Should I marrry my nephew or go for sex only?

Question

Hello..

My name is Sudha. Due to my family problems, I did not marry and I am 40 yearls old, single and still have not had sex.

My nephew is 30 years old.  I live with my mom and nephew. He takes care of me very much and he treats me as his girlfriend.

I share everything with him and I love him. One day he proposed to me and told me that he loves me and wants to have sex with me and will marry me.

The age difference does not matter for him as he knows I am still a virgin so has no problems.

Should I marry him or should I only have sex with him?

Answer 1

Only sex...Don't marry...

Answer 2

Hi it's a nice question in this case the society'll not accept it it & moreover if you marry him relocating to a different place then you'll have to leave your mom alone. Then if she come's to know that you both are married then you are breaking her heart. Better go only for physical relationship you'll not have any issue's!!!!!!

Comments

i talked to my mom and she is ready for it. I have trust on my nephew he will not do any mistake with me...

Answer 3

It won't be feasible for you to marry your nephew and if it happens, the marriage will run into trouble later. Having sexual relation is fine but getting married might complicate things.

He might be saying this to get into bed with you, delay him a bit and see if he gets frustrated. Talk about marriage when you deny him sex.

Answer 4

You are still virgin at the age of 40.Do sex whenever you feel necessity.It is not necessary to get married.

Answer 5

If your religion allows such kind of union then you should go for the marriage as age is not the issue here in your case so go for the marriage. However, make sure that you do not have sex with him before marriage otherwise there are chances that after having sex with you he will not marry you as it happens with many men because once they have sex with the woman they tend to lose little bit interest in them so be careful and take a right decision.

Talk to your mom about your desire to get married to your nephew and take her opinion on the matter. If the marriage is not possible then you can think over having sex with him as it is your right to have sex with him. Talk to your mom and him how you both can get married and see how it goes.

Comments

Thank you for a suggestion... i talked to my mom and she has no problem. she is 75 years old and wants that I settled in my life. i know my nephew like me very  much but i little confused don't know why

Answer 6

If you are in india, you will get more critics after marriage, so i better suggest you to share bed with him safely and be as good friend and well wisher. May be after 10-20 sessions he also dont want to marry you. It may be a bitter truth. But this will be the situation. If you want me to explain more, i am ready, let me know

Comments

no he will not do like that.. he love me more i know he can give up his life for me... i talked to my mom and she is ready.. i also want i give my virginty to my nephew and mary him but little confused

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I agree....i think he doesn't lv her..

Answer 7

Hi Sudha

I read your question you said you and your mom is ready but what about his parents. Best option enjoy your life do not go against society. If you will open your realtionship in public then after some time you will feel guilty. May be possible some people try to haresh you indirectly. Best thing keep mutual bounding with each other and enjoy the life as you want.

Best of Luck.

Answer 8

Hello abc
First of all ,this is all depend on situation i.e. if you belong Hindu community then you should not marry if you feel the critics issue and if you are from Muslim community then no critics issue in that case you can marry openly .
And your mom can give you Better suggestion for this so that decide and analyze the things with Patience and take decision either you should do sex secretly or do marriage

Thanka

Answer 9

Do you really  love him???

Answer 10

See you both cant marry eachother as society will not accept this relationship you can have sex though only if you feel comfortable.

But i would suggest person whom you can marry or have relationship as i am sure you are still good to start or enjoy life.

Comments

i will be happy with my nephew and we will settle outside india... sorry to say dont suggest me any person

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I am not suggesting anyone i am suggesting that this society wont accept your relationship but yes if you can go and settle abroad that good.

Answer 11

Sudha,

There is no constraints in marrying your cousin. More than the social aspect, you need to speak to your doctor and clarify the risk of having children with any birth defects.

Age is also not an issue. In the past couples even married with 12 to 14 age group difference and lived happily.

Do not be worried about not having sex. That will happen.....even if you do not marry.
But think seriously about how serious he is about wanting to marry you and living a life with you. If it is only about sex the you need to think twice about marriage.

I am happy to see you provide feed back to the answers received and that is the reason that has prompted me to answer your question.

Comments

I know he is very serious for me... if he want to kiss me he just ask for my permssion and I allow him.. still he did not ask for sex he told me whenever I will be ready he will do... he is too good

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abc,
That is exactly my point. Sex will happen between you both. You are only holding back because you do not know whether to do it before marriage or after.
Sex is on your mind.

But marriage is more than Sex.  It is about love and being able to live together as man and wife. There will be many obstacles like Society (just going somewhere else and starting life anew is not easy). Then there is the age factor too.

Remember marriage is not so easy to get out of.

Answer 12

Don't marry or sex with your nephew rather find someone to marry. Sex with your nephew may ruin your future married life. As you are not married till now, your nephew may trying to seduce you towards sex. Love does not mean sex, but Men usually think differently. Scientifically incent marriage should not be done.

Answer 13

Hi Sudha,
What about your nephew parents, will they accept you as their daughter in law.

Comments

His parents don’t live with us... we only three member mom me and nephew no releative and we want to settle outside India also

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If you both are committed to each other, then get married and settle as you like.
All the best.

Answer 14

Your nephew too might be a virgin at 30 having no girlfriend and probably no plans of marriage.
Marrying him can get complicated not only because of age difference but also because you are his aunt.
You are virgin at 40 and should have sex with your nephew as soon as you can. Ask him to sleep in your room at night and use the opportunity to have sex. You can also convince your mom to go for some pilgrimage so that you both get some privacy.
It is best if you have sex with your nephew only and not someone from outside