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I met a gay friend. Is it safe to have sex with him?

asked Jul 16, 2017 in Questions by rajesh2904 (205 points)
edited Jul 17, 2017 by longhands1

Few days ago, I met a gay friend. He said he will arrange a place for sex. Should I go for it or not?

Is it safe to have sex with men? What precautions should I take?

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You had asked us some time back, whether you were gay. It seems that you have figured out that you are or at least would like to try out the experience.

I have just now posted a detailed Article in the Sex Education Column on the subject. I strongly recommend that you read it. It will give you an idea of what you should expect medically. By the way have you even decided whether you will be a Top or a Bottom? Or what these Terms mean?

But, I am aware that what you are looking for is Advice on what precautions you should take before you meet your friend what this experience.

Firstly, Do you know this Person? How well? Have you even met him before? Do NOT go for a stranger. There is too much risk involved.

Let A Friend Know What’s Going On:

Take a screen shot of this person and give it to your friend. Give the details of the Address you are meeting to your Friend. All this is for your safety. Too often we have heard of blackmail taking place in such scenarios.    

Avoid Anonymous Encounters

Never meet up with a total Stranger, who you met online. Most Photos posted online are fake. Always meet before hand for a cup of coffee to know the Person and his background. Do not meet at your Apartment or his. Meet at a mutually agreed place. While entering the Hotel, enter together so that the Hotel Clerk can see you both and may be recollect the image, if things go wrong.

Engaging in this particular type of hookup leaves you more open to robbery and sexual assault, and leaves you in the most vulnerable position you could be in. If this is really your thing, engage in it with a trusted bud and make it a part of the fantasy so you can have the hot sex with only the idea of the danger.

Trust Your Gut Feeling at the First Meeting

Even when you’re talking to a guy online your instincts can tell you whether or not there’s a “creep factor” that you can’t shake off. If you get even a hint that there is something not right about the situation, don’t go.

Do not carry valuables with you like an expensive watch or a Mobile or Credit Cards while going on such encounters.

Ensure that he is of Legal Age. Being caught in a Raid with an under-aged Kid, can get you into lots of trouble with the Law.

Finally, leave out Booze or Drugs at such encounters. You are already taking such risks. Why add more?


answered Jul 17, 2017 by longhands1 (82,115 points)
selected Jul 18, 2017 by rajesh2904
commented Jul 18, 2017 by rajesh2904 (205 points)
nice advice given by u,,but i have one doubt sir  u said online partner r not safe go for known person but sir known person can also be harmful to u..he can also blackmail ...
what should i do..
commented Jul 18, 2017 by longhands1 (82,115 points)

A known person will not blackmail you as you could blackmail him too. But it may be difficult to find a known person. You must first meet online person and judge his nature and character before you have sex with him.

commented Jul 19, 2017 by longhands1 (82,115 points)


Thanks for liking my Answer. I hope I was abe to address some of your doubts. Also read the Sex Education about the STIs and HIV etc.

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If both the partners are healthy then it is safe health wise and you can go ahead if you wish to have sex with a man and want to experience gay sex. It is up to you whether you want to have sex or not but make sure that you are mentally and physically ready for the gay sex as you have to take his penis inside ass too so it is not an easy thing if you are inexperienced one. 

answered Jul 17, 2017 by alpesh kapdi (25,205 points)
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The choice of doing gay sex,entirely depends on you.What activities you have done with him....hugging,kissing,masturbation,holding and sucking penis.No details is mentioned here.Perhaps you are interested in penetrative sex with him.What will be your role....passive or active partner? Whatever,it may be use condom.
answered Jul 28, 2017 by Motilal (7,420 points)
commented Aug 6, 2017 by rajesh2904 (205 points)
thnks for ur reply self bottom guy i will act as a passive partner..should i use a condom or not..should i go ahead..sucking without condom is safe or not.

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