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Women's Feature: What happens to Women when they don't orgasm

asked Jan 3, 2017 in Articles by longhands1 (76,920 points)

What happens to Women when they don't orgasm.

If you don't climax, it can cause a heavy or aching feeling. This discomfort will go away with time, but can also be relieved more quickly by having an orgasm.

There is a phenomenon that happens to men when they are aroused but do not get that release. It is usually referred to as 'blue balls.' This is when the man feel a very intense pain in his scrotum and it can last for a few minutes.

Do women also have a down side when they do not get the orgasm they crave? Evidently, they do.

Here are five things that happen to women when they do not find their release.

1. Vascocongestion

According to the experts at the University of California, Santa Barbara, vascocongestion, or“blue vulva” is the discomfort of unreleased pelvic congestion. During sexual arousal your vulva, uterus, and ovaries swell with blood. If you don't climax, it can cause a heavy or aching feeling. This discomfort will go away with time, but can also be relieved more quickly by having an orgasm.

2. Increased Flowback

Biologist and author Dr. Robin Baker studied post-coital flowback which is "that collection of material that flows back out of the vagina sometime after intercourse." He found that there were fewer sperm in the flowback of women who had orgasms versus those who didn’t. This means that you may have a harder time getting pregnant if you don't climax during intercourse.

3. Decrease in Sex Drive

Orgasms release oxytocin which helps produce feelings of bonding and attachment and can increase your sexual desire. Certified Clinical Sexologist Dawn Michael writes on that by not orgasming, you may actually decrease your desire for sex. The good news is that you can increase your low sex drive by having more frequent orgasms.

4. Depression

As Naomi Wolf, author of Vagina: A Cultural Historytold Time. Women who don't orgasm often experience sexual frustration which can lead to depression. "If as a woman, you are frustrated sexually and even worse, aroused but denied release, your dopamine system eventually diminishes in anticipation of sex," she said. "With low dopamine activation, you will suffer from a lack of ambition or drive." Not being able to orgasm can also cause low self-esteem which can worsen your depression symptoms.

5. Cervical Infection

In her book Sex: A Natural History, Joann Ellison Rodgers wrote that a female orgasm can decrease cervical infections by promoting good bacteria and flushing out unfriendly bacteria from the cervix. This suggests that if you don't orgasm, the unhealthy bacteria that stays inside of you may put you at an increased risk for cervical infections.

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