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Why am I attracted towards mature women rather than girls of my age?

asked Jun 22, 2017 in Questions by hkk201 (140 points)
edited Jun 23, 2017 by longhands1

Hello Everyone,

I am 19 years old, live in Delhi and studying BCA in Gaziabad.

Now my question is: I am more attracted towards mature women than the girls of my age. I usually see mature women on the road or in any party or marriage, I first see their boobs and their body.

They have big butts and round boobs. I am also attracted towards my mother's friends or my cousin's wife or towards my mami. I always wanted to seduce them and have sex with them. I always think about them and this make me crazy. It is very hard to control my feelings.

I request all the members of AA to please give some suggestions to come out from this problem.

Thank you.

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hi hkk201,
I think it is pretty common that you are attracted to older woman. Every person have their own interests. Like some like small boobs and slim bodies some like big boobs. At that age it is also common for guys to have such feelings when they watch women. Even though it is hard for you now as time passes you will gain control over your cravings.
 Though it is not suggested but if you could find trusted sex patners of your liking I think you should have pleasure and explore your fantasies.
answered Jun 22, 2017 by sadha (335 points)
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I respect your feeling,it is natural.I am also attracted to towards them and got intimate.You are still in teens and not mature to do sex with them.Keep this to fantasy level only.Never go beyond this limit.Concentrate your mind to studies and in shaping your career.You will get ample time to do sex.If possible kiss and hug or touch boobs.
answered Jun 22, 2017 by Motilal (6,980 points)
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Why do young men want mature women?

One reason could be that older women are better lovers as their focus is sex. While the girlfriend may make many demands before she agrees to having sex, the older woman will do it because she enjoys it herself. 

Young women may be energetic but will also be ambitious, unlike an older woman who has lived life and seen it. The older women may not be as pretty as the young girls, but they have experience on their side. They don’t beat about the bush (!). They know what they want and will be physically attuned to it.

Older women will not be shocked by what you ask for in bed. It could be bondage, bisexual encounter, threesome, role playing, whatever you want, she would be willing to give it to you. An older woman may be patient and willing to hear your tales of sorrow in bed and finally who does not like to keep their head on their mum's (?) chest and have his hair ruffled?  

Mature women would provide greater sexual and emotional intimacy without fear. Women who are of the same age expect the man to be the leader of the relationship and the decision maker. But this expectation is not there with a partner who is older. These younger men can relax. They can open themselves up to being more vulnerable and so receive more sexual and psychological pleasure. Men in their 20s and women in their 40s are both at their sexual peak. Both groups seem more interested in sex and with fewer preliminaries.

answered Jun 22, 2017 by longhands1 (80,265 points)
edited Jun 22, 2017 by longhands1
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Dear hkk201,

It is normal at your age.
But i want to give you a humble suggestion please do not run after girls and women. Don't waste your valuable time.
Concentrate on your career. Career should be the first priority at your age.
As rightly said by motilal you will get ample of time for sex in future.

Divert your mind to some productive things.
Dont watch porn or read sex stories.
answered Jun 23, 2017 by Crimson tide (120 points)
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Actually, there is no real problem you are facing as what you are experiencing is a normal thing and many men do feel it. It is like many men like coffee over tea so you are not abnormal. However, you can dream about them but to try for them is not the same thing. If you want to get over it then the self-control is the only way. Stay focused on your career, keep yourself busy, and set a goal in your life and start working to achieve it. 

answered Jun 23, 2017 by alpesh kapdi (23,840 points)
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Its common fantasy which every teenager goes through at some time in his life every boy of your age wants taste a aunty around them who ever it may it may be your family member or friend etc

Its just problem of that age so that boys like you or even me struggling from that problem i too have same problem like you
 but it common think concentrate on your studies its very natural
answered Jun 23, 2017 by pavan350 (1,130 points)
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Your lust for opposite sex is completely natural. Nothing bad. As we grow form child some harmonal chamges occurs in our body. As every one is different so hormonal changes are different.

Middle age womens are more grown ups as compared to girls in teenage. They got nice assets,  good shape of breast ass etc. Many teenage girls lacks this assets as their body is still in developing phase. So thats why many young guys attracted towards middle age women. Porn is also the reason as pornstar have huge breast amd ass etc.

Now coming to your last question.
You want sex badly. Natural.
Now you have lust for your mothers.friends,  your mami or other women who.are your relatives.
But I must say fantasies are fantasies. Reality is reality. You are just 19 yeats old. You have just come out of an egg and want to fly like rocket.
Their many years to come. You are immature now, that you aren't good enough to take decision. You will become mature.but all you have to keep your patience.
You can score anywhere at any time but you must learn where to score and when.
No doubt you can approach for your mami or other women who is relative or your mothers friends. If you succeed to seduce them you can bang them for many days as you wish.
But you also need to think about outcomes before you act. If something goes wrong then their will be lot of damage for you your family and others.

So.control your emotions. At this age you can spend your time on exercise,  reading, playing sports. Grow to a specific level. Enjoy your life.

If you need any can send me personal message here at any time.
answered Jun 24, 2017 by Harsh.03 (715 points)
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Dear HK,

It is obvious that mature women attracted more than younger. This is because the mature women gathered experience from past and handled many situations whereas the young yet to face this situation.

I know if a mature woman wants to have sex then she would prefer to have sex in her home without any doubt to anyone.
You are dreaming to sex with older generation because you don't have girlfriend with whom you can share your feelings. These women are full developed body with attractive dress. It allure you towards them. There are cases in which the boys spoiled their study for these women. They will give you sex ... you have to fulfill their demands and they will not leave you easily. Be careful it may happen to you.
The best way is self satisfaction. You are controlling now ...Till ??? Distract yourself.
answered Jun 26, 2017 by bubu_002 (2,760 points)

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