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How to loosen up my asshole?

asked Oct 9, 2017 in Questions by neilthebot69 (120 points)
edited Oct 11, 2017 by longhands1


This is Neil. I want to have anal sex since a long time. I am bisexual, but my ass hole (anus) is tight and dry. I face problems when anyone has tried to fuck my ass.

Now-a-days, I am using the KY lubricating jelly and my fingers to loosen my ass holes, but I want it to become more loose.

Frankly speaking, I cannot afford to buy those costly sex toys, butt plugs and other stuffs at market and online. Please kindly help me by suggesting other substitutes.

How can I get the self pleasure and loosen up my asshole? Also is there any other thing that I can use to pleasure up my ass. I need frank replies.

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Use your fingers regularly with a lot of lube so with time you will get habitual to get something inside your asshole and you may be able to have anal sex successfully. Anal sex is not everyone’s thing as that hole not desire for the sex so it might be possible that anal sex is not your thing and in that case you should stop trying for it otherwise you may end up hurting yourself which I am sure you do not want.

Anal sex requires practice, patience and a lot of lube so you can keep trying for it but make sure that you have a right partner who understands you well and can show the patience at the same time. I would not recommend any other homemade object to try there as that might not be the safe so if you are unable to afford those anal sex toys then only use your fingers and no need to find any homemade toys which may not be the safe to use there.
answered Oct 10, 2017 by alpesh kapdi (23,285 points)
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I have no experience of anal sex, neither as a dominant partner nor as a passive partner.

But I have seen one friend doing anal sex. He used to lubricate the anus by huge quantity of saliva then insert two fingers to broaden the orifice of anus of passive partner.

Sometimes he oiled his penis and friend's anus with mustard oil before penetration of penis.

Practice will make it more broader.
answered Oct 11, 2017 by Motilal (6,700 points)
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There are many things that you can do. You can use vaseline and try to masturbate with something small.

Keep on increasing the size of the object, day by day. The ass muscles will loosen up in just 1 month if you do it regularly. Continue ass fuck with girlfriend and you will have no trouble in rimming.

Hope I helped you.
answered Oct 11, 2017 by myselfarun (1,055 points)

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