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Have some doubts about first time sex with my girlfriend. Please help.

asked Mar 20, 2017 in Questions by rajsingh123 (120 points)
edited Mar 23, 2017 by longhands1

I and my Girlfriend are planning to have sex. I am a virgin and have never had sex before. These are my doubts:

1) If she is also a virgin like me, will having sex for the first time hurt her?

2) Should I use condom? Will it reduce the enjoyment?

3) Is there any other way to fuck her without using a condom, but she should not get pregnant?

4) I have heard about pills. How to use them and are they effective in preventing pregnancy?

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1) Yes, it will hurt her as her hymen is about to break. But it won't be that painful so she need not take stress about it.

2) You should definitely use a condom. It is much more joy than making your girlfriend pregnant.

3) Using a condom is not only beneficial to avoid pregnancy but also to avoid STDs. She can pop an emergency contraceptive after sex or use oral contraceptives like Centron or Rasmin.

4) Pills are effective in preventing pregnancy, but they have some side effects like Naussea, weight fluctuation, sore breast, etc.

All the best for your future with your girlfriend :)
answered Mar 20, 2017 by maya75n (655 points)
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You have clearly asked your doubts in point form. It makes it easier for us to answer each point.

Is this going to be a long term relationship or are you in it, just for the sex. Reason I ask, is because you have doubts whether your girlfriend is a virgin? Not a good way to begin a relationship with doubts about her virginity.

1) You must believe and proceed that she is a virgin. Yes, sex for the first time for a girl is a bit painful, but she soon gets over the pain and begins to enjoy the sex act the second time around. If the hymen is intact (if it is not, it does not mean that she is not a virgin, as the hymen can be broken in other ways like exercise, use of sanitary pads, cycling etc), then when it is broken, either due to your penetration of her vagina either with finger or penis, there will be some bleeding and some pain.

2) It is always best to use a condom. Read the questions here, of Users who go through hell, when they have not used a condom and fear about their partner getting pregnant. You can avoid all that tension, by using a condom in the proper manner. Be smart and educated about the risks you take when you do not use a condom. Sex may be a little less pleasurable for you, but the safety is worth it. You also have doubts whether your girlfriend is a virgin or whether she has had other sexual partners. The best way for you to avoid contracting any STDs is by using a condom.          

3) There is no other way.

4) Pills are an emergency contraceptive and not meant to replace the condom. There are many side effects and her menstrual cycle will go for a toss. This will add to your tension. She will keep screaming, I am pregnant and you can imagine what this will mean for your peace of mind.

Enjoy yourself but act wisely.

answered Mar 20, 2017 by longhands1 (82,115 points)
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You are a good boy of age 20,want to do sex with your girl is not desirable at your tender age.It is better to kiss and embrace her,do oral sex and abstain from doing sex.Concentrate on your studies and other work.Answer to your queries:(1) Yes,she will feel pain....may not get hurt,(2) You may use condom(who will supply this!).Fuck her on safest day(6th day after menstruation) without condom,(3)Fuck her on safe day- just before or after menstruation,(4)Consult Doctor before using the pill............never fuck her daily,do 69 when ever you get chance.
answered Mar 20, 2017 by Motilal (7,420 points)
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Answer to your Questions

1) it will hurt her a bit .But it will be a pleasuresable pain Do lots foreplay before the action so that she is lubricated & excited & make her comfortable so that she does not experience much of pain.
2) yes please do use a condom it provides safety against diseases & un wanted pregnancy & it adds to the pleasure. Choice a condom with dots or buy a Thin one to stay long there are condoms available & lastly condms are available with a Variety of taste so make your choice.

3) yes You can have sex with out a condom & can use I pill but it is not recommended due to the advantages given above of the condom & the side effects that your partner would have to go thru

4) I pill can be used with in 72 hrs of the act not recommended to use again & again

All the best Have nice time
answered Mar 20, 2017 by manmumbai41 (450 points)
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1-she will enjoy it a lot but you have to lubricate well which basically means lot of foreplay and sucking her pussy if needed.
I suggest you jerk off before intercourse or will ejaculate soon
2-I suggest you use condom not only for safety but also helps you last longer the feeling of the pussy is very different if you are not used to it.Try using thin layer condom to keep the pleasure also high.
3.Condom is always better safer than pill
4.pill will cause hormonal problems to the girl and will affect her health it is meant only for emergencies
answered Mar 20, 2017 by pritesh007 (680 points)
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If she is virgin then first time sex would give her pain but the pain is tolerable. If you want to minimize the pain then you should make her wet enough to take your penis inside her vagina or you can keep the artificial lube nearby you so you can use it in case of the dryness.

If she ready for the sex then she will not face too much pain. A condom would definitely reduce the pleasure compare to bare skin sex but it is worth so use it as a pill is not good for her health so you should keep in mind that no pleasure her worth than her health. Use a condom and a lot of lube for the first time. 

answered Mar 21, 2017 by alpesh kapdi (25,205 points)

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