Swinging is possible only if you have a great relationship with your Partner. Just because others are doing it, does not mean that your wife will readily agree.
It may take years before she will reluctantly agree to experiment with another man in her bed in your presence. You have to be patient throughout the process of convincing her. She may finally agree, saying that I am doing it for you.
Women have many doubts in their mind about threesomes. Their first doubt is that you have stopped loving her and so are not possessive about her. Or elsehow can you even suggest that she sleeps with another man. You have to keep telling her that you love her and always will.
Another of her doubts will be whether you have another mistress/lover and so are trying to balance out things. She will even tell you, that if I agree, then you may want to have sex with another woman later. You have to address these doubts of hers and convince her that she will always be yours.
Another fear is that in moments of arguments, you will tell her that she has slept with someone else.
You have to create situations where your wife is either a willing or reluctant party to the threesome. This is possible only if you talk to her on the subject. View porn which has threesome as the main topic and talk about it. Ask her about her views etc etc.
Sex is played out in the head and is more exciting to imagine that the actual reality. There are a few problems that you have to consider. Jealousy always affects a couple that’s trying to have a threesome. Insecure thoughts will torment both of you, if sex hasn’t been good for a while, but becomes mind blowing after the arrival of the third person. Questions like those given below will haunt you. “Is she not interested in me anymore?” “Am I just a scapegoat stuck in the middle of these two lusty lovers?” “She wants him with us because he’s better looking and has a bigger cock than me?” “She is kissing him a lot more than she is kissing me, is she falling for him?”
Finally, meet the person few times before you actually go to bed.