The God's gift is the gift, I have seen people turn around with an abortion and due to wrong hands, made irrecoverable damage.
Your choice is with your reason, go for that. But she should be in right gyn's hand. You are earning, hope won't make the mistake of saving expense.

Answer 6

I'll say tell your parents everything, and her parents everything..!!
And Marry her..!!
PLUS, Sue th company 'Unwanted 72', as it didnt worked...!!
U might live life like a king after claiming some heavy compensation like 50lac or say 10 Lacs..!!

Btw, pray to God that ur news is welcomed with happy mood.
And Dont think of Abortion, at all..!!!
All the Best..!!
;)

Answer 7

first of all,emergency pil eficacy s nt 100%,and its nt a primary mode of cntraceptn.... u should use condom...bt the situatn u r nw,best option s consult a gyenecologist....u can go for abortn.,,,say the doctor that,it al hapend due to rupture of condom..abortion proces s very easy,as the growin fetus s jus28 days..some medicines are available xxxxxxxxx xxxxxxxxxxx to induce abortion..patient should remain in clinic for 2 to 4 hrs during which expulsn of conceptus(fetus)occur...
 mr oye s talking idealy bt his sugestn s nt practical...as the baby s nt viable,it takes 28 wks to b viable,so sayin abortion as murder s totaly wrong

Comments

Please dont suggest any medicine. Even if you a physician, I suggest thats a bad idea. Let the right people do that. Sorry deleting the names.

Answer 8

and if u dnt want this baby,u dnt wana consult doctor,dnt wana inform parents then nly optn left s self medicatn..try this..xxxxxxxxxx  single dose and two days later xxxxxxxxxxxx single dose...

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Please dont suggest any medicine. Even if you a physician, I suggest thats a bad idea. Let the right people do that. Sorry deleting the names.

Answer 9

before that make sure tha c s nt having any heart problm or asthma...

Answer 10

Dear Amit, with due respect, I am disagreeing with you with my consciousness. What you are talking about are the medical point of view, I respect that.

I have a habit of reading anything I get in hand, and reading whatever I get my hand only. That includes politics, history, porno, global effect or different religions.  No matter what I do in life, I have my own thought and belief, I consider myself an oldage orthodox in some issues. One of them is on abortion.

In one religion I read the moment sperm meets eggs, God gives a life and it remains 'hanging' as a clot inside the womb, (the fetus). I believe that. My writing was based on my old belief.  No matter what you say on medical terms, I would stick to my belief.

I can give a simple example, I was in Korea, I was drinking with a lady and asked a stupid question, whats her age. She said she has three ages, one is as per English calender, one as per Korean calender and the other is as Korean belief, English calender plus 9 months and 10 days. Koreans do believe the same belief for 1000s years that a life is born when a sperm meets an egg. And they still believe that. When a whole culture believe that, who am I ? Just an old believer of old school book.

Well, that's my belief, I am not ready to change that.

Answer 11

ya its ur wish,none can force u to change...everythng in society has two aspects,one is reality that is science,and other s social aspect..that v r jus following generatn to generatn...so its nt a matter of debate,its a persons choice:-) life starts with the sperm and egg contact thats true

Answer 12

i too dnt wantd to prescribe the medicine,bt understandin the situatn i kept it as a last optn...

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Thanks for the understanding. This is a sexual health site, we shouldnot prescribe any medicine which are not OTC. Suppose following your prescription some accident occurs, who would be blamed? The site of course. We should avoid medicine to stay away from any legal harassment. Anjali ji was strict on this ground.

Answer 13

Very sad yaar..but how it is possible (by taking unwanted 72 ).  Not to worry much u need to go to the doctor and ask for solution...and i think at dis tym u need to take   doctors help not ours...and from next tym use condom..

Answer 14

I have read all answers & comments. Every one is trying to give best advice that's good. Please buy condoms & if you can't afford go to Govt. Hospitals or dispensary you will get free. For you Mr. userfrnd its wrong if you think abortion is not similar to killing or murder. First of all you are mature enough to understand your responsibilities for your girlfriend. You can arrange place for fucking her earning good job you have than why can't you hold her hand for life of a baby?? Baby is yours.
It may be odd & rough but tell me if after marriage you are gifted with a baby child by blessing of God can you kill that baby with your hands ?? surely no way even you can't see your baby crying. So legally & religiously abortion is wrong.
On the other hand if you go for abortion What if some one know about abortion?? While abortion any complication could occur. At that condition you have to face more problems than now you are facing. If some one came to know about abortion what you think will they give you a medal for this?? surely it will create very critical situation.
So I want to say on the both side of coin its problems & problems for you. And if you must have to face the problems so why to kill a baby??
Just hold her hand & start your life. Later or sooner every thing goes smoothly.

Answer 15

Dear,i'll advice u 2 cancel the decision of abortion,because it might result to another dangerous thing to the girl concerned if not properly handled by a gyn.Some die in d cause because of wrong drug prescription,some can lead to infertility if not handled carefully,so be wise,if the girl's parents can take it when she's pregnant,then how do you think they will take it when the problems above occure?,it'll be a double shit for you.This's the time to show that you're a man,ok.

Answer 16

Abortion is crime and if your are supporting it then you are a criminal. A sweet fruit is growing around cactus don't ignore the fruit and try to destroy the cactus around the fruit hope you get my points. No matter what conditions you'll are facing but I would suggest marriage is the perfect option. Long hurdles ahead breakthrough it and see the future.
Time to act mature and be a man. Now you must know what to do. Want to be a criminal or saviour.