Saw my younger sister sucking my brother-in-law's penis. How to handle this situation?

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Hi,

My name is Madhan. I have two sisters. The elder one is Dhivya and the younger one is Yamuna. Yamuna is studying final year, BSC. My elder sister got married 6 months ago. Her hubby is one of our relative’s son. His name is Vignesh.

Last week, my sister Dhivya and her husband Vignesh, came to our house for celebrating Diwali. Yesterday night at 8.00 pm, me, my mom and dad were chatting with my sister Dhivya. My sister Yamuna , Vignesh and one of my neighbour’s little boy were watching movies in my laptop in my upstairs bed room.

At that time there was a power cut in our area. So the little boy’s mom come to our house to take her son back home. I went upstairs and saw he was playing outside the room and the bed room door was slightly opened. I casually looked in and was shocked. I could not believe my eyes. Yamuna was sucking Vignesh’s penis and he was squeezing her boobs. They could not see me, as I was standing outside in a darker place and my laptop also placed facing them.

After watching this, I was completely stunned. I silently took the boy down to his mom downstairs. After 15 minutes, I went upstairs to call Yamuna, but at that time the door was locked. And I couldn’t hear any sound from inside. I wanted to break the door and slap both of them.

After 30 minutes, they both came down laughing as if nothing had happened between them, but I know that they were making out inside.

I don’t know how to handle this situation and need your advice. 

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Answer 1

Madhan,

I think you should speak with the younger sister in person and explain her clearly that she is spoiling her elder sister's life. Meanwhile, if she is in final year, you should start seeing a boy for her. If she has a boy friend or so you shall consider that as well.

However, you need to be little more matured in this regard, as this might disturb the family if you disclose to elders in the family.

An alternate option is enrolling your younger sister for a master's program elsewhere, not in the same place as your brother in law. May be extremely more distance, as this would automatically make your younger sister to come out of her sex lust.

Hope this helps and if nothing works out, report it to the elders.

Answer 2

Do not take any step in panic. Have a Talk with your sister Yamuna alone. Tell her that she is ruining the married life of her sister. You have to make her understand that Your Brother in Law is just using her for sexual desires.

Your sister must control her sexual desires until she finds partner for herself. Do not involve any third person unless and until situation gets out of control. Tell her to keep distance. Make her understand that sex is not only fun, it has its own responsibilities, Your sister will have to say NO to her Jiju.

Even after this Your Brother in Law tries to dominate/force her then talk to him. If this doesn't work then only involve family members.

Handle this situation with maturity and patience.

Answer 3

It was a really unfortunate situation but still I would say stay away from their business as they can easily prove you wrong and may blame you instead as you do not have any evidence against them but you can indirectly talk to her that you know what she had done and if she continues then you will tell this to your parents. You cannot do much here as it is something you cannot control.

Answer 4

Dear Madhan,
control yourself and handle the situation cleverly. Making any issue will ruin the life of your sister, so don't confront both of them about what you have seen. Make arrangement so that your sister can't make contact with your brother in law.

Answer 5

Hi Manit,

It's really a tough situation. Wait and watch. Hastiness is very bad for you. You are in big dilemma because both are your sisters. Asking them anything is very risky.

In this situation I advise you just wait till your brother in law goes and then you can ask directly to your younger sister and explain the whole thing which you saw. Specially how she was doing oral sex.

Don't be aggressive with your younger sister. Just tell her what effect their relationship can have on your family. Handle the situation with love and care other wise you won't be prove anything.

Best of luck

Answer 6

You have to advice her in private or just try your luck also because boys are boys.

Answer 7

Let them enjoy their ventures. There is nothing wrong in consensual sexuality if done in private. Do not interfere with their privacy. It seems that you are a bit jealous watching them together. If so talk to your brother in law first and see his reaction. He might either stop having fun with your younger sis or invite you in the fun.