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I had sex with friend's wife but now she is ignoring me. How to handle this?

asked Jul 7, 2018 in Questions by verdeep (120 points)

Hi everyone,

I am Vijay, 36 years old, married and have two kids - a girl of 6 years and a boy who is 2 months old. My wife is 35 years.

I have a friend, Rahul who is 35 and his wife Ayushi is 26 years and they have a boy of 5 years.

My sex life is great and we have sex regularly. We perform oral sex, and intercourse. My wife is great and supports all things in bed.

Coming to the topic:

Rahul is my childhood friend so no restriction to enter his house even if he is not at home. His wife Ayushi and I became good friends. She chats with me and if she had problems she shared them with me and I always helped her out. No bad intention or sex crossed my mind.

4 months ago, when my wife was pregnant, Ayushi called me and said they both were going for a holiday, with other couples and asked me to join them. I denied her request as my wife was pregnant. She requested me to join them and leave my wife with parents at home.

I told her, that you are a couple and seeing you both and other couples, how can I control myself. She replied that she will take care of that. I laughed and told her what would she do with my physical desire and how she could fulfill that? She said, Let's wait and watch and she will do everything for me.

But I did not go with them.

When they came back, I went to their house and she was alone. I asked her about her trip. She directly asked me for sex and came near me and started kissing me. We ended up having intercourse.

After this we had sex 3 more times. She demanded that I do online shopping for her and asked me for payment many times. Once, I ignored her request due to some financial problems. After this, she is ignoring me and not answering my calls.

I really like her and I want to continue having sex.

Please suggest how to approach her again.

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Dear Verdeep
Aarushi is just using you to fulfill her requirement. She had sex with you so that she can extract money from you. My suggestion is that as you have already enjoyed her quite a few times you should now make a distance from her and remove her from your mind, However if u still want to have sex with her you are required to spent money on her. In other words she is using you as friends with benefits. your spending money on her means that you are spending the money which is for your children on someone just for a 5-10 minutes enjoyment.

answered Jul 10, 2018 by vicky123247 (335 points)
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if you think you wanna continue enjoying with your friend's wife just started spending on her. gift her something she likes the most. this is relationship with benefits. she is using your for money and you are using her for fun. give and take relationship. so please go ahead and njoy u r life.
answered Jul 11, 2018 by SamRin (790 points)
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Give her an expensive gift as it is clear that she is having sex with you to get your favor financially and she stopped talking to you because you refused to pay for her. There is only one thing that brings her close to you and that is money.

However, this will lead to end of the friendship sooner or later as no matter how much you both be careful about hiding things these things will come out and your fiend will come to know that you are fucking his wife behind his back so prepare yourself to face that situation too.

He may tell your wife too about your affair with his wife so you both have so many things to lose so I would say be careful and decide whether you want to take risk of losing so many things in your life or not.
answered Jul 11, 2018 by alpesh kapdi (27,850 points)
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Your answer lies in your quotation...
It’s so simple that she wants give and take. She is giving you pleasure and in return, she is expecting money from you.

You have done a mistake by cheating on your wife who is doing everything to pleasure you.

This is your chance to stay away from the other lady. As long as your friend is not a cuckold, this affair can lead you to serious problems. Instead, enjoy with your wife and have a safe and secured family life.
answered Jul 11, 2018 by AmeetKumaar (180 points)
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Hi Vijay,
If you give 100% of your salary to your wife, you may get 10% love
If you give 10% of your salary to Ayushi, you will get 100% love.
Choice is yours.
answered Jul 11, 2018 by Love Guru (200 points)
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Hi Verdeep

After this we had sex 3 more times. She demanded that I do online shopping for her and asked me for payment many times. Once, I ignored her request due to some financial problems. After this, she is ignoring me and not answering my calls.

This words has cleared intention she is fashionable and wanting give and take realtionship as per she will allow to fuck you but instead you have to give her gifts if you are able to maintain financially then she is ok with you otherwise bye.

But once think your friends if he knows the reality what will happen with you.

Rest choice is your what you want best of luck.
answered Jul 13, 2018 by kingmyaqueen (2,495 points)
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Vijay,it puzzles me why you have mentioned their names and other details which obviously can lead to identification  of the persons concerned .
Coming to your query,i think she is sort of 'Gold digger' she might have been opportunistic too. She wants fun with some expensive gifts or presents etc. Unless you start shopping and presenting her gifts and expensive items she won't budge.
Some women are like that. I too have came across some.And in a way it's better.
I feel it's a kind of prostitution.You spend for me and I will spread for you.
But why are you so much keen to continue?
You say her husband is your childhood friend .He might not have been a best friend but have you thought will your friendship sustain of he comes to know that you have been banging his wife?
Don't always think with your dick head some times it's wise to leave some opportunities
 We are humans not animals.
It could destroy many innocent lives so take care
answered Jul 14, 2018 by prashant69 (7,355 points)
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Hello Veerdeep
Bro she is just using you according to her need and for her you are only the relationship of benefits.So be a man and avoid her who is fucking your mind and you money. I also have seen this kinda situation in my life. A lady who is not loyal to the person whom she married then how could she will be loyal to you. And as now u are married and would be father so you money is only for you family, not for a lady who get fucked in favor of gifts.
Dont spoil your married life.
And congratulation in advance.
answered Jul 17, 2018 by Beauty Hunter (1,290 points)
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It is surprising that she demanded sex from you and blackmailed you for money.She is ignoring you,may not be fully satisfied from you physically.She expects more money for receiving your Boner in her Cunt.Seems to be a cheap women.Dump her and love your wife.Is your wife unable to satisfy you? Your wife is carrying your child,she needs you desperately.
answered Sep 23, 2018 by Motilal (8,725 points)
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She used you as simple as that for money. Think what will happen, if she will start blackmaing you? Be faithful to your wife & don't ruin your married life.
answered Sep 24, 2018 by Happy Saint (585 points)