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How to: Give a good hand job

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asked 4 days ago in Articles by longhands1 (82,280 points)

How to: Give a good hand job

Ask him

It's no secret that most guys have a fair bit of experience when it comes to what they like in a hand job!

It'll feel different when you do it, but asking him what he likes when he does it himself can give you some invaluable pointers.

Communication is the key to achieving ultimate pleasure, so don't be afraid to ask. Have him whisper some tips in your ear if he's bashful, and encourage him to instruct you as you go.

Or you could get him to give you a more 'hands-on' lesson. "Watch him masturbate," . "What he does, method, pace, direction. It may be a turn-on for you both."

As every guy's different, he's in the best position to tell you what's working - and what's not.


How to give a good hand job

Looking for a sexy move that's right at your fingertips?

It may sound like a no-brainer, but if you really want to give a good hand job, you need to do your research. We've asked several pros for their top tips, so you can perfect your technique from start to finish.

Whether you want to include a bit of fingerwork in foreplay, or surprise him with a cheeky alternative to 'full' sex, follow our tips on how to get that magic touch and give a good hand job...

 

Positions

The Kama Sutra might not be too helpful this time, but good positioning can mean the difference between a clumsy fumble and a mind-blowing hand job.

There are several positions you can try, and it's worth asking your guy what he prefers.

First things first, is he standing or sitting? This is entirely down to his preference, and may also depend on your environment at the time of the act...

Then you need to decide where you're going to be - don't be afraid to change it up and find what works best.

Dr. Stocchi suggests kneeling in front of him as you get into the action. "This will allow him the opportunity to use you as a Sex object and validate how incredible you are, and how he is at your mercy," he explains.

Remember that with a hand job, you're the one in charge - and that's hot!

"If you take him from behind, you can once again play into his fantasy that you are in control," adds Dr. Stocchi. "And pressing yourself up against him makes the encounter even more intimate."

Be spontaneous

The great thing about hand jobs is they're quick, easy and versatile, which makes them a perfect solution to sudden saucy urges.

You can try it on pretty much anywhere - inside or outside, in the car, under the table...

Emma Ziff, a leading sex therapist, suggests a shower rubdown. "Join him in the shower, grab him from behind and soap your hands in prep for a massage," she says. "Start from his inner thighs, gently soaping and massaging round his bum, back over his hips and round the shaft..."

Things are bound to get steamy!

Spontaneity is really sexy, so don't be afraid to surprise your man whenever inspiration strikes.

To see if he's game, start by gently stroking his thigh and teasingly undoing a trouser button or two. If he doesn't try to stop you, you can probably take that as a yes.

Get a grip

Now you're in position, you need to figure out how to, ahem, 'get to grips' with his equipment.

It's not necessarily about clinging on with all five fingers. Dr. Stocchi suggests leaving a couple of digtis free to play around: "Use three fingers while the 'floating' bottom two fingers provide the sensation of being more in contact with the testicles."

This gives a more immersive feeling; hand jobs, like sex, are about more than just the penis.

Most men like quite a firm grip on their shaft, but remember, it's a delicate part of his anatomy - don't manhandle his manhood too hard!

If you're unsure, try different grips and gauge his reaction, or ask him outright, "Harder? Softer?" 

Feel the rhythm

Now it's time to really get into the swing of things.

Work into a steady rhythm until you're hitting the spot. "Start slow and soft," advises sexpert Rebecca Lowrie. "Eventually you can speed up, but avoid going too fast unless you know for sure he likes that."

Dr. Stocchi says that most men go for a vigorous downstroke (pulling away from his body) and a lighter upstroke (back up the shaft), but warns against pulling his skin too hard - you're going for pleasure, not pain!

"The best method of finding out the correct rhythm is to have your man place his hand over yours or yours over his to see the motion that he prefers..." he suggests.

Once your guy's reaching the point of no return, you want to maintain a steady speed and pressure, as it's the repetitive motion that'll seal the deal.

 

Flirty fondling

If you want to be a hand job pro, you're going to have to learn to multi-task.

It's a bit of a handful, but try using your spare fingers or hand to gently fondle his crown jewels mid-action.

"Cradling and massaging your man's balls can provide an intimate and powerful orgasm," confirms Dr. Stocchi.

The trick is to use a much softer caressing touch than on his shaft, as the testicles are a lot more delicate, and squeezing or pulling too much probably won't be appreciated!

"Cup them, lightly stroke them, pinch, tug lightly ... Each man is different," says Emma Ziff.

Once you've turned up the heat, coordinate your movements in a steady rhythm to bring him to the brink.

 

Add some lube

We're fans of playing around with different lubes in all sexy acts, and a hand job is no exception.

"Lubricants make every touch more sensual and increase sensitivity, making them a key ingredient to a fantastic hand job," explains Ben Smith, an expert from Durex.

"Try Durex Play Tingle to really heighten sensations." The extra zing in this lube will make for some tantalising touches.

To take him on a real sensory journey, Dr. Stocchi suggests smoothing some lube on one hand but not the other and alternating which you use.

 

Accessorize

Be resourceful and make the most of your surroundings, or plan ahead and keep a cheeky accessory or two at the ready.

"A string of pearls or beads are handy to have in your handbag!" says Emma Ziff. "Drape them loosely round your hands and cup the shaft; gently massage up and down over the head."

It's all about creating different tantalising sensations.

"Wear a pair of sexy velvet gloves and gently stroke him, from shaft to head," Emma continues. "You will have him purring like a pussycat!"

Sexy visuals are also a must, so try putting on your favourite lipstick or even stripping down to your lingerie.


Push his buttons

While no two men are built exactly the same, there are a couple of special sexy spots that will get most guys in the mood.

Once you know which buttons to press, you can incorporate these erogenous zones into a hand job for extra sex points.

Rebecca Lowrie singles out the tip of his tool. "Pay special attention to the area just under the head of the penis," she says. "You don't need to put much pressure there, just give it a bit of extra attention every now and then."

Dr. Stocchi says stroking the perineum - the strip of skin between his balls and bum - is always a good one to try, and even suggests going for his G-spot (the prostate, located just up his bum.)

Not all guys are into this, but if your man's brave enough, stimulating the G-spot just before he comes could give him a mind-blowing orgasm. 

Get in the mood

OK, so a hand job probably seems like quite a one-sided thing - but it won't be successful if you're not feeling it too.

"Your sexual energy will help to arouse his," explains Rebecca Lowrie. "So make sure you're turned on before you start."

You won't pick up on what your partner's after if your mind's wandering, so focus on the, erm, job in hand.

As a mind-blowing orgasm depends on psychological factors as much as physical stimulation, make sure you communicate with him at all times.

This doesn't mean chatting about the weather - you can show you're into it with your facial expressions and body language, or even add a little dirty talk to your hand job routine.

"Telling him how and what you're going to do to him later will drive him wild," says Emma Ziff.




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Nice article Long Hand...N nice to see you back in Action..Keep going...
answered 4 days ago by boldnsexy (1,020 points)
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Great work Long hands you are real diamond of this site.
answered 2 days ago by kingmyaqueen (1,995 points)

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