Hi Anjali,
Been reading your counsel for a long time. I sometimes did laugh at them , but never tought I would be writing in about my own confused state. My girl and myself have been going aroung for more than six months, and we both are satisfied with the love and sex we share. During the first moth of our relationship, my girlfried used to meet her friend who is married and filthy rich. She used to spend nights with him often and I did allow her , as I thought she had been with other friends and she claimed that he was her best friend. I came to know recently that she used to have sex with him and used to take pills to prevent pregnancy. Earlier when she told me about her missed and irregular periods , I was worried that I was the reason to it all and che complaint the same. A month after our relationship started she stopped metting him and everyone told me that she was mine now.  When i confront her about her relationshop , she keeps crying and cribbing that they cheated her and she had not done anything intentionally or to hurt me. She also says that she stopped having sex with him after meeting me and she now does not meet the guy anymore. I loved her a lot from day one, and even now I love her. She loves me as well, and has even gone to the extend of tatooing my name on her chest. I however get very hurt on being cheated.  I am mostly normal but when I think about what she did I feel betrayed and restless. Please let me know how to overcome this or what I need to do about my confused state. Please help.

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1. you do the same
   

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   Answer by Pratyaksha — February 19, 2010

2. hi..,  leave her,find some one, who does not have any past affairs…i sure she will cheat u in futur.

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   Answer by bharat — February 19, 2010

3. she is cheater dude leave her

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   Answer by lucky11 — February 19, 2010

4. if have cool mind and attitute to accept then forgive her else leave her otherwise you will live hell of life

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   Answer by indianraul — February 19, 2010

5. Well dude your are in a soup, you need to make your mind very clear and to need to do that take your time off from the girl drop her like a hot brick, and let your feelings cool down. Meanwhile go and chill out with freinds and meet new people, and concentrate on your carrer. things will fall in place, you will know in time wheter ur feelings are still there or not and how much the girl loves you.

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   Answer by gullucool1 — February 19, 2010

6. Well dude your are in a soup, you need to make your mind very clear and to need to do that take your time off from the girl drop her like a hot brick, and let your feelings cool down. Meanwhile go and chill out with freinds and meet new people, and concentrate on your carrer. things will fall in place, you will know in time wheter ur feelings are still there or not and how much the girl loves .

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   Answer by gullucool1 — February 19, 2010

7.               She has cheated you. Fuck her so hard that she would never forget the f….

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   Answer by Owaiskazi — February 19, 2010

8. You have a good question, and these type of questions are too common these days. Girlfriend-boyfriend is not a legal relationship, its based on convenience to have a dedicated fuck partner.
   Think in two ways, one is, do you get to see a future? She also needs to look for her best option in life, so should you. If you found a future and it was evident to her, sure she wouldnot fuck around. You failed to prove the ‘future together’.
   Secondly, whatever we say, would you listen to us? You wont and you shouldnt. What you should do is listen to your heart. If you make the right judgment, do that and convey her.
   Sunshine, I do appreciate people take their decision based on circumstances. She is your girlfriend, not wife that a few fuck will upset you. So is applicable for you, a few fuck outside doesnt matter. Think about this. If you can trust her, forget all and be there. If cant, just forget her. But dont cry over on something that you cant change.
   By the way, have you heard the term revenge fuck? Its when your partner cheats on you, you do the same to get things straight.

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   Answer by Oye … — February 19, 2010

9. u do the same and see how she behaves…if she is calm and accepting stay with her or else leave her

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   Answer by rakesh100 — February 19, 2010

10. Try to leave her and forget everythaing that happened in the past and think again what is wrong and what is right?Because there is no future in her, So look at the right path…Best wishes

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    Answer by neeraj20065 — February 19, 2010

11. Hey there,
    if u about to accept her just keep eye on her.  please don't forget now she awared that u know the story; despite that if gonna have her she will definitely catch your weakness ( that u blind after her) don't trust her. and if u r looking for some true girl, just leave her !!!she must repeat. may  u felt  betrayal much then now, it may lead u  in deep sorrow which take lots of time to rehab yourself and surely it will effect your productivity on your study/profession/service.
    please don't pay attention on tattoo; its trick to take back u. 
    hope my suggestion may help in making ur decision. 
    john Alexander
    
    

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    Answer by John Alexander — February 19, 2010

12. hello dear all,
                  I tried revenge fuck but it just increases my anger ( momentarily ofcourse )…. I really dont know why sometimes sex and lust just over rides love… revenge fuck didnt work for me.. i did went and told it back to her.. she cried.. but she agreed to stay with me.. I love her and she loves me and we still enjoy our sex life ( i dont want ppl to think that am with this girl for a fuck ).. i have no doubt in this,though am keeping an eye sorry both my eyes on her.. she knows that too.. but the incident have made a deep wound inside me.. its occasionally erupting.. imagine.. you love some one for more than six months and one day you come to know that she was sleeping around the whole first month.. i feel the base of the love was shaken though she reminded very loyal after the first month.. i did agreed her back but this wound is irritating.. i tried looking out also but am SCARED of serious relations in one way.. it has affected my productivity.. all i want is now to get my mind cleared of this wound.. infact sometimes i think am just being too over whelmed by male ego thing.. or may be i should wait for time to heal me..BUT TRUST ME AM REALLY SCARED TO TRUST PEOPLE IN LOVE NOW A DAYS…:).. thank you all

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    Answer by Mr black long — February 19, 2010

13. give a break dude……tell her tht u need some time, try to concentrate on other things…..try to forget her…….if she still comes to your mind n if u r good enough to forgive her past n accept her, give her a chance all da best…….

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    Answer by shadow420 — February 19, 2010

14. i loved a girl for 7years like mads even she loved me the same, but 1day she said its nt going to work out u see ur life and i see my life that time i got a shock of my life. its always true, girls friends are never trust worth. 1 thing i have learned in my life u cnt trust any1. dnt run behind any thing, what ever comes accept it got it dear. find a new g/f all ur problem will b solver bye .
    

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    Answer by SHAUKAT — February 20, 2010

15. People often say life is too short. I differ on this, life is too long to brood around, suffer for nothing, get bogged down with earlier experience.
    To the questioner, thanks for responding. The purpose of the site is share your problem that you couldnt do elsewhere, get feedback and do what seems right for you. Besides a lot of fake questions, some genuine problem comes, and we all love them who responds based on people comment. You are one, thanks buddy.
    Not necessarily what majority says is right, but there is reason for everything. People asking you to leave her, because once a cheater always a cheater. I dont think thats all true or all wrong. She is with you for six months, the first month she wasnt sure about you, so exploring aroind. But next five months of fidelity, arent you taking to consideration?
    Look sunshine, you have some small issues, you need to fix. One is keep eyes on her, dont stress yourself on that, either you learn to trust or dont. Second, why the fuck cant you forget something and torture yourself that you didnot do? Looks to me you really love this girl so does she. A momenth of mistake, if you cant shake of as part of life, you cant go forward. You may get married and still spy on her. Marrige is based on trust, learn to trust her, if you see a future.
    Whoever said he got a shock and cant trust anyone anymore, please, move on with youe life. Dont think all the girls are exactly similar. Dont jump into conclusion that you will be hurt one after other, life is too big.
    Finally when in love, dont think you are in love with the one you love, rather try to find the one who loves you.

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    Answer by Oye … — February 20, 2010

16. By the way, you thought of revenge fuck, it got you angry, it didnt work for you. Does it mean you did it or didnt try? Don’t jump to conclusion again. This is a very good way of letting out your anger. By revenge fuck, should be an one night stand without any mental attachment, you dont lower yourself to earn a lower status. It actually helps to get rid of the fume and anger that bothers you. The best part of revenge fuck is, if the girl is really good, you might find an option to dump yoir girl and get to a new relation.
    And I dont think you are with this girl for free fuck, it really seems like you two really are in love. Best wishes for both of you, I wish could see that tattoo!!

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    Answer by Oye … — February 20, 2010

17. Usake gand pe laat maar aur use tere zindagi se bahar nikal,
    agar aisa nahi hoga to teri zindagi barbaad ho jayegi,
    lavade, zindagi bhar kisi dusare ki aulad palata rahega. .
    kisi ladki ko bahar k lavado ki aadat lag gayi to zindagi bhar nahi jati. . .now or never

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    Answer by Pankajjg — February 20, 2010

18. Forgive and forget my friend. If you have a forgiving mind, Im sure things will be better. And guess what there are so many guys and and girls out there who cheat on their partners and they never know. People change, give them a chance to change. Not every murderer is a serial killer. You may not get a girl who loves you more than this. When she know's you accept her and love her even after she has done all this , she becomes yours.. Don't let the mind rule your heart. Listen to your heart and you will win the best degree in life.

    All the best my friend

    devil

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    Answer by devils_r_naughty — February 20, 2010

19. Well, nobody can make the decision for you since we don't her fully. Ask one question, do you want her to be the mother of your kids? If no, enjoy while it last and break up with her.

    Did she say why she cheated on you?

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    Answer by sivamdavid — February 22, 2010

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