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I had sex with my married step son. Should I continue?

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asked Sep 23, 2018 in Questions by denaka (120 points)
edited Sep 29, 2018 by longhands1

I am 40 years old and a  divorced woman staying with my step son who is married recently.

I married my ex-husband 15 years ago, who had a 11 year old son. We decided not to have any child. 7 years ago we got seperated and i am taking care of my step son.?

Bascially we are doing business. I chose a girl for my step son to get married. The girl is an orphan and is working in our company. My step-son recently married, and we are staying in the same house.

We've always had a very open relationship and we are comfortable talking about anything. My son is nicer to me and more affectionate.

Some times I use to clean our house. One day while cleaning his room, he suddenly hugged me from behind and we fell on the bed. He kissed me and removed my dress. I resisted a little bit, but my feelings overrides it. One thing led to another and we ended up having sex.

What should i do now? Should I continue?

commented Oct 2, 2018 by Happy Saint (900 points)
Why don't you get married again, you are only 40?



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Denaka,

Do you really believe that you can now stop? An incestuous relationship like any other sexual fling is never easy to stop. You may argue that he is your step-son and so literally not really incestual in nature.

You had done a noble deed by taking an orphan into your family but seems you have spoilt it by having sex with her husband.  You had also stated that she is an employee in your Business, but remember she is your step-son's wife now.

As long as your step-son continues staying with you, you both will continue having sex. Only if you are able to involve his wife into a three some relationship then things will work out, else expect lots if tension and unhappiness.
answered Sep 25, 2018 by longhands1 (93,025 points)
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I think nothing wrong is done as you have done sex with your step son. I don't call it as incestuous as he is step son

By getting him married to orphan is good he married her only for sake of sympathy. Does he love his wife and does he have a good sex life ? If his wife has no issues you can have sex sometimes with him as you are missing sex

Let him enjoy 2 cakes .He is really lucky He must be 26 and with full energy.
answered Sep 25, 2018 by Karan.delhi (365 points)
commented Sep 28, 2018 by denaka (120 points)
My son loves his wife and is having a good sex life. He confessed to me that his wife is somewhat skinny, short and looks like a school girl.
commented Sep 29, 2018 by longhands1 (93,025 points)
denaka,

Are you jealous that your Son loves his wife? Though you are a mother and will sacrifice anything to see your son happy, you are also a woman and it is natural that you may feel jealousy if your son is giving more attention to his wife rather than you.

About his wife being short, well....nothing can be done about that. But you can give her good nutritious food to help her put on some weight. About her looking like a school girl, many men would love that.

How well do you get along with your DIL? Is she aware of your sexual relationship with her husband?
commented Sep 29, 2018 by Karan.delhi (365 points)
How old is she Must be young
commented Sep 29, 2018 by denaka (120 points)
I am not jealous, i am happy for them. She is 22 years old and working for me for the past 2 years. I am a jovial person, always treat my DIL as a friend. She respect me alot and treat me well. She doesn't know my sexual relationship with my son.

What happened that day was spontaneous, since not having sex for years, i can't control myself. My son said, even he excited spontaneous by seeing me, i was wearing saree with sleeveless blouse.

My son saying that i have to confess and convince her about our relationship with my DIL. I don't know how to start this topic.
commented Sep 29, 2018 by longhands1 (93,025 points)
denaka,

It is great to see that you have a good equation with your DIL. Yes, sex can happen in a moment of weakness. No point in feeling guilty about it now.

Do you really need to tell your DIL? It will be better if your son tells her. If you do it, she will always hate you and hold you responsible. I am sure your sex took the initiative in bedding you, now let him be man enough to talk to his wife about it.
commented Sep 29, 2018 by Karan.delhi (365 points)
just forget it Do not discuss with DIL She will feel bad
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Now you already crossed the limit so it is up to you whether to continue with him or not but keep in mind that it is not fair with his wife who has no say in it. This will end his marriage life too when his wife comes to know about your affair with her husband as no wife can bear this.

You may not be able to face the embarrassment that this would bring when you both would get caught in the act so better to end it and stay away from him. If you want sex then there are many men outside the home you can find and can be in the relationship or you can use sexual toys to satisfy yourself but do not have sex with your son as that is not recommended.
answered Sep 26, 2018 by alpesh kapdi (28,960 points)
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Yes why you want to stop. Sex is physical need of any one. As you need it also yiur son wants it. Thus keep moving on with son so as it will be in family only. Otherwise if you stoped it after some time you will definitely need someone to fulfill your desire and your son also may be in relationship in future at that time may he allo or not it.
Thus keep moving as on what it is
answered Sep 26, 2018 by sk08 (205 points)
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Perhaps your stepson is dissatisfied with his wife...he attempted on you and you gifted your body.Every thing lies in your hand.You are not in a position to listen us....enjoy sex not on a regular basis.Tell him to devote more time for his wife.You are an extra bonus for him.Eager to know...could he satisfy you and repeated that lesson again.
answered Sep 26, 2018 by Motilal (9,740 points)
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I don't think your sexual life with your step son  may end so early because you both are having same desire for each other i dont think it's bad what you both have done
It's good that you made your step son marry a orphan but she is now Your daughter in law so you have speak to her about this and try to convince her for Thressome because that's only way you three can live happily
Thressome will make every one happy
answered Sep 26, 2018 by pavan350 (1,645 points)
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Denaka
There are already suggestions i)to continue sex with your step son ii)to go into three some etc.

You have written that you are into family business. You, your step son and step daughter in law are a part of that business. Obviously it would have been started by your husband and he may be still part of it. Why don't you talk to your separated husband for cementing the reasons for the break up and start living together in his house. Just appreciate his and your stand before 15 years, not to have any child for the shake of his son.

Forget the incident and start living with your husband. Let your step son live with his wife separately.
answered Sep 29, 2018 by solliadi (5,140 points)
commented Sep 29, 2018 by denaka (120 points)
Family business was started by my father, after my parents demise i am taking care of that business. I don't think we can live together again, more over he settled in Australia.
commented Sep 29, 2018 by solliadi (5,140 points)
Denaka
I understand now that you are the Head of the Family. Having allowed your step son once, it is upto you to continue or not. But at any point in time, do not lose your status in your family and business as you need to lead both, for another two to three decades. Remember.
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Denaka,
You can continue if you have a same feeling and gets excited by seeing him juts be carefull while doing may be you are better looking and have a better figure than you DIL and that what makes your stepson out of control.
answered Oct 2, 2018 by myselfarun (2,015 points)

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