Sorry for the delay about what you asked in PM. Hope her Birthday is not over.
I am a bit puzzled about what you mean that she wants to get intimate on her birthday. You have admitted that you have a great friendship and you would not like to do something that will spoil this friendship.
You will definitely be able to know what your friend is hinting at. Is she talking about oral sex? The way a woman holds you and hugs you, the type of kisses she shares with you, whether she is comfortable you holding her waistline or bust-line are all indications that you should note.
Your Question :
1. Is it possible to get intimate without intercourse because I want her to be my soulmate.
Answer: Oral Sex can quickly lead to Intercourse as it is difficult to hold back, if the woman is willing to let you have intercourse.
2 . If we become intimate, will the sexual urges come. Will sex become a habit?
Answer: Yes, Once you set a bench mark, sex will keep on happening and goes on to the next level. If you begin with kissing, it can then progress to fondling of breasts and genitals and then to oral sex and finally end in intercourse. Sex is a powerful Sense and once aroused is difficult to control. And if, as you are saying your girlfriend wants to experiment, it will be difficult for you to hold back, without dis-pleasing her. You need to decide how far you want this relationship to go.
Are you meeting her alone at home or in the hotel? How long do you intend spending together?
Remember, what you do on that day, will have a bearing on your future relationship.
By the way, always better to carry a packet of condoms.. …just in case.