Hi guys, hi Anjali aunty.

How are you? Remember me? I posted a question on your FSIblog.com once asking whether I should dump my girlfrnd or not? And you replied it with a nice suggestion. Well I am happy that we have not broken-up since then and our 6 years love journey is going on a very happy and right track.

Well, today I am here to ask you one more question in which I am again confused. Actually in our sex life, I am really satisfied by my girl, but till now we have only done oral sex and not intercourse. As I read everyday in your blog, that perhaps 95% of the boys who have visited your blog have fucked their girlfriends once or more, but in my 6 years of love life, I haven't had till now.

My confusion is that reading all that stuff on your blog, I sometimes get aroused and I wanted to fuck my girlfriend but when I think about our love and listen to my heart, I always feel as if it would not be right to fuck her before marriage. I have discussed this issue with my girlfriend and she said smilingly whatever I decide she is ready for. She says she is also confused about this issue that if she should be fucked before or after marriage as sometimes she also gets kinky with me.

If I fuck her before marriage, then also she is fine and if after then also she has no complains. As she says that she is totally mine and I can do whatever I like to do with her. She is happy with whatever I decide but my heart sometimes says that I should not fuck her before marriage as it would not be right and somewhere my pure love will not be pure anymore after that and sometimes when I get exited, then I feel like fucking her hard before marriage (using condoms) as sooner or later we will be married to each other. So why I should wait for my first night and rather not enjoy the happy moments starting now. I also feel that sexual intercourse after marriage will be exiting and interesting as it will add something new to our sexual relationship as we have already seen and felt each other naked and the only thing left between us is intercourse and trying various tricks and poses with each other.

So if I fuck her now then there will be nothing extra I will get in my first night or after marriage. I also think that if I fuck her now then I will fuck her everyday as the gates will be open for me. As you know HOW a MAN THINKS WHEN HE GETS FREE ACCESS and if by-chance anything goes wrong and unluckily if we can't be together due to our family or any other reason then it will not be good for my girlfriend as it will be hard for her to forget me and those sweet moments of our life and also its bad for her future life. But seeing her sometimes, I really wanted to fuck her as she has really become very hot and sexy these days because of the warmth and charm of my love. I always try my level best to keep her happy and smiling and due to this she is very happy from inside which reflects on her face.

I really love her (writing this post also, I couldn't stop myself from thinking about her) So what to do? I don't know and I ask you all TECHNICAL ENGINEERS (of sex, relationship and love) to suggest me the right thing to do. Waiting for your replies and ya… one more thing "LOVE YOU SWEET and SEXY ANJALY AUNTY :-*  

Regards.

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1. Hi,
   when you start treating sex as an extra thing or something different, you tend to bring in the concept of sex before marriage or after marriage or some particular day where you want to start. treat that like a thing which you would enjoy..suppose you love cricket, you go and play it at anytime you want and do not look from so called morals point of view……when you start loving the sex, you do enjoy it more than anyone but make sure to explain the girl clearly on the consequences of it, coz girls have more tendency to have a guilty feeling the next mor…explain her that it is a thing which they would love to do and enjoy it…….try to create an awareness on herself, her body, her mind status and situations where you liked her….like suppose you guys go out to some party….and you get a feeling that at one context like while having a desert, you loved her lips and you got aroused and explain it to her that it was superb view of her…i feel that when a girl makes her guy aroused, it is a passionate compliment  to her and i feel that girl is powerful…..girl would go crazy about you when you tend to make her aware of her sexuality and boost her confidence levels…be liberal but passionate and honest…..so in one line "you should love to have sex at any point of time" and do not keep basic pre conditions that you should have sex before marriage or " you should give her a gift only on her bday or some anniversary" or something like that….

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   Answer by axbycz — March 4, 2010

2. Whats the point in creating a confusion when you are already in love with her.
    
   Live the Moment. Go ahead. Tomorrow is pretty uncertain. Even if you two do not end up together you will always carry fond memories that will last forever; with or without a formal marriage.

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   Answer by False — March 4, 2010

3. oooh! its very lenghty story. Hats off ur love bcoz of u r taking maximum care for ur Udbi and to her lyf…just suggest that If u fuck her i promise u I  that U may not get interest After ur intercource. As i think it should be in control 
   Enjoy the Pre-marriage lyf with-out intercource.. love u fz

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   Answer by shwetha9899 — March 4, 2010

4. Hey,
    do u think having sex with her is a sin?! Go ahead man. I suspect your girlfriend is eager to have sex with you and because of your traditional? thoughts she is a bit hesistance to start.
   yes tomorrow is uncertain, Go ahead, take proper precautions and enjoy sex, you romio

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   Answer by jessica — March 4, 2010

5. Saving somethings till the last will be really sweet… so, better wait till the marriage.

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   Answer by sandy — March 4, 2010

6. Dude,
   You really are THE man, well bro like u said, if u can wait till marriage i think that would make things more magical. U already know all the right answers.
   I could NEVER have been able to wait.
   Wish you all the luck in your marriage.

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   Answer by vivek — March 5, 2010

7. Hi
   I am 39 yrs old and my wife is 34 we are married for 13yrs now. We were both lovers before marriage for 3 years and we did the same things you did and we always had question of intercourse or no at that time.We some how succeeded in not having it till our first night.I promise you that the wait is worth every bit .It  is world of differnce when u do it as ur wife. I can promise u as we have expericed it. Even after 13 yrs we r very much in love, have 2 kids,our busy schedule ,still do daily.
   also as u r today twice we got so hot that is almost inserted then i stopped not her.The act of controlling is not easy at it just shows your love for her is true.Moreover the love and need to have her cpmletly will make you go nay extend to marry her inspite of all problems.
   I am not sure about other answers thsi is from my heart and great to know a guy even these days who respects LOVE!! KEEP IT UP.

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   Answer by afroni — March 5, 2010

8. Hey Every1

   May be my answer is impractical for you guys, specially gals who already posted there answer, but just think with your mind
   man u carried on your relation since last 6 years u guys had oral sex but never an intercourse y so(isnt that ur respect for your partners feeling/ may be respect toward the first intercourse at your first night) thats gal never pulled you toward sex even after oral n neither you what i understand is even she wants to do all with her hubby, n she permitting u coz she dont see you anything else less then her hubby………………….may be this is it what i want to make you think decission is intirely yours here every1 can put his or her point of view, as today we Indian even living in such a mordern society where we think that everything is fare but everything that occurs at right time catters you with best flavour n enjoyment
    
   Rest you are the boss of your life………….take the best decission

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   Answer by vikas.sharma24 — March 5, 2010

9. dude,
   make sure your GF is not fucking aroung with some other person…sex is a natural thing and makes life full of happiness.

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   Answer by LOVEAND LUST — March 5, 2010

10. Can't imagine how funny the girlfriend's side of this story is….don't fuck up your relationship by being so bloody considerate…she wants a strong decisive sexy man who's not afraid to make mistakes not a cuddly donkey…..bring on the negatives…

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    Answer by deepinaunty — March 6, 2010

11. i can say u are a great lover.wait till u get married 
     
    hatss off dear 
     
    & best of luck to both 

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    Answer by striker — March 6, 2010

12. To fuck or not to fuck ..I ll say.. what the fuck! (WTF)..lolz dude u need some counselling i hope u get here….

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    Answer by Cybot — March 7, 2010

13. Hi frnds..thanx for suggesting me your views and opinions with regards to my question…thanx for the compliments given to me by some of the members..and i also want to reply those who are calling me donkey,etc or doubting on my GF's sanity is that my GF is not like those girls who kept on fucking by others..she is a good girl with all the moral values and respect..and if u r calling me donkey etc for waiting and not fucking her till now..then i think they dont kno wat is LOVE and they have never felt it..Fucking is not a big deal..the main thing is winning someone's heart..u can get a pussy to fuck,everywhere if u want but getting some one's heart is very hard…ya i will go with the majority that i should wait and do it after marriage as some where down the heart i also feel the same..
    @afrini
    the case u just told also happened to me..and i also stopped at just the pussy entrance feeling that it is not rite for my luv as well as for my gf..and moreover listening to your real experience i can just imagine the enjoyment and pleasure i will get on my 1st night..thanx bro..wish me luck so that i can win her totally and can live my life and love to the fullest
    @anjali aunty
    iam a bit dissappointed aunty that u have'nt replied to my doubt this time..i just wanted to hear a line from you regarding my matter..but..
    perhaps u wer too busy..
    ANY WAYS thank u all and i just want u all to pray for me so that we can be together very soon and can live a happy married life..luv u guys and also gals(shweta and jessica)
    Confused Aashiq-Dinesh

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    Answer by @all — March 7, 2010

14. Been there done that, so my advice
    WAIT

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    Answer by Someone — March 7, 2010

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