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How to help my Husband and Neighbour boy overcome premature ejaculation?

asked Jun 18, 2017 in Questions by Soumya30 (120 points)
edited Jun 20, 2017 by longhands1

I am 30 and my husband is 33. I never enjoy sex with my husband. My husband ejaculates too quickly everytime we have sex.I can't enjoy it and I never reach orgasm.

How to find a cure for his Premature Ejaculation (PE) problem and save our sex life. One of my close friends told me that her hubby penetrates her everyday for almost 15 minutes and its normal.

This prompted me to have sex with another man. I enticed my neighbour, who is 18 years old and is a student. Few days ago, we have starting having sex and he had a very hard and erecte dick.

I was hoping to have sex with him for a longer time, but he too has let me down. After penetration, he cums within seconds of getting inside me.

Why do many men ejaculate too fast? But why there are some men who can fuck for long time lin\ke my friend's husband?

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What you have stated about husband is common affair.Never discourage him,praise him with sympathetic mind...he will definitely do better next time.Consult Doctor or go for counseling for premature ejaculation.Sometimes food and rest show better result.You may try sex in early morning,when both are fresh.Your friend might have told you wrong thing,daily 15 minutes sex is not easy.Instead of getting fuck from from a teenage boy of 18,you should have hired friends husband for one day to know his staying power.Don't get washed away by such silly talks.If you remain unsatisfied from husband do fingering or use dildo.
answered Jun 19, 2017 by Motilal (8,290 points)
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Hi Soumya,

It depends on person to person and their thoughts. Let us consider the case of the young boy first. He is so young that, he cannot hold for long. He is fresh and do not have any experience in real time sex.

From your message, what I feel is that, he is having little experience in self sex also. Now, let us come to your husband. He is purely doing it without bringing or thinking how to make it more relaxing and thrilling. He wants to feel the pleasure soon and he is not willing to take more time or new ways to extend this fun.

You need to openly discuss this with your husband, if he is that much free with you. It depends purely on your husband. He can hold his ejaculation by frequent sex as well as deviating his thoughts and talks during sex. Trying sex with that young boy may not give pleasure on a long run as it will take much years and time for him to get experienced and to control his ejaculation.

Hope, our advice helps. Wishing you all the best.



answered Jun 19, 2017 by Ajayeaso (320 points)
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There are a few techniques you can try to delay the ejaculation like start and stop and squeeze techniques. However, there is one more method which is the most effective in PE and that is called kegel exercise. Your husband has to practice kegel exercise for the good amount of time like 6 months or a year to get its effect. You can search about all the techniques on the Google and ask him to start doing it.

You can ask him to use a thicker condom for the time being as it reduces the sensation and he can stay longer than usual. If he is unable to satisfy you through his dick then ask him to give you oral sex to get you off and he can finger you too. There are many toys available in the market so you can start using some of them or your husband can use those toys on you to bring your orgasm.

There are many options you can try but you selected another man in hoping that he will stay longer than your husband which is not a permanent solution. Therefore, whatever requires to do to make your husband’s ejaculation delay, you both should do together with showing maturity as it is a medical problem. Your husband can consult a doctor and can get medication for that too. 

answered Jun 19, 2017 by alpesh kapdi (27,770 points)
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Maybe you should have shown some patience instead of bedding a teenager.  You should have asked your husband  to improve and see a doctor.  There are some techniques and methods to delay ejaculation and increase the holding time. Life partners are there to help each other out in difficulties I guess.
answered Jun 19, 2017 by gr8gaur (2,565 points)
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Why do many men ejaculate very fast?
Ans is many of men start imaging sex in their mind before they start physical sex. So in their brain they are doing it and their brain send signal to their dick about this imaginary sex. When they start real sex they at climax and hence ejaculate fast.
Sometimes lifestyle is also responsible.

And now about so called PE solution.
The most talked about kegal exercise. Hard to do. You spend one year doing it and.start to see good results. But you discontinue it for some time and PE start agin and letting you down slowly.

I also faced this problem and I cured it in some extent. I can help you but I don't want to discuss my private life here so I'm sending you a private message so we can communicate effectively
answered Jun 19, 2017 by Harsh.03 (1,030 points)
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Hi Soumya,

The thing is: man ejacuates early because of few things.

(1) He is too much excited to have sex. In this condition man ejacuate early. Here excited means he is already having sex in his mind. That is what is happening with your neighbour boy. In this case make him calm down and start sex slowly.

(2) when man enter his dick in pussy then due to heat and sensation he ejacuate this case one should use thick dotted will decrease his direct contact with pussy and he will fuck for more time.

(3) sometimes it's medical issue that can be solved only by DR.

Few tricks can be used to make this fucking session longer.

(1) this is the best remedy..always give a handjob or blowjob and make him cum first before he touches means when u or ur neighbour are going to have sex don't let him touch u .first u directly take his cock in ur hand or mouth and make him ejacuate.when he ejacuate then the real foreplay and sex begins..normally after this man ejacuate very late..

(2) u tell ur hubby and neighbour to master bet just before having sex.then he will stay longer.

(3) tell ur hubby and neighbour to be not in hurry..mostly man fuck for longer session because normally after 7 to 10 minute man ejacuate but when they feel like ejacuation they pull their dick out of pussy or ass.then they wait for few minute normally 1 to 3 minute and during that time man start fore playing with the girl..during that 1 to 3 minute they lick pussy,eat them,fingered with tits,tongue,arm pit,lick ass hole this way they stretched fucking session to 1/2 hr.many man use dildo for fucking when they pull their dick.this way ur pussy or ass will be continuously filled with dick.

(3) the last,they use viagra for longer erection.this way they also don't ejacuate.but using viagra is not healthy if it is regularly taken..for twice or thrice in a month it can be used.normally after taking viagra man will fuck for minimum 1 hr and still he will not ejacuate.

So these are few small tricks that can increase ur fucking session.if all these didn't work then I will suggest u to make ur self satisfied with fingering,can use dildo,vibrater or u have to look for another man who fuck u without disclosing this secret.

answered Jun 19, 2017 by IGNACIO (455 points)
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Sex is not only physical intimacy but also the mental intimacy. To overcome this situation you have to help your husband to spend valuable and romantic time with you so that he will be calm and focused towards you only. As you are expecting much more as compared to the availability of the resources so you have to tackle the situation in a better than it will be worse. Keep focusing on your husband rather to the neighborhood.

Sex as well as extra marital affairs are for sometime. You have to take care of the fact.
answered Jun 27, 2017 by bubu_002 (2,760 points)
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Its not the case with every man as average time is 20 to 30min. I too have stamina of 30min approx. You can advise medication to your husband to take shilajeet or viagra before sex.

answered Jun 28, 2017 by myselfarun (1,850 points)
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Hi soumya ,  
 No need to worry  he is 100% fit and u both have to the play the game in long time so u people can enjoy a lot  and my suggestion is no to extramarital affairs and best medicine for long run sex's  give him natural watermelon/juice  no need of Viagra or etcs  for regularly Base's
answered Jun 28, 2017 by Hydhunk77 (105 points)

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