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How to approach my Mom for Sex?

asked Aug 8, 2017 in Questions by rth36 (120 points)
edited Aug 9, 2017 by longhands1

I am attracted to my Mom. I know this is wierd and doesnt make sense. But, I find my Mom very hot and desirable. She is 43 and has been a widow for almost a decade. We two are very close since I we are the only members in our Family. I am 22.

We two are like friends and we even talk about relationships. I know she hasnt been in any relationship recently. I wasn't drawn towards her in the beginning. It started some months ago when I saw her in lingerie accidentally. Her boobs are still in good shape and her ass is just awesome.

I dont know if she knows how I feel about her. I have been trying to convey the message.So far she hasnt reacted yet. Last week when we were departing, we had a good bye hug and I had an erection. I am sure she felt it.

I want her to know that I am attracted to her. I want her to know that I want to have sex with her. But I am scared that I may hurt her if i express it to her.

Should  I open up with her and let her know how I feel or should I just keep my feelings and hard on to myself?

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Many people find incest sex is good. I don't .
You are just 22. Hunger for sex at this age go increasing day by day until you get some good sex sessions.
On the other hand your mother is 43 and widow since decade. She may be also hungry for sex.
You can do this. You can convince your mother in any ways. but have you ever think about oucomes.
let say your going to marry at 26. it means you have 4 years in your hand. in this 4 years you can have many sex sessions with your mother. But what will happen when you get married. will your mother gona okay with that. soon or later after you started having sex with your mother she will have emotional attachments. same goes to you. will you able to get rid of this. I don't think so.
and many more troubles.
So I suggest you to drop this idea and live peacfuly
answered Aug 8, 2017 by Harsh.03 (570 points)
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You are right. It is weird because it goes against your conscience. The relationship between Mother and Son is unique and sacred.

There is nothing wrong in finding your Mom hot and even sexy. After all, she is a woman. It is great that you both treat each other as friends and it should be that way. You should be able to share your world with your Mom and I don’t mean physically.

Yes, she may be a widow, but that does not mean that you should worry about her sexual needs and you should be providing it. If she thinks she needs it, she will find the means to get it. By verbalizing your thoughts, you will break the bond and the trust she feels in you.

When Mother and Son are living in close proximity, it may happen that physical lust takes over and ends in an incestual relationship. Invest more time with friends and companions of your age.

If your Mom is interested in having a sexual relationship with you, she will let you know.
answered Aug 9, 2017 by longhands1 (76,920 points)
commented Aug 9, 2017 by solliadi (1,805 points)
Dear rth36

What are you doing at 22? Studying Post Graduation... Trying for job...Working somewhere...Living in different places...
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If you are scared of hurting her then you should forget her as you have to be ready to hurt her as it is something may hurt her but there are chances that you may get success because your condition allows you both to have some fun with each other. If she has not reacted to your moves so far then either she likes it and wants you to go further so she is not giving you reaction to make you stop or she does not want to embarrass and she might think that you will stop doing it once you come to know that she is not into you  this way.

However, if you want to be sure whether she wants anything from you or not then you have to be more direct about your moves to her like give her clear signals that you like her, give her compliments and let her know you find her sexy and she is your dream woman, you can do anything for her, go to see the movies together, spend more time with her, increase your physical contacts, keep giving her compliments and see how it goes.

If she reciprocates then you have chances but if she ignores and tells you she does not like your new behavior then you should stay away from her as you do not have a right to make her feel bad as she is your mom but if she wants something from you then you can go ahead.
answered Aug 9, 2017 by alpesh kapdi (22,870 points)
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Show her you erect dick and appear nude in front of her frequently. Make intense hugs often and give pecks on lips.
This will be more than enough to let out your indication. Besides, there is a point of being on the safe side too. She will get to know that you need sex but at the same time,  she'll be confused too.
If she is also interested, she'll come to you without any hesitation.
Just keep trying.
All the best!
answered Aug 9, 2017 by Dude12 (125 points)
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Dear friend,

If u want her in your bed, then you need to spend time with her. Start by flirting with her.

Try to know her mind about her view of sex. Definitely she might have interest in you, or interest in sex.

Just discuss the sex topic with her openly. If both of you are staying together your plan will workout.
answered Aug 9, 2017 by dr kalyan (370 points)
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Hello dear, first of all you are just 22 years old, its time to make your career, but you are not focusing on that.
At the same time it is also true and natural to attracted towards mom in this age.
You said you want to make relationship with her, so dear in our society it will not be accepted, and first of all you need to confirm that is your mother is looking in it.
If she is giving any signal to you than you can talk to her openly on this topic that you are not able to focus due to her.
Ask her to find out solution for it, ask her to overcome your lust for her, ask her to show her breast or to do hand job for you, to release you load.  she will ready to help you.
But before proceeding further make sure that she will be comfortable for this, convince her properly. For that be close with her, help in house work, in shopping etc.
Defiantly she we help you.
answered Aug 9, 2017 by Lustyraj69 (390 points)
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If u can seduce her u can fuck her easily
answered Aug 10, 2017 by Jonika (265 points)
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Buddy there's nothing wrong in incest if you both have admired your consent for it. What you do behind closed doors is no one's business. Feel free to acknowledge your thoughts about your mom.
But remember "consent" is the keyword here. If you wanna approach your Mom then be 110% sure about positive result. If not sure then let the time take its course and slowly build up the whole scenario where your Mom will have to throw herself towards you consensually.
Any wrong step may jeopardize the sweet Mom-son relationship for lifetime.
So, be careful what you wish for.
answered Aug 19, 2017 by friskyrisky (140 points)
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Do you not feel ashamed to ask such a question? All human values have vanished.Never get married....your son and daughter will learn lessons of incest from you.Never lust for your mother.Leave her alone.
answered Nov 24, 2017 by Motilal (6,460 points)
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Hi rth36,

There will be many people who will give you lecture on moral values, human values, when it comes to mother-son, father-daughter, brother-sister incest relationship.

And same people drop all moral values when someone's parents are having an affair. And giving suggestions to continue affair with married women/married colleague. Where are the moral values that time? What type of values are they passing to their children? These days Moral values have double standards. That is the main problem.

Before going into this incest relationship, you have to keep in mind few things:

1. This is not a long term relationship. It is just helping each other physically. Do not put emotions into it. Because some day you have to get married.

2. Does she really need sex? If she does not, then please do not disturb her.

3. It is far better for widow woman having sex with her son than another person. As long as it is consensual. Because involving other person is risky.  He may impose his own power and rules which you people may not like.

It may weaken your relation with your mother.
answered Nov 24, 2017 by Kitkatray (355 points)
edited Nov 25, 2017 by Kitkatray

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