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Should I marrry my nephew or go for sex only?

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asked Sep 13 in Questions by abc198903 (125 points)
Hello..

My name is Sudha. Due to my family problems, I did not marry and I am 40 yearls old, single and still have not had sex.

My nephew is 30 years old.  I live with my mom and nephew. He takes care of me very much and he treats me as his girlfriend.

I share everything with him and I love him. One day he proposed to me and told me that he loves me and wants to have sex with me and will marry me.

The age difference does not matter for him as he knows I am still a virgin so has no problems.

Should I marry him or should I only have sex with him?



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Only sex...Don't marry...
answered Sep 13 by Sexy Simpram (1,290 points)
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Hi it's a nice question in this case the society'll not accept it it & moreover if you marry him relocating to a different place then you'll have to leave your mom alone. Then if she come's to know that you both are married then you are breaking her heart. Better go only for physical relationship you'll not have any issue's!!!!!!
answered Sep 13 by ramku19 (230 points)
commented 6 days ago by Seema18041989 (120 points)
i talked to my mom and she is ready for it. I have trust on my nephew he will not do any mistake with me...
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It won't be feasible for you to marry your nephew and if it happens, the marriage will run into trouble later. Having sexual relation is fine but getting married might complicate things.

He might be saying this to get into bed with you, delay him a bit and see if he gets frustrated. Talk about marriage when you deny him sex.
answered Sep 13 by gr8gaur (2,400 points)
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You are still virgin at the age of 40.Do sex whenever you feel necessity.It is not necessary to get married.
answered Sep 14 by Motilal (8,030 points)
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If your religion allows such kind of union then you should go for the marriage as age is not the issue here in your case so go for the marriage. However, make sure that you do not have sex with him before marriage otherwise there are chances that after having sex with you he will not marry you as it happens with many men because once they have sex with the woman they tend to lose little bit interest in them so be careful and take a right decision.

Talk to your mom about your desire to get married to your nephew and take her opinion on the matter. If the marriage is not possible then you can think over having sex with him as it is your right to have sex with him. Talk to your mom and him how you both can get married and see how it goes.
answered Sep 14 by alpesh kapdi (27,390 points)
commented Sep 14 by abc198903 (125 points)
Thank you for a suggestion... i talked to my mom and she has no problem. she is 75 years old and wants that I settled in my life. i know my nephew like me very  much but i little confused don't know why
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If you are in india, you will get more critics after marriage, so i better suggest you to share bed with him safely and be as good friend and well wisher. May be after 10-20 sessions he also dont want to marry you. It may be a bitter truth. But this will be the situation. If you want me to explain more, i am ready, let me know
answered Sep 14 by ramyarani2 (300 points)
commented 6 days ago by Seema18041989 (120 points)
no he will not do like that.. he love me more i know he can give up his life for me... i talked to my mom and she is ready.. i also want i give my virginty to my nephew and mary him but little confused
commented 5 days ago by trisha14 (105 points)
I agree....i think he doesn't lv her..
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Hi Sudha

I read your question you said you and your mom is ready but what about his parents. Best option enjoy your life do not go against society. If you will open your realtionship in public then after some time you will feel guilty. May be possible some people try to haresh you indirectly. Best thing keep mutual bounding with each other and enjoy the life as you want.

Best of Luck.
answered 6 days ago by kingmyaqueen (2,380 points)
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Hello abc
First of all ,this is all depend on situation i.e. if you belong Hindu community then you should not marry if you feel the critics issue and if you are from Muslim community then no critics issue in that case you can marry openly .
And your mom can give you Better suggestion for this so that decide and analyze the things with Patience and take decision either you should do sex secretly or do marriage

Thanka
answered 5 days ago by dhruvdss (150 points)
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Do you really  love him???
answered 5 days ago by trisha14 (105 points)
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See you both cant marry eachother as society will not accept this relationship you can have sex though only if you feel comfortable.

But i would suggest person whom you can marry or have relationship as i am sure you are still good to start or enjoy life.
answered 4 days ago by myselfarun (1,790 points)
commented 3 days ago by abc198903 (125 points)
i will be happy with my nephew and we will settle outside india... sorry to say dont suggest me any person
commented 3 days ago by myselfarun (1,790 points)
I am not suggesting anyone i am suggesting that this society wont accept your relationship but yes if you can go and settle abroad that good.
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Sudha,

There is no constraints in marrying your cousin. More than the social aspect, you need to speak to your doctor and clarify the risk of having children with any birth defects.

Age is also not an issue. In the past couples even married with 12 to 14 age group difference and lived happily.

Do not be worried about not having sex. That will happen.....even if you do not marry.
But think seriously about how serious he is about wanting to marry you and living a life with you. If it is only about sex the you need to think twice about marriage.

I am happy to see you provide feed back to the answers received and that is the reason that has prompted me to answer your question.
answered 3 days ago by longhands1 (84,355 points)
commented 3 days ago by abc198903 (125 points)
I know he is very serious for me... if he want to kiss me he just ask for my permssion and I allow him.. still he did not ask for sex he told me whenever I will be ready he will do... he is too good
commented 2 days ago by longhands1 (84,355 points)
abc,
That is exactly my point. Sex will happen between you both. You are only holding back because you do not know whether to do it before marriage or after.
Sex is on your mind.

But marriage is more than Sex.  It is about love and being able to live together as man and wife. There will be many obstacles like Society (just going somewhere else and starting life anew is not easy). Then there is the age factor too.

Remember marriage is not so easy to get out of.
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Don't marry or sex with your nephew rather find someone to marry. Sex with your nephew may ruin your future married life. As you are not married till now, your nephew may trying to seduce you towards sex. Love does not mean sex, but Men usually think differently. Scientifically incent marriage should not be done.
answered 3 days ago by Happy Saint (350 points)
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Hi Sudha,
What about your nephew parents, will they accept you as their daughter in law.
answered 2 days ago by kavitha80 (205 points)
commented 2 days ago by abc198903 (125 points)
His parents don’t live with us... we only three member mom me and nephew no releative and we want to settle outside India also
commented 13 hours ago by kavitha80 (205 points)
If you both are committed to each other, then get married and settle as you like.
All the best.

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