Article: Some Common Fetishes
We usually associate fetishes with the weird and exotic, but chances are you have some of your own. Here are the most common.
Most people just want to know if they fall on the sexually “normal” spectrum, typically to justify what’s going through their mind when they are fantasizing. The truth is, there is no normal when it comes to sex; the only constants are diversity and variation, because we are all different in our sexual desires! As long as there’s mutual consent and satisfaction with your partner, it really doesn’t matter what you chalk up to normal.
So, what’s the difference between a fantasy and a fetish? A fantasy is something you spend a good amount thinking about while having sex or masturbating. Some of these fantasies are high up on your sex list and some you’d prefer never to see the light of day.
A fetish, however, is something that HAS to be present for you to achieve arousal and orgasm. So while you might fantasize about a threesome, you don’t need two other women in the bed with you (though it could be a good time every once in awhile.) But if you have a fetish for tattoos, better make sure your partner is inked or you’re going to have some trouble staying sexually focused.
With that important distinction all cleared up, here are some of the most common fetishes:
1. Foot Fetish
If the smell of raw feet does nothing but makes you want to take a cold shower, you’re probably not going to fall into the foot fetish camp. Every detail about the foot can get this particular person going. The majority of foot fetishists are men and they often like to smell, lick or taste feet and require some interaction with any part of your foot to experience orgasm and overall sexual satisfaction.
Voyeurism is a fetish that revolves around getting turned on by looking at people having sex or staring at naked bodies, wherever they can find them. A lot of people have this fetish for observation; they might just be unaware of it. But since 30% of all data transferred on the Internet last year was porn, it’s safe to say the voyeurism is actually at an all time high.
This fetish describes those who experience immense sexual pleasure when their partner wears latex, rubber, vinyl or other shiny and tight materials. Rubberists, as these fetishists have also been called, experience the presence of such slinky materials as a type of bondage. For others, simply the smell or feel of latex is enough to get them revved up.
4. Domination And Submission
Dominance and submission are part of the acronym, BDSM, which has become part of the common vernacular, thanks to the recent explosion of 50 Shades of Grey. It stands for bondage, domination and submission, sadism and masochism but it’s really an umbrella term for couples who engage in any kind of dominant submissive power play during sex. For this to be considered a fetish rather than just a part of a healthy sex life, one or more of the participants must require this type of play in order to feel sexually stimulated.
5. Body Piercing
This is a quite popular fetish and incorporates everything from pierced belly buttons to eyebrows, penises and nipples. People who have piercings are often drawn towards other people who have pierced themselves just as provocatively. Just the look of another person with piercings might be enough to turn them on, but it can also be the feeling of the cold metallic object rubbing against their body that spikes their adrenaline like nothing else.
6. Breasts And Behinds
Who doesn’t love a great behind or some amazing breasts? But does that make you a fetishist? Let’s find out. Evolutionarily speaking, men are wired to focus on these areas as a sign of fertility. In the bedroom, you’ll know which one you're into if you find yourself constantly wanting to flip her around to doggy style or you’d rather watch her bounce around on top to get a nice view of her breasts during cowgirl. While any man can appreciate these lovely assets, men with these specific fetishes may find it difficult to reach climax without plump breasts or a firm behind in direct view.
Hair is another surprisingly popular fetish. Whether it’s tied in ponytails, braids or pigtails, on a blonde, brunette or redheaded woman, every guy has his own specific preference. Bottom line: the innate sensuality of hair does it for guys on many levels. This fetish could also be more focused on specific styles. When hair is styled in a ponytail, it can easily resemble a whip or provide you with something to pull while you’re in the heat of the moment. Hair is also synonymous with youth, so a woman with pigtails can fulfil a fetish for younger women. And hey, as long as she’s not actually a schoolgirl, there’s nothing wrong giving her a hair tug when she’s late for class.
8. Cross Dressing
This one is more common than you’d imagine and involves the fetishist needing to either wear clothes from the opposite sex or be sexually intimate with someone who is. This fetish is common among both straight and gay men. For many guys, knowing they’re wearing even just an item of clothing that is forbidden to them and could be caught doing so, can spike the arousal factor.
9. Water, Thunder And Lightning
Water is popular fetish with both men and women. Just the sound of running water is all the magic they need to get going. A shower, a faucet or even rain storms all work to fulfill this fetish. Some women might even find themselves getting turned on by the sound of thunder and lightening. Those random acts of gigantic flashes of light in the sky can be enough trigger their desire for sex.
There exists a subculture of people that call themselves “furries.” These people get together a few times a year to dress up in furry animal costumes as a form of expression, whether sexual or otherwise. These aren’t always your average woodland creatures, either! If you visited a furry convention, you might also see a life-sized kitty with long, bejeweled eyelashes or a pastel bunny rabbit with sumptuous breasts. If this sounds a little out there, you can do what many others have done and search “furry porn” on the Internet to get a better idea of what I’m talking about. It is important to note that not all members of the furry lifestyles participate in a sexual way, much like with the world of cosplay. But of course, there are some who do have a full on furry fetish and prefer furry sex (which does not always involve actual intercourse) to everyday lovemaking.
No matter what you or your partner is into sexually, keep in mind that there is something out there for everybody. It’s important to stay open-minded and never be afraid to try something new. You never know, you might find that feet, pigtails or women’s panties could take your sexual experience to the next level, and there’s nothing wrong with that!
Men and women both agreed that taut tummies make them somewhat crazy. But others said that they would never bed a potential partner if their tummies protruded or hung loosely.
Some guys weren't as picky and admitted that they liked it when a woman had a tummy with a teensy-weensy little pot. One gentleman was very adamant about needing to release himself on a woman's stomach or his experience simply wouldn't be pleasurable.
This one was quite popular with the younger crowd (18-35). Everything from bellybuttons, tongues and nipples to eyebrows and penises was not only acceptable, but for a specific few, it was a prerequisite.
One guy told us that he loves tongue rings because after being pleasured by a girl who had one, he couldn't go back to the "ordinary." The feeling of the cool object rubbing against his penis while her hot mouth engulfed him "felt like heaven."
Leather, rubber, vinyl, latex
Men seem to love material; perhaps not the actual feel of it, but the rather pornographic quality it gives to a sexual encounter. Although men look to settle down with a sweet woman, most will forever have a fixation with that "bad girl" look.
"Watching a woman move around in anything tight and shiny is a tease in itself," says one gentleman. Another man told me that his girlfriend's entire wardrobe consists of latex and leather.
Domination and submission
To my amazement, most women dominate and most guys submit. HELLO! A lot of women said they love to order their men around in bed like slaves and spank them, smack them, and even penetrate them with a strap-on.
Guys, on the other hand, enjoy submitting to women and being told what to do. I guess most of them are probably tired of performing all the time. Everything I mentioned that the women do -- well, the men enjoy having those things done to them. Welcome to the new millennium.
Feet and hands
You knew this fetish was coming didn't you? Men enjoy licking, sucking, kissing, and biting women's feet almost exclusively. Some guys simply can't date a woman if she has ugly feet or toes.
Women, I was surprised to learn, love to suck on men's fingers and some can even orgasm off that alone. "There's something about pleasuring a man's finger as though it was a penis that gives me orgasmic pleasure," said one woman from Seattle.
Fingernails and lipstick
It's the cliche of the '80s: red lipstick and long, red-lacquered fingernails. Well, guess what? Some guys are still obsessed with that whole thing. They enjoy feeling a woman's nails running down their backs.
As well, they like kissing a woman and smudging her lipstick all over both their faces. Why? Because it gives them the feeling of having adulterated sex, i.e. sex with a prostitute.
Braids, ponytails, pigtails
Hair, it's no surprise, was a very big fetish among guys. Blond, brunette, redheaded, braided, long, short, thick, curly, straight... you name it, they thought of it. But braids, pigtails and ponytails caught my attention. I have two theories as to why some men are into pigtails.
First, they have a preference for younger women (to say the least) and because of the illusion that pigtails and ponytails emanate, the fetishists feel as though they are fulfilling their desires.
Second, when the hair is tied up in these various ways, it could resemble a whip, to a certain extent. "Women can whip me with their hair: the ultimate turn-on." said one man from Boston. I can definitely see the latter example as working.
Some women have a fetish involving no hair: bald men. They love rubbing a man's bald head whilst in a passionate embrace. Did you hear that Costanza ? You're actually preferred by women.
Believe it or not, many variants of water were popular with both men and women. Many women declared that they enjoyed sex best when they could hear or be in running water. Whether it be rain, the shower or even an opened faucet -- so long as they heard water of some sort.
Although it's not exactly water, many women (and some men) absolutely obsess over thunder and lightning. "The powerful sound and the sudden flashes of light give my body a feeling of empowerment. My husband and I make plans to meet whenever we know that a storm is in effect," said a woman from Colorado.
I know this one doesn't sound very inviting, but it was a popular one. Some guys love to watch a woman urinate on them as a method of foreplay. Other guys like to relieve themselves on women before they can actually get down to business.
Why? Well, the reason for this also deals with submission. Being peed on is somewhat degrading and if you allow someone to do it to you, then you're submitting and if you do it to someone else, then they are succumbing to you.
Voyeurism and exhibitionism
A lot of guys admitted that they couldn't get off with their partner unless they were watching pornography or another couple in the act. Even if they witnessed two people having sex or caught some erotic movies on television accidentally (yeah, right) when not with their partner, they had to masturbate.
Only a minute amount of women admitted that they are voyeuristic to the point where they needed to see sex whilst engaging in it. Oddly enough, however, quite a few women like being watched . One woman from New Orleans wrote, "I make sure to open the blinds fully before I make love with my partner."
You're not alone
And there you have it, 10 common fetishes among the human species. While some fetishes can be seen as more "particular" than others, most people go through phases where they obsess about a certain object, act or body part. Fetishes are highly widespread and are not abnormal in any way.