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My wife wants anal Sex. I am not interested. What to do?

asked Sep 1, 2017 in Questions by hidden87 (290 points)
edited Sep 10, 2017 by longhands1

I am a married guy 30 yrs old. I am not interested in anal sex. I also find it difficult to penetrate the anus.

My wife wants me to have anal sex with her, but I have filthy feelings and not able to doit. I feel psychologically that it is a filthy act and it is a torture for me.

What should I do to overcome this dirty feeling and have anal sex with my wife?

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In sex, you need to be comfortable. If you are not comfortable tell her clearly that you cannot do dirty things. You may ask her why she wants to have anal sex if she gets more pleasure in vaginal sex. Nowadays, majority of them want to experiment it after watching porn.
answered Sep 1, 2017 by solliadi (1,965 points)
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She requires medical counselling,why she prefers anal sex.You may do it once for her mental satisfaction.Purchase a dildo for her.This may serve her purpose.
answered Sep 1, 2017 by Motilal (6,690 points)
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You are one lucky brat! and why is said that is because you got a girl who is interested in ANAL sex and forcing you for that. Firstly there is nothing wrong in Anal sex, it is all about enjoying and having a different feeling, the point is it is better to add variety to sex, and that is why people try anal,oral,bdsm, role play etc. Having said that i always believe you should always be comfortable with the position or style of sex, but there is no harm in trying something once in while, so honestly have a open discussion with your wife and tell her why you don't want to try anal, maybe it is possible that she will be able to convince you or may get convinced herself, whatever be the out come it will only strengthen your relationship.................

PS: Do let us know the outcome!!!!!
answered Sep 2, 2017 by Sudeep Mohan (3,125 points)
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Even if you don't enjoy you can try it once. Before doing that you can loosen your wife's asshole by fingering her.

You can do it for say one month everyday. That will stimulate the anal opening and you can see a bigger asshole. Now you can try penetrating with your dick. Use a lubricant.

Just put the tip of your dick at the start. Then after some days you can put entire dick.

This is how I did. I love it now.
answered Sep 2, 2017 by Mayur_borse (145 points)
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Why not? Its normal. You are lucky that she wants anal. Many wives or girlfriend just hate the idea of doing it.

Put a condom lube it and try anal, thinking that your penis is covered and you are avoiding direct contact.

This may calm your thoughts that you are doing some filthy thing.
answered Sep 2, 2017 by myselfarun (1,045 points)
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You should feel lucky that your wife is asking for this or at least she is sharing her desire with you otherwise in our country either males are forcible for their desires on women or women has to suppress their feelings.

Well, there are not much cases I have seen, that a male is stepping back for something when a female is asking for.

In your situation you can talk to your wife and tell her that you don't like it and it turns you off. And you can buy her any sexual toy for her desire to be fulfilled.

BTW, women have strong desires for sex, and 8 times more desire then men, and if she doesn't get it she feels physically uncomfortable and that's natural, so you should not ignore her.

Also their is nothing bad in anal sex....ask her to clear her feces from inside and get the passage clean for you. Use condom and water based lubricant before entering.
Condom is for you so that you don't feel dirty.

My suggestion is that you should go ahead. But if you don't then buy her sex toys...
answered Sep 3, 2017 by sharmanatasha87 (805 points)
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Hi dear,

You are worried about anal sex. To do or not to do, look it's totally depends on you. But as a husband your responsibility is to satisfy your wife's demand. Who is saying to do it regularly, do it once. May be you will like it.

If you are feeling dirty, first screw it in your mind that sex is a dirty things. The more dirty you will be in play time, the more pleasure you will get. If you are thinking about dirty shit, then there is a solution. Tell her to clean her anus or you can try it after she gets a clear motion. Use a condom, by this the shit will not come in  contact with your penis and you can avoid STDs.

Another thing is that the anus is tighter than vagina, you will feel a tight grip on your penis. Use lubricant while you penetrate, it will give you more pleasure than vagina.
answered Sep 3, 2017 by dashing prava (420 points)
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You feel it dirty so you should avoid it even if your wife wants it so talk to her and let her know that it is something you cannot do and she should not pressurize you. You should tell her that you are not into anal sex which she should understand. It is unfair that your wife forces you to do something in which you are not comfortable. There is no need to overcome these feelings as that is not possible as it is something against your thinking and it is your right not to practice anal sex.
answered Sep 4, 2017 by alpesh kapdi (23,260 points)

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