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asked Dec 27, 2016 in Questions by mialima (120 points)
edited Dec 27, 2016 by longhands1


I got married 2 weeks back and over this period there have been several occasions when we got intimate. We usually have 15-20 minutes of foreplay and I experience hard erection during this period.

But whenever I put on the condom, my erection reduces and I get disappointed. The moment the condom is put off, I again get hard in a few minutes.

Can you please help? Both of us are virgins and are quite disappointed over this fact.


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You have a psychological problem so I would suggest you, use another contraceptive method to avoid using condoms and for that you both should meet the gynecologist for further instructions. Once you are able to have sex without a condom, with time you would be able to have sex with a condom on so do not worry. You need some confidence in sex and without condom you would be able to get it. Discuss with your wife about using another contraceptive method and ask her to support you. You should not take any pressure on you to perform the sex otherwise your problem would be worsened. 

answered Dec 27, 2016 by alpesh kapdi (23,260 points)
commented Dec 27, 2016 by mialima (120 points)
Thanks a lot for answering, we will surely get in touch with a gynaecologist for further discussion.
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You are aged 30 now,it appears that neither you have not yet read standard sex books nor consulted your friends about sex matters before getting married.It is lapse on your part.You got married two weeks ago.Already spent first night with your wife.Please let me know,the problems faced by you.Could you penetrate much you could stay without ejaculation.You are getting hard erection,it is good sign.If you do sex on safe days condom is not required.You may use lubricated ultra-thin condoms.It will give natural feeling.
answered Dec 27, 2016 by Motilal (6,690 points)
commented Dec 27, 2016 by mialima (120 points)
edited Dec 27, 2016 by prashant69
We usually have foreplay which includes oral sex and I can last for 20-30 mins. I was never able to penetrate her since the moment I put on the condom, my erection goes away. I have tried  ****** thin and had the same result.
commented Dec 27, 2016 by prashant69 (7,010 points)

mialima,We do not allow mentioning of any brand or product name as it amounts to the promotion for the same.

commented Dec 28, 2016 by Motilal (6,690 points)
Decrease the duration of foreplay on your penis and you may use contraceptive cream.
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Don't worry much, this is just temporary problem. Try to njoy sex without condom. You may consult a doc, if you wish. But it's normal for beginners
answered Dec 27, 2016 by SamRin (755 points)
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if you are having problem having sex with condom it's just a psychological problems at first ask your wife to have some contraceptive pills so that you can have sex without condom after you start sex for few days you can switch to condom also.
answered Dec 29, 2016 by neeraj123 (1,560 points)

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