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Article: Signs that show She’s an "Attention" Whore

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asked Mar 12 in Articles by longhands1 (90,365 points)

Article: Signs that show She’s an "Attention"  Whore

If a girl is an attention whore, it essentially means that you’re chasing her. Yet, chances are it’s not entirely your fault. She is probably making you chase her.

The attention whore is one of the most socially adaptable and skillful people you will ever encounter.

She has a way of drawing you in and giving you just enough to keep you around, all while refusing you what you really want.

She has a way of making you invest in her life and even of extracting value from you, all while convincing you that you have a shot with her and that it is all for the best.

But at the end of the day, she has no actual interest in having your penis inside of her. She just wants another source of validation. I believe that all men know when a girl is just leading them on in order to inflate her ego and her sense of importance.

And yet men walk along, foolishly allowing this to happen. But every once in a while, one of those men has a rude awakening where he realizes that he has had the wool pulled over his eyes.

So today we are going to talk about how to spot an attention whore from a mile away.

These telltale signs are there in every single case. The trick lies in not only recognizing them, but in having the mental and spiritual fortitude to act upon your realization and avoid the trap.

Is She an Attention Whore or Not?

Many of you are thinking about some girl you are interested in and wondering: “Is she an attention whore?” The thing about the attention whore is this: like many other girls who are particularly socially harmful, she starts off very innocuous.

It could be an off comment about a girl here, or a brief complaint there. But she never starts off at full force.

The attention whore is bad for strong men, but she is absolute poison for nice guys. Nice guys do not have the experience, or emotional fortitude to withstand the whims of the attention whore. She will make them think that they are earning her love, when she is really just using them for her own selfish purposes.

And when they realize that their whole relationship with the girl was simply a farce, they usually enter into a state of disillusionment – sometimes even bitterness. So being able to tell when a girl is leading you on like this is of the utmost importance.

Here are some clear signs that a girl is an attention whore:

#1: She Ignores Your Texts but Interacts with You on Social Media

Have you ever had a girl’s number? Chances are you have. And have you ever tried to contact the girl and have her completely ignore you, only to see her constantly active on Facebook/Twitter/Instagram? I’m sure you have. Maybe she’ll Facebook chat with you. Maybe she’ll send you a Snapchat of her cute cat or dog.

There are girls who send Snapchats, tag guys on Instagram, or otherwise shout them out, and then when the guy reaches out to actually ask her out or find out what is going on… they go into ghost mode.

And then they keep repeating this same cycle over and over and over again. They constantly make the guy think that he has a chance by giving him some minimal acknowledgment, and then they go back to living their own lives without him while he sits there and pines/daydreams about them being together.

Here’s a tip: if a girl won’t actually respond to your texts or calls but she keeps finding a way to interact with you on social media… she’s an attention whore.

#2: She Invites You Out and then Keeps Changing Venues without Warning

“Hey Anand, we’re at Big Barista. You have to come! It’s so fun and I’m with a bunch of my girlfriends!”

Then when you get there… “Hey Alka, I can’t find you. Where are you?”

“Oh! I’m so sorry! We just left. We’re at Big Bazar now.”

“Is there a cover?”

“Yea… but it’s super fun! And I promise we won’t leave.”

Then you spend money taking a cab or you invest time and walk over. And you get there again… “Wow there are a lot of people here. What part of the club are you in?”

And then you head over. “Hey I just got here. Where are you?” And then five minutes go by. And then ten… and then twenty… you start to get tired and frustrated. And you wonder what you should do. And then when you’re about to head out… you see her in the corner.

And she gives you a great big hug: “Anand!! It’s so good to see you! But my friend Geeta just got really sick and we’re all really tired, so we’re gonna head out. But it was great seeing you! Let’s get together again soon.”

“Well, do you want to stay for a few more minutes? I just got here.”

“I know. And I really wish I could. But my friends need me I’m so sorry!” Another big hug.

And then you don’t see her again in person for months. Or maybe even ever. And that’s exactly how a girl who’s an attention whore gets you. She pulls you into the sunk-cost fallacy where you keep investing more and more in her, and you end up getting nothing out of the relationship and kick yourself for having wasted so much time and not hitting the eject button earlier. It’s okay though – we’ve all been there.

#3: She Never Goes on a Date with You

If you like a girl, and you have some semblance of confidence, and you remember that attraction expires fast so that you have to move fast, then chances are you are going to ask her out on a date.

And if she’s an attention whore, chances are she will give one of these canned responses (or one similar to them!):

  • “Yes, let’s do it!” … followed by a I’ll let you know…
  • “Yea maybe! Let me look at my schedule and get back to you”
  • “Honestly, I’ve been so busy lately! But let’s try to get together when things calm down.”
  • “Yes! I’d love to grab a meal as friends!”
  • “Let’s definitely make that happen! I’ll call up some of my friends and let them know.”
  • “Sure! I’m meeting a bunch of people at this party this weekend. You should come!”

So, in short, she will find a way to not hang out with you in a one-on-one fashion.

And if she does agree to see you, she will make sure that the “just friends” line is clearly drawn. However, if you try to completely cut her out of your life, she will always find ways to deftly make you reinvest.

Maybe it is a text complimenting you out of nowhere. Maybe it’s an invite to another event. Maybe it’s a picture of something you like. The attention whore will always find a way to keep you on the leash.

Sometimes… she may even go out with you after all. But when she does…

#4: She Never Puts Down Her Phone

In the middle of a conversation, she’ll stop to take a selfie. And then another one. And then one more. She will talk about how she needs to get more Instagram likes for a certain post (most likely in the form of a complaint). She will tell you about the problems of friends that you don’t know or care about. Not because she wants advice or wants to confide in you, but because she just wants you to know. She’ll tell you about all of the guys who are trying to hit her up while you’re with her.

She’ll have full phone conversations on a date and disregard your company. She’ll get on Tinder or Hinge “just to shut down some annoying guy.” Basically, she’s physically there with you, but she’s anything but present. You’re just a filler in between buzzes and dings. You’re just a person to validate how interesting and hard her life is.

#5: She is a Drama Queen

An attention whore is always, always, always a drama queen. There is always a crisis happening in her life. She is always in a fight with a friend, or she is always having a big issue at work, or someone is always trying to make her life miserable.

So if she is constantly lamenting to you about how her life and her world are falling apart… she is… say it with me: an attention whore.

#6: She Has Attention Whore Friends

An attention whore never travels alone. They need to be together to have an unhealthy group These are the girls who will hug and laugh when they are together, but then badmouth each other as soon as one of them leaves the room.

These are the groups of girls who are taking selfies in the bathroom at every opportunity and trying to see who can get the most attention from guys whilst in the club.

#7: She is Always Trying to Make People Jealous

Whether it be a friend, or a guy she is interested in, the worst thing for an attention whore is to be ignored. She will do whatever it takes to be noticed. She will dance with her friends’ boyfriends or love interests right in front of them. She will flirt with a guy’s friend just to rouse his envy. She will tell you that she is going on a date just to get a reaction out of you.

Basically, they can understand when you are starting to lose interest. It is like a sixth sense for them. So as soon as they sense you slipping away from their grasp, they turn up their tactics to reel you right back in.

So if you find yourself constantly in a state of jealousy and frustration… you know why.

#8: She Flirts With Guys Just for the Attention

An attention whore... flirting with guys… just for the… attention? No. It can’t be.

It definitely can be.

These girls have long-term boyfriends – long-term boyfriends whom they actually care about, no less. Yet they still go around, flirting with guys, grinding all over them, giving out their number, giving out pecks on the cheek… with no intention of having sex with any of those guys, or of even ever seeing any of them again.

The Attention Whore is Unstable

At the end of the day, any girl who is an attention whore is very likely to be socially unstable. They derive their identity as a human being from the fleeting opinions of other people. These girls are usually crazy.

It is hard for them to form a normal social relationship with people, because it does not provide them with enough stimulation; it does not provide them with their desperately needed sense of “celebrity”.

If you meet such a Girl, take her number and send her a text letting her know that you would be interested in hanging out with her casually and just trying to have some fun without too much pressure. Be sure you will never get a response back from her.

What If Your Girlfriend is an Attention Whore?

So if your girlfriend is an attention whore (or you think she is), then you have to do a couple of things:

  • Have a lot of patience. The only way you can date a girl who is an attention whore is to be a man of great patience. You have to have the utmost self-security and self-assurance. You have to know that you’re the best man in her life and that she will crave attention no matter what you do. In fact, if you try to fight her attention creating tendencies, then you will only work against yourself.
  • Be a strong leader. An attention whore will only stay loyal to a man who is strong enough to keep her in line. If you are not such a man, then you will walk into a world of hurt.
  • Be a great lover. Attention whores usually have very high sex drives. They spend time fantasizing about the best lovers. So if you can’t rock her world in the bedroom, then she is very likely to seek out someone else who she thinks can get the job done.

So if you can’t do any of these outlined things – and in some cases even if you can — the best thing to do with an attention whore is to break up with her. You will save yourself a lot of pain and frustration in the long run. And you can use all of your newfound energy to find a girl who is much more well-adjusted and loyal. This may be somewhat painful to hear or act upon, but the most beneficial things in life often are.

Wrapping Up

Beware of the attention whore.

She brings nothing but bad news into your life.

They say that knowledge provides us with the greatest power. And now you have the power to know whether or not a girl is simply stringing you along. And if she is, then you have no choice but to cut that string. You now have no excuses (and no, her being one of the most beautiful women you have ever seen is not an excuse). You are a man. You are better than that.

And as they say: you can’t turn an attention whore into a housewife.




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Nicely written article...... Young generation be careful...... Happy chasing...... Enjoy!
answered Mar 12 by DCSB (1,695 points)
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Have seen a lot of them, but it doesn't work against me. An egoistic impatient person can easily destroy these attention seeking whores.
answered 6 days ago by gr8gaur (2,970 points)
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Best information nice observation great Long Hands
answered 5 days ago by kingmyaqueen (2,595 points)
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