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Article: Ways you can accidentally hurt her during sex—and how to prevent it

asked Dec 5, 2017 in Articles by longhands1 (78,285 points)

Ways you can accidentally hurt her during sex—and how to prevent it

There’s a fine line between pulling her hair and pulling a neck muscle.


Pain in the bedroom isn’t always a good thing. Sex-related injuries are surprisingly common. A study found that one third of adults injure themselves during sex every year. And honestly, if you’ve never slipped in the shower while doing it, you might be missing out on some mind-blowing moves.

Certain conditions—such as intoxication and odd locations like the shower)—definitely increase the chance of injuries. Accidents happen, but you can take some preventive measures.

Here are some common sex injuries she might sustain during sex—and how you can help prevent them.

1. Beard Burn

A five o’clock shadow looks a lot sexier than it feels—especially if you’re going down on her. Beard burn is a pretty minor sex injury (we’re not sure if it’s really even an injury), but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t take steps to prevent it. After all, you want her to focus on your technique, not your scratchy face. Luckily, the fix is easy: Shave before you get frisky, or let your facial hair grow long enough so that it’s a soft beard.

2. Vaginal Tearing

Vaginal tearing is one of the more common sex injuries, and it usually sounds worse than it is. While many associate vaginal tearing with particularly rough sex, studies have shown that about one third of women experience vaginal lesions. But you can still take measures to minimize damage. “If your partner feels she may be injured, you may need to switch up what you’re doing based on the seriousness. This could be as simple as adjusting a position, or she may need a break from the action for a bit. Make sure the angle and depth of penetration are something that feels comfortable and adjust accordingly before you increase the pace or force of your thrusting.

3. Bruising

Hickies can be fun, if a bit embarrassing once you’re past the age of 15, but they can also be dangerous. They can cause a blood clot, which may result in a stroke and a paralysis.

The two places to look out for when it comes to bruising are her breasts and her cervix. Breasts are quite sensitive and breast tissue is easily bruised, so handle hers with care. Cervical bruising won’t be visible, but it’s definitely a concern. Be careful with the thrusting power when you’re in positions that shorten the depth of the vagina, such as doggy style or reverse cowgirl. 

4. Neck Injuries

Gently pulling her hair can be pretty hot (if she's in to that kind of thing), until you accidentally sprain her neck. When there’s a lot of back and forth motion and tugging of hair, her neck can easily get injured, which can result in life-long problems. Don’t worry, you can still play around without giving her a chronic neck injury—just be cautious about pulling her neck too far back, pushing her head during oral sex, or holding her head down to one side. And don’t look to porn for your cues.

Guys need to remember that there may be a much more limited range of motion in reality compared to what’s imagined. Always, always ensure she's on board with any rougher foreplay or sex before you even begin. A safe word is a great, injury-preventing, idea, too.

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