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I want to gift my GF a butt-plug. Please advise which one will be suitable for her?

asked Mar 25 in Questions by karansingh1952425 (125 points)
edited Mar 25 by longhands1

I want to gift my GF a butt-plug. She works in an MNC. Which buttplug will be suitable for her which she can have inserted all the day comfortably at her job.

Those having Experience plz suggest.

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You have not given us any background. Are you and your girlfriend comfortable having anal sex? Is she good with the idea of wearing a butt plug to work? She should appreciate the gift you are going to give her.     

There are a few things to consider while purchasing a butt plug. Butt Plugs are available for both Beginners and Advanced Users.

It should be safe. Buy a reputable Brand. Lelo Sex Toys are the Best. Make sure any anal toy you buy has a wide base that's wider than the width of the toy itself and provides a good "stopping point." The base of the plug is supposed to stay outside of the body for easy removal. So, if it looks like the toy may slip entirely inside the body, you may want to consider a different type of butt plug.

The size of the Butt Plug is important. Always use a Toy that is smaller than larger. Use your fingers in her anus to judge what size would be comfortable for her. If you have anal sex, use the size of the penis at an estimate.  

Since you are keen that she wears it continuously at work, the plug should be for long term wear. It should not be too slender, without a curve or varying thickness, else it will slip off easily. To try and help the plug stay in, if you foresee this being a problem, a pair of comfortably tight underwear or a butt plug belt may be a good addition to your purchase.

Also consider the material of the butt plug that she will use. Plugs made from glass, silicone, plastic, rubber, jelly and other materials are good. It should also be easy to clean and sterilize if you are also going to share it. It should also be flexible that bends with movement.  

Finally the most important consideration. The Lubricant. It could be water based or silicone based. But if the Butt Plug is made of silicone, then you cannot use a silicone based lube and will need a water based lube.

But as a Beginner, the most important thing is to relax when using toys. Like any muscle, the anal area can become tense if you aren't relaxed. The second-most important thing is using the proper amount of lubricant. While the vaginal area provides its own lubrication, the anal area does not.

Make sure she uses enough lubricant; and even once you think you've used enough, add a bit more for good measure. Anal tissue is delicate, and you don't want to cause unintentional injury.

Do share her experience with us.
answered Mar 25 by longhands1 (85,735 points)
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Hello Karan
If she is an anal newbie the first thing you need to remember is that size matters!  You never want to start with the biggest plug you can find.  Instead, you want to go with a thin and tapered toy so you can become comfortable with the toy.  There are a ton of beginner’s plugs to choose from.  Some sets even have a variety of sizes so you can move up as you feel comfortable.

LUBE IT UP:  The anal canal is not self lubricating (like the vagina) so you have to always make sure you are using lube.  Not just a dab of lube – I mean L U B E!  Don’t be shy!  You want a slippery slope to play on, so make sure you put it on your toy AND on your entrance.  Anal lubes are usually thicker and longer-lasting for anal play. Silicone lubes would be the lube of choice, but if you have a silicone plug, do NOT use a silicone lube.  Also, reapply when needed!  If you feel a drag, then add more lube!

SLOW AND STEADY:  This is an ‘exit’ not typically an ‘entrance’ so you need to give your body time to adjust.  You will want to push a little at a time and PUSH OUT (like you are having a bowel movement) so that your muscles relax and expand to accept the toy.  If you relax, go slowly, use lube and allow your muscles to expand, it will feel very pleasurable to you!  Never push the toy fast just to “get it over with” as this can cause damage!

BE CHOOSY:  You need to choose a plug that is right for her.  Once she become comfortable with anal play, you can find a toy that fits needs better.  Some plugs are thicker and others thinner but longer.  Metal is a fun choice for some women who want to wear the plug longer.  Vibrating plugs can be very stimulating AND fun during Double Penetration (when you have a toy or penis in each entrance – anal and vaginal – simultaneously).  Some plugs even have animal tails for extra sassy fun or choose something with decorative jewels to give your partner a pretty surprise when he views your backside.  Whatever you choose always follow the proper rules for insertion and cleanliness to ensure each play time is fun and safe!
answered Mar 25 by Beauty Hunter (1,290 points)
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This is something your girlfriend can only tell you as she has to use it. If she uses it often then she can insert it the whole day but if she has never used it the butt plug before then it is not as easy as we think to use it in the ass.

She needs to have a practice to use it and if she is using it then ask her which size and shape of butt plug she uses so you can find a correct butt plug for her. It would be a stupid idea to buy the butt plug without asking her to surprise her.

You can surprise her with many other things but when it comes to intimate stuff I would say discuss before buying it so she can use it once you gift her. Once my friend gifted a dildo to his partner and she was not happy with the size of the dildo as she needed a bigger one and my friend bought a smaller one.
answered Mar 25 by alpesh kapdi (27,745 points)

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