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Question asked by a User - Can I continue living this Swinging Lifestyle?

asked Oct 9, 2017 in Questions by longhands1 (77,100 points)
edited Oct 10, 2017 by longhands1

The Following Question was sent to be by PM by User tanmayhoney.

For some reason he could not succeed in posting it on the Forum. I am posting it here in his words.

I am Tanmay. I have a very high sex drive. I had my first sexual activity when I was 12 years old. I was in boarding school. We used to stay in dormitories. One day I felt sensation down in my pants. I was shocked to see my senior trying to suck my penis. Next day, I just wanted to run back to my home from school.


I was also afraid to tell this to my parents. After a few days, again the incident repeated. This time he told me to just lie quietly in bed and he will not harm me. This soon became a routine. He used to come, pull my pants down and suck my penis. Soon I started getting orgasmic feelings. I was not knowing about Gay sex. Then slowly I got addicted to getting sucked.

He told me that, “You are fair, good looking, have a smooth body, nice pink lips and genitals. That's why I got attracted to you”. That time all this talk went above my head. Actually, we had a common bathroom and he told me, he had seen my penis many times. That's how I had my first introduction to sex life.

Then in college, I had my first sexual encounter with a female friend. It was smooch and nipple suck, in the Library or terrace or anywhere in college. Then the number of female friends went

on increasing from two, three, four and many more. Honestly, I guess due to my good looks and outspoken nature and my high liking for sex, it was easy to convert normal relation to bed relation.

Around this time my dad gifted me a lap top. This opened immense huge sea of porn.. It was fun watching all this Porn and masturbating. I would watch one on one sessions, threesomes, group porn, Orgys etc. Soon I started Sex chats, Phone sex. Then one day, on a random chat site, I met one female. Actually they were a Couple looking for a threesome partner. The husband had his Business and the lady was an Engineer.

I sent them my snaps and they liked it. Then we meet for coffee. After a few days we met for our first threesome Session. It was a terrific experience. Amazing. We met many times. They were also crazy like me. We had endless sex many times at their house, in hotels, in the back seat of cars. In the kitchen, on the sofa, Balcony, bathroom, Dining table. You name it and we had sex there. Only place left was the ceiling!! We all used to be nude at home, talking, having tea, indulging in foreplays, cuddling. She loved to be touched and liked wild and multiple sex partners.

They introduced me to two more couples. This life style went on increasing. We had weekend outings with groups, staying at resorts, Group fun, Orgys, awesome sessions. It just became my routine life. All people were well educated and well settled in life. We had good Discussions on various topics, Talks, Fun, Games and awesome group sessions.

Then I realized, that I was not able to keep away from this life - The Fun, Meets, Group fun, Free and liberated sex life. This directly affected my professional and personal life. But surprisingly for the better.  I gave best at my work. Earned many good promotions. Had the best quality time with family and friends. I was able to concentrate and enjoy my other passions. I love trekking and swimming and playing squash.

Whenever I was away from sex and Sex Meets, I got lonely and depressed. This affected my professional and personal life too. I soon realized that my high sex drive and sexual appetite, is my need. Without Sex, I am crushed. I feel I am different from normal people.

My question is: Am I normal? Can I continue living this Life style? Why not?


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Human beings must be able to control their body from different consequences like sleeping in class, sleeping at night duties.similarly you must control sex.i actually see that if you can't control it will consume you.visit a doctor, he may guide far as I see ,you are too far consumed by sex.t his is not normal.if you continue this life you will see very situations.

Thanking you
answered Oct 10, 2017 by Coolcracker420 (1,115 points)
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You are 28. That is you are working for last 5 to 7 years.
Since when you are having this life style? How often you meet? I assume that you are in the group of 3 pairs. I.e you are having sex with 3 ladies.
As they are highly educated, did you learn any other soft skills which would have helped to you progress well in profession and personal life. If "no" you may come out from such type of relations as this will not go well for long term.
answered Oct 11, 2017 by solliadi (1,830 points)
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The age of Tanmay is not stated. Sex drive varies with age. Sex activities at 12 years seems to be very early. How his senior can suck his penis is not clear to me....they might have done some preliminaries.

Obviously his friend was gay. How he felt is not mentioned by him. At what age he did sex with female is missing. He seems to a sex athlete. Simply wasting time and energy. If this continues unabated he will become impotent before getting married.

Who will be there to satisfy his wife. The episode seems to be far from reality.
answered Oct 11, 2017 by Motilal (6,500 points)
commented Oct 11, 2017 by longhands1 (77,100 points)

If you click on Tanmay, (in blue colour) at the end of his question, you will get his Profile, which gives his age etc.
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Yes your are normal, but your life is not. You are having a life that every man wants to have including myself.

So, don't think much and enjoy.
answered Oct 11, 2017 by myselfarun (965 points)

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