Hi Anjali Aunty,
I am really thankful to you to have such a site where without any worry we share our problems.

I am now engaged to man who is very good and nice in nature and I don’t want to lose him.  The thing is, in the past, one of my close relative uncle fucked me and exploited me and blackmailed me. In fact he even made me have sex with his friends and his senior for his professional purpose. This was going on for the last 6 years and last year he died in a road accident. Now I met my fiancee with whom I am going to get married.
I don’t know if I should tell him about my past or not. I feel very guilty of hiding this from him. I am afraid to lose him. This could also mean a bad name for me and my family. What should I do? What will I tell him on “suhaagraat” when he will ask me about my virginity? I spend sleepless night thinking about this.

Please help.

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1. lolz.wat the fuck.
   6 years damn.i am damn sure that guy will leave u,if he is GOOD.

   its like now virginty hardly matters.but then six years with 3 males is something which no one will accept.

   if he does means he is the best man.

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   Answer by rocky — November 5, 2009

2. If you can survive 6 years of sexploitation without opening your mouth then you can always fake enough sound on your “suhaagraat”.

   Palkhi Shenoy…. when you were abused and used and abused and used like a taxi, you never thought of doing something about it? were you that helpless or dumb, never to seek help from someone you trust???? Blackmail…you were scared of blackmail….what the fuck is there to be scared and from whom society???? were you concerned about your family’s name???? your family name is so famous that you had to sacrifice your pussy to pack of rats.

   GRRRR..I feel so angry with you…Shiney Ahuja’s maid is much better than you educated idiots.

   Ok I am kool now. You want to know how should your play your cards for your future. but that is great you have finally found some nice bloke and I sincerely hope you have a great marriage with him and live ahppily ever after.

   All you have to do is erase from your mind all the crap you have done in the past. Just erase them and think nothing ever happened. Just google search as to how chinese women fake their virginity. There is a product on the market that mimics torn hymen and oozes fake boold. Google it up and buy one if you want. On your suhaagrat, swith off all light and pretend you have never been into the arms of any man before and don;t let you hand do any stuff, le tyour husband do all the acting and you just pretend to be a shy virgin. Make enough drama about the insertion and fake some pain…..you know the script right???

   Good luck babe..let us know how you life is moving…

   RedMercury

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   Answer by redmercury — November 5, 2009

3. HELLO BABY,
   FORGET ABOUT PAST,BE LIKE A NEW BRIDE,BE AND FEEL LIKE FRESH,FORGET ABOUT PAST AND LOOK FOR THE FUTURE IF THE FUTURE IS IN CONTROLABLE.ITS ALL UP ON YOU,DO THE SCENE AND THE ACT.

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   Answer by baroda7813@yahoo.com — November 5, 2009

4. may be a boy, but did ur uncle cm fuck u gal, its a pity, y dint u informed ur parents den, but nw however try to manage lik bein a virgin if u love dat guy so much

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   Answer by raj — November 6, 2009

5. You said that your man is a good man. Then why are you worried. Forget the past. Start a new life. If it is so hard for you to forget, then on the first night you tell your hubby about everything. I am sure he will accept you, regardless of your past. Don’t worry baby. Forget your past, if you can. Start with a new beginning. Time heals everything. The more you try to remember the more pain you get. So forget. My wishes lady

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   Answer by Kumar_Love — November 11, 2009

6. well I dont want to mingle with what happened in your past it may be true or may not be
   we have to answer according to the question and what information is provided.
   Look.. forget what happened and never tell your husband about it.
   There are certain issues which should be kept secret you have kept it secret with your family and you can do it with your husband for entire life
   Now talking about virginity matter on suhagraat r u ok? do u really think that ur husband will search on bed sheet where has the blood dropped.
   Dear forget all and live a nice and peaceful life with your husband.
   May God bless and protect you

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   Answer by hydspesial — November 21, 2009

7. Wel can’t say about what to do on your first night.

   But i heard somewhere that pro sex workers use to some kind of operation i thing that make you cunt tight but i do’t remember that surgery’s name but go for it.

   And please shift yourself from that location from abroad to elsewhere you can never met other monster of your uncle.

   I am sorry i want to blame you to get used for 6 years. You have wasted a lot of time by become their private property.
   I know sometime circuta.. Makes us to do that. But for 6 years that means you were be dump during that and now you eyes opens.
   Goes bless you
   happy marriage.

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   Answer by sunnyx12x21x — December 5, 2009

8. Hey,
   Past is Past!! Forget it.. think bout a brighter tomorrow with your dream guy.. If you are very confident that he’s too good to u/stand your problem., then you may consider telling him bout the past..

   But sincerely, digging the old graves will never help any of you.. We do not know on what circumstances you were forced to do with your uncle/his friends., but try forgetting same a bad dream..

   Don’t bother about suhaagraat and give your best dedicated luv to your hubby.. all a good man needs is a u/standing/friendly wife..

   All the best..

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   Answer by rockyjasmine — December 30, 2009

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