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What has happened to my mom ?

asked Feb 4, 2017 in Questions by rishabhagarwal93 (120 points)
Hi all,

My mom is 45 years old. My father is a Businessman aged 52, and has excessive weight. His business time is from 9 to 9.

My friend has referred me here to solve my problem. I am totally confused about my mom. I will go in little bit detail so sorry for that.

Till 2 years back, everything was normal . My mom used to do household work only and never go outside except occasionally. But 2 years ago our neighborhood women insisted that my mom join their Kitty Group and thereafter changes happened.

Changes were:
1. My mom started going to markets, clubs etc almost 5 days a week whereas earlier it was twice or thrice in a month.

2. Her dressing sense has totally changed. Although she wears saree like before but her blouses are now totally changed. While they totally covered her breasts earlier but now they are backless while front reveals too much of her cleveage and also are tight fitting.

3. She had started using fancy under garments. Earlier she used to wear white bra and single colour panty but now I saw in bathroom different multicolor lacy lingeries.

4. Her attitude towards father has changed. She treat him like that he is an unsuccessful man.

5. She has started to change clothes in front of me sometimes.

6. She hass never given her blouse to male tailor for stichting but last week I saw her entering a male tailor shop.

My worry is that: My mom had started some relationship with someone?

What di you al say? Please guide me.
commented Feb 4, 2017 by xpktv2000 (3,295 points)
5. She has started to change clothes in front of me sometimes. - This is where fantasy starts. Womens in this part of the world  will not do such thing.
commented Feb 4, 2017 by gr8gaur (1,920 points)
Guess you've just joined this forum.
commented Feb 5, 2017 by Urvashi Singh (395 points)
People who tell that you shouldn't interfere into your mom's affairs, I want to ask them that if your mother would have been doing such a adultery then would you have watched the spectacle as a eunuch and mute spectator by wearing the bangles in your hands..??

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The abrupt change in your mother's behavior is a matter of concern.You are not the right person to interfere in this matter.It is prime duty of your father to control the situation.She might be going to sex clubs.Where some clients get sex satisfaction in lieu of money.She might have tasted  the juice of few males for quenching her sexual thirst.Your father may be incapable to satisfy her.Give some hints to your father about activities of your mother.
answered Feb 4, 2017 by Motilal (6,710 points)
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Judging by what you've described there is no doubt that she has changed 180 degree , the question is, is your mom having an affair or multiple affairs ? From my experience the only advice which you'll get is 'mind your own business, don't interfere in her life'. But I say, confront her and be firm when you do so and not like a employee talking to employer. Tell her that its really disturbing for you and is affecting you, if she still doesn't budge then you leave (if u have a job), its foolish to live in that kind of toxic atmosphere.

You may find my opinion drastic but think about it, she already treats your father like a loser (harsh word I know) and she wouldn't care about you either. She doesn't repent what she's doing and has already been spoiled by her kitty kats. She has lost her respect for her family and now you have to deal with this like a man. Tell her to mend her ways or be cold hearted and start a new life with your father.
answered Feb 4, 2017 by gr8gaur (1,920 points)
commented Feb 5, 2017 by Raj Handsome (1,200 points)
Totally agreed with your comment......Some people here on form will say that it's none of his business to indulge in her personal life and all.....But she is his mother and we don't live in America or other western countries where the parent and their children relation is practical....There, usually children after crossing 17-18 years leave their parents forever and don't interfere in each others life.....But here in India scenario is different.....So unknowingly we interfere in each others life and tht's totally  fair .....
commented Dec 22, 2017 by Kitkatray (355 points)
I also agree with you fully. In any relationship " none of your business" is not at all helpful. Family is like democracy. If someone does not have the right to speak then where he will speak?

If parents do stupid things then who will be going to suffer the most? If family falls apart who is going to be affected? May be parents don't like this idea...." It is our duty to protect my family, it is obviously my right. " I will call it birth right.
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She is matured enough to take her own decision. Keep your business to yourself only. Let her enjoy her life, she did enough for you and family.
answered Feb 5, 2017 by SamRin (755 points)
commented Feb 6, 2017 by gr8gaur (1,920 points)
As expected, LOL!!!
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It is very tough to say that she has started a relationship outside the marriage just because she changed her lifestyle so I would say you are not in a position to judge her based on her changes. Moreover, even if she starts affair you have nothing to say her as it is her personal life and you have no right to tell her how she has to live her life as besides your mom she is an individual woman too so she has a right to choose the best life for her.

Being a son you should ignore it as that is the best course of action for you. Does she start caring less about you or is she not a good mother? It would be better for you to consider her as an adult who knows how to live her life on her own. However, you can tell her that her new lifestyle makes you worry about her safety but you cannot ask her to change her life the way you like as it is not your life to control. 

answered Feb 6, 2017 by alpesh kapdi (23,295 points)
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Your mom has really changed fully and she  may be in  relationship with another men but it's not good for any one in case because your mom may be happy today but she may fall in deep trouble later in future

Your dad has to see in this matter what does your mom do whom does she meet and what wrong with her. Your mom has been misguided by some one and that's sure you have to  solve this problem as soon possible.

Your mom should be controlled now because she is good lady who's brainwashed by some one
answered Feb 6, 2017 by pavan350 (1,075 points)
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dear rishab
i think you should not worry much about it , but be vigil .
The friendship with other women also sparks on this type of change in lifestyle , by seeing others and discussion in kitty parties , there she gets the suggestions or more knowledge about new pattern or fashion , that may lead to change.

be positive its common , even i have seen change in my wife after my children grown up,  she started wearing dresses, earlier she used to wear only sarees.  now she feels dress as comfortable and at parents meet all her friends wear dresses so she has also started that.

nothing wrong
answered Feb 6, 2017 by kapilh (1,025 points)

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