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I am unable to fully penetrate my girlfriend. Need help.

asked Jan 4, 2018 in Questions by sameermalik0222 (140 points)
edited Jan 6, 2018 by longhands1

This new year eve, me and my gf finally decided to have sex. I am a virgin and was a little nervous.

My Girlfriend had done it few times with her Ex, but that was 4 years ago.

Now, She's gained a lot more weight and hence when we tried to have sex. I was not able to penetrate her fully. We tried a few positions but all in vain and finally we gave up.

Can you guys suggest something for us?

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It was your first time so it happens... No need to worry about it... Only after few experience you will be to do it properly.... Never set "FULL PENETRATION" as your target. Both of U should get pleasure. There are many ways to get pleasure.

Do not try several positions in one time... It all happens only in porn films. And porn films are always edited to whole day acts.

She has gained some weight so Spoon position and Doggy position would be better for you.
For Doggy position girl need to give proper angle to partner by bending. Just go on you tube. Lots of videos are there with tips and techniques. Do not watch porn directly. Learn from you you tube educational videos. Or search with best sex position for sex with chubby girls. Later on only practical experience can make you better. There is no shortcut.

For spoon position u will have to adjust her legs and control her body to penetrate.

Before you proceed with intercourse satisfy her with oral sex or massaage. So she should not feel Left unsatisfied.
answered Jan 5, 2018 by SHREYASH PATEL (750 points)
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Keep trying and your penis will be inside her vagina as you do not need anything else to penetrate her except practice and patience. Make sure that you do enough foreplay so she gets wet down there or you can use artificial lube to make it extra wet for easy penetration.

If she is nervous then you should first make her comfortable and then try for the sex. It seems that she is not ready for the sex and that is why she gets nervous so wait until she becomes comfortable. If she had sex before then it does not mean that she can have sex with you fearlessly and easily as it is something women always get nervous if they are with the wrong partner or not ready so here in your case it seems that she is not ready yet.
answered Jan 6, 2018 by alpesh kapdi (28,520 points)
commented Jan 6, 2018 by solliadi (4,200 points)
Do one thing. Next time, you spread her legs near to180  degree and / or lift her legs and do penetration.

(Changed to Comment. This is NOT a solution for the problem asked).
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This happens with first-time sex with a girl. Do not worry as your gf has earlier experience of sex. She can help you in assuming an appropriate position for intercourse.

Spend more time in foreplay, play long with her body in a relaxed environment. When she will be ready she will draw you to a suitable position.

One may be while lying in bed  you take her from behind raising one leg up and penetrate her in oblique way. In dogie fashion you fuck her from behind. In both cases use enough lube.
answered Jan 7, 2018 by zena69 (1,875 points)
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This is very common for first timers. Take lot time to foreplay. She must be wet before you Penetrate.  You can try few below mentioned position.
1 missionary, she lay down on her back. Her legs are open wide and in the air. You can easily penetrate her.
2. Doggy , she is on all fours and you Penetrate from back side, but go in vagina  not in anus. In Doggy style she vagina feels more tight.
3. She is on top, you lay down on your back. While errect penis. She come and sits over you taking you penis in her vagina.

I think these all are easy position for beginners.

Lots of Love. Enjoy
answered Jan 8, 2018 by sheetal69 (835 points)

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