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Whom should I choose?

asked Jan 25, 2017 in Questions by rahulron84u (120 points)
edited Jan 26, 2017 by longhands1


Me and my girlfriend are in a relationship since past 4 years. About 8 months back we had some problems ( her sister tried to commit suicide) due to which we couldn't talk. She was badly disturbed and asked me not to disturb her. So, I didn't talk or disturb her. In the meantime I was feeling very lonely. I found a very good friend named and became close to her.

I once again tried to talk with my girlfriend and for the last 2 months she is okay and is talking to me normally like in the past. Now the problem is that the Girl I had met in the interim, is asking me to take her on a trip - only the two of us. I have explained everything to her.

From herr conversations and intensions, it appears that she doesn't want to leave me. She talks about sex also sometimes and gives me hints about it and is asking for sex indirectly.

I now have a problem and do not know what to do? I like both the girls and cannot hurt either of them. Pleas give me your Advice.

Thank you.

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You don't even have patience to wait for your earlier girlfriend to come out from the tense situation.

In mean time you made another girlfriend. How pity it is !!!!   Why don't you clearly say that "I want to enjoy both as sextoy" rather than "I like both of them" ?

You don't have self control on you.

You could have told the new girl who you met that you are already commited and don't want to continue this relation towards love...

Be wise to your earlier girlfriend...
answered Jan 25, 2017 by Raj Handsome (1,430 points)
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To me, it seems that you should be in control of the 2 girls. but i know you do not have the experience for that.

being more practical, it appears that you are out of own depth handling these two... I suggest do not fool around with both, choose one, and be on your happy way.
answered Jan 26, 2017 by blind_man (160 points)
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I would say better go with your first girl friend. She is in trouble now and you have to help her slowly coming out of the mess, but rather you looked her as a sex toy.
Looks like your intention is to use them both at the max and leave them...Right??..After a while, you will find another girl friend and again you will be dilemma wether to accept her or not.
So, don't break up your 4 yrs relationship. Be with her in difficult times. Life will be good.
answered Jan 26, 2017 by Chester (110 points)
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Can you ride two horses simultaneously? You should choose one and let the other go on her way so she can move on as you cannot keep both the girls as that is not possible. If I were in your place then I would choose the second girl as she was with me in my lonely time so she deserves love. Your girlfriend was disturb so she asked you not to disturb her but she should have understood that disturbance in her life was not because of you so she should have not cut you out of her life.

There is no guarantee that she would not repeat the same mistake again when she was disturbed again so I do not think that she is good for you. I would say decide who is the best for you and then break up with other girl to pursue the best girl for you. You should be ready to hurt one of them as you cannot keep both the girls happy at the same time. However, if you are not sure what you want in your life then I would suggest stop talking to both of them until you come to the solution. 

answered Jan 27, 2017 by alpesh kapdi (27,390 points)
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Dear Rahul
You are in a situation which everybody wants to be 2females in life.But only who is in this situation understands the difficulty to keep both of them happy.
When we are not in a situation to take decisions the best option is to wait for some more time as you will get a chance to understand the new girl in your life.
Go along with her for the trip so that you can understand her better.
Follow your heart you will be able  to take the right decision.
answered Jan 28, 2017 by dev0112 (250 points)

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