Dear Anjali Aunty,

First of all, I must thank you for the great work you are doing to guide this young generation.

I am a 23 year old girl from Gurgaon. Currently I am dating a 28 year old guy who is a very good friend of my elder brother. We had been dating for around 8 months and have established physical relationship very frequently in last three months.

My concern is the very strange behaviour of my elder brother. After my every date, he calls up or meets my boyfriend and ask what all happened on our date. Earlier, my boyfriend found it very strange and shocking but now even he enjoys sharing the things with my brother.

I didn’t trust my boyfriend’s word earlier but once he dialed my brother infront of me and started narrating how he fucked me that day and I was shocked to see how curiously my brother was listening to all that on the phone. He was inquiring everything about how my boyfriend fucked me, in what positions and what all I liked while getting fucked. I was shocked to hear those words which I feel ashamed of writing here. But when I meet my brother, he is a very caring and very good brother as usual. He is very decent with me and respects me as a younger sister very well.

I am unable to understand how should I react to this situation? Is this normal? Should I let the things go the way its going, as it is of no harm to anybody or I should do anything to stop it. Please suggest.

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1. Having a boyfriend is not all about having a steady sex-mate, its as close as remain faithful, respect privacy, giving space and keeping trust.
   It’s a wake up call for you, girl, wake up and smell the coffee. Its time to change your boyfriend’s behaviour, not your brother’s.
   There are lots of guys like this who boasts and shares all the bedroom details of ‘girlfriends’ with friends the same person never shares anything about his ‘wife’. You happen to see only one, that’s your brother, I am sure your boyfriend is giving the same narration to others too.
   Your brother is just being curious, that you can control in near future, but your boyfriend is a ‘bragger’ that you can’t change. Talk to some of your brother’s friends, I can sense you will get the same reply, your body they haven’t seen, but they know every single details about you.
   I know about a classmate of our own, she was going steady and her boyfriend was our classmate too. He was exactly like your boyfriend, would describe every single ‘juicy details’ to us. We never saw her nude, but looking at her and matching with the description, we knew exactly what she looks like in full nude, what she will do in bed.
   She didnot beleive any other friends, but the day she heard on her own ear, she dumped him for good.
   Time to change your boyfrind and find someone ‘trustworthy’.

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   Answer by Oye … — October 5, 2009

2. First of all I think you should such type of boyfriend. And second think that may be your brother is mentally ill or he loves incest. I think you should consider your brother as mentally challenged person.

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   Answer by ibbd — October 5, 2009

3. Bad incident. Better change your boyfriend or make him understand that he should not share these information with any one. else you will be seen by your circle as erotic as possible.

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   Answer by ssn — October 6, 2009

4. yes, warn your bf to not share this anymore.

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   Answer by evening — October 10, 2009

5. dont share any videos with your boyfriend, i am sure he will make you another anara guptha,

   al the best

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   Answer by murga — November 1, 2009

6. IT BE GOOD TO LEAVE YOUR BOY FRIEND,AT END SLAP HIM.HOW CAN YOU TRUST HIM,WHEN YOUR BOY FRIEND HAD GIVEN ALL YOUR BOTHS PRIVATE MOMENTS TO YOUR BROTHER,AT LAST IN FRONT OF YOU ON PHONE,THAN JUST IMAGINE,HOW MANY OF HIS FRIENDS KNOW MORE ABOUT ALL THIS?YOU MIGHT BE ON HOT LIST ON EVERY ONE”S LIPS.WAKE UP NOW.

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   Answer by baroda7813@yahoo.com — November 5, 2009

7. i guess the best way is this …u better not ask anything from ur bf about what is happening on the other side…may be ur bro wants to keep update what u r doin and all….if ur bf stops telling him then i guess there might b a problem …if ur bf is a timepass stick to anothe one or …stick with him…and try to be normal and tell ur bf nt to share evrythng with ur bro

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   Answer by rednived — December 4, 2009

8. i guess the best way is this …u better not ask anything from ur bf about what is happening on the other side…may be ur bro wants to keep update what u r doin and all….if ur bf stops telling him then i guess there might b a problem …if ur bf is a timepass stick to anothe one or …stick with him…and try to be normal and tell ur bf nt to share evrythng with ur bro

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   Answer by rednived — December 4, 2009

9. reak up wit ur bfrnd…seems like they are upto smthing

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   Answer by meenakshi — July 31, 2010

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